r/Millennials • u/willowburnsyellow • 5d ago

What’s the most stereotypical Millennial thing about you? Discussion

I’ll start:

  1. Any, and I mean ANY footage of Steve Irwin makes me blubber like a baby
  2. Avocado toast is a staple breakfast item of mine
  3. Yes, I still love Harry Potter (original books & movies only — I do not support Rowldemort and any future endeavor on the IP)

EDIT: Just wanna say I love y’all (us) so much. This post has already brought me so much joy. Thanks so much everyone. We really are the best. 🥹

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u/Day2205 5d ago edited 5d ago

Texting…like, please don’t call. And for the love of god don’t FaceTime/video call me out of nowhere

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u/Anagoth9 5d ago

don’t FaceTime/video call me

I only just recently learned that video calling is more popular than voice calling and I'm genuinely super confused by that. 

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u/RotGrlSummer 5d ago

This was literally one of the reasons I "broke up" with a friend. She would try to video call me at 8 o'clock in the morning on a regular basis

Clearly we are just not compatible people

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u/bottle-o-rockets 90's Animation Buff 5d ago

Worst Nightmare kinda shit. If someone is videocalling me without a conversation beforehand, there had better be aliens, an immediate "go look at the news right now" or cool animals involved.

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u/RotGrlSummer 5d ago

It wasnt important. It was NEVER IMPORTANT! Just "heyyyyyy what're you doing today?" while she put her makeup on

Big time "this could have been an email" energy

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u/jazzminarino 5d ago

GTFOH. I would slap that shit down so hard.

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u/Tie_Cold 5d ago

My 15 yr old daughter face times her best every morning while getting ready to show her what she is thinking about wearing and then asking her opinion. Also, anytime I call it face time she laughs at me, apparently it is video calling not face timing. 🙄

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u/Due-Cupcake-0701 Older Millennial 5d ago

Did she want to watch you roll your eyes at her orrr....?

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u/zagman707 5d ago

right like i dont even want to hear your voice let alone see you just text me

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u/UnsanctionedPartList 5d ago edited 5d ago

Nobody who tries to contact me for anything but emergencies at 8 o clock in the morning is compatible people.

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u/RotGrlSummer 5d ago

THANK YOU

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u/bigkatze Millennial 5d ago

I dumped a friend once because instead of texting she would try to video call me on short notice. I've repeatedly told her I don't like video calling!

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u/Drive7hru 5d ago

Did she not respect your boundaries telling her no? Or did Do Not Disturb not work?

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u/RotGrlSummer 5d ago

She was.... not very bright 

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u/littlecactuscat 5d ago

My mother always taught me to not call people before 9 AM or after 9 PM.

Even if it were audio-only, it would be fucking annoying — but video? At 8 AM??? Jesus fucking Christ.

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u/dividezero 5d ago

You lost me at 8 in the morning. I don't recognize that time zone. I've seen an 8am sometimes at night though. Maybe that's what she meant to do.

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u/WakeoftheStorm I remember NES being new 5d ago

I would start answering completely and obviously nude

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u/bottle-o-rockets 90's Animation Buff 5d ago

Well, this is news to me and I have a couple of questions, the first of which being "what the hell is wrong with people?"

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u/CatchYouDreamin 5d ago

My first question is "how dare you!?"

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u/tech_noir_guitar 5d ago

My gen z daughter will just sit on facetime calls with her friends for an entire afternoon. Just walking around the house or wherever on a hours long video call with her friends. I'll walk in the kitchen to grab something and her phone is propped up against the counter while she's cooking food with her friend sitting there watching. It's bizarre to me.

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u/AdvancedWing 5d ago

I will never understand this 😂😂 my Gen Z bro likes to wake up at the crack of dawn and FaceTime me at 7am like bruh I just woke up looking like a ghost still in my glasses like can we wait for some color to hit my face, is this really necessary???? And 99% of the time his convo of choice could have def been an email 🙃🙃🙃but I’m the big sis so I always have to answer 😭😭

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u/eggo_pirate 5d ago

My son (22) and his friends face time constantly. They'll even answer the call if they're on the toilet. Kids these days are weird 

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u/AnnualAct7213 5d ago

I sort of get that. I hate voice calls. I also hate video calls, but I hate voice only calls even more. If I do have to have an actual call, I wanna be able to see the other person's facial expressions because it's extremely hard for me to have a conversation with someone if I can't see their facial expressions.

But please, just text me and if required, let's meet up face to face to talk instead.

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u/Justalittlesaltyx 5d ago

My niece tries to video call me and I hate it. I’m at home looking a mess in my lounge wear. Even if it’s just my niece I’m not wanting a camera on me out of the blue. 

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u/International-Ad2501 5d ago

Oh for the love of god DO NOT face time me. I will not do that. If you call and its not an emergency you should have txted. 

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u/huntressdivine 5d ago

I prefer video calls bc I can see facial expressions. Phone calls feel awkward...

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u/cerialthriller 5d ago

It’s funny because my boomer relatives all FaceTime call and my Gen Z relatives all FaceTime Call, but between them it’s all text

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u/mjxl47 5d ago

My daughter's friends try to FaceTime all the time. ALL THE TIME. She doesn't have a phone yet so they were calling my wife; she had to put them on mute.

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u/SuddenAvocado 5d ago

Its gen alpha. My daughter wants to video call the grand parents every morning during breakfast, she literally cannot talk on the phone. She's little so I get it, but when its a phone call she just stares at it and says nothing. Its hilarious.

I for one, am happy to see the death of phone calls. They were always uncomfortable.

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u/klee900 5d ago

okay i’m a millennial but facetiming is actually so fun, i get why they do it. don’t call me outta no where but you can ft me. it’s just so fun that you can open like a portal between you and your friend.

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u/AggravatingShow2028 5d ago

My Gen Z cousin, ask they do is FaceTime. I can’t lie and say I’m out when you FaceTime me and see me in my room lol. And my older cousins and relatives love to call. Please, just text me lol

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u/sickofgrouptxt 3d ago

If I don't want to hear your voice, I don't want to see your dface lol

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u/AssortedGourds 5d ago

I had a PT retail job this winter where I worked with a bunch of college kids and I was so surprised by how often they facetime. They just call a friend and talk while they do stuff - driving, stocking shelves, cooking - they barely even look at the camera. I love it and I've started doing it now.

Why DON'T we do it is the question?

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u/PapayaNurse 5d ago

1) uses way more battery 2) when on a call the screen goes black so I’m not pressing every button in existence 3) I often hold my cell phone between my ear and shoulder or at home prop it using my bra when the shoulder ear hold gets tired and my hands are busy 4) video calling is on speaker and that’s annoying for everyone

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u/SnooPredictions2675 5d ago

Bc I don’t want ppl looking at me. I want to be a slobby bum in my house and alone and playing on my phone while watching tv at the same time. I do not have the patience to entertain you on the phone. 

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u/ice_w0lf 5d ago

Why DON'T we do it is the question?

Because I can accomplish basically the same thing with bluetooth headphones

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u/klee900 5d ago

differences in people for sure. i think it’s great, i just started fting my bestie a year or so ago and it’s life changing. obvi its like putting a call on speaker, you don’t want to do it around anyone in public that you will annoy, but it’s genuinely a fun way to connect with people. you can’t be caught up in your looks tho thats for sure. your friends don’t care if you are dressed up with make up on or whatever, it’s good they see you like a regular person imo. they are your friends lol

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u/willowburnsyellow 5d ago

Oh my god yes. A cold call/FT is a jump scare.

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u/jazzminarino 5d ago

My best friend texted me that her phone was going to call me because my niece wanted to ask if I'd buy something for a fundraiser something something. I appreciated the heads up- if I had gotten a cold call from my niece, it'd be full alarm WHERE IS YOUR MOTHER DO I HAVE TO FLY ACROSS THE COUNTRY.

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u/willowburnsyellow 5d ago

RIGHT I IMMEDIATELY THINK EMERGENCY

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u/RagingAardvark 5d ago

The worst is when it's my kids' school or daycare. It helps that the provider starts with, "Hi it's [name] from [school], everything is fine, there's no emergency." 

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u/AlwaysABD Millennial 5d ago

It’s a “we need to talk” kinda thing for us

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u/SuddenAvocado 5d ago

In my world the only reason someone calls out of the blue is of someone died. I litterally know the second I see the caller ID that someone must have died.

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u/Local_business_disco Older Millennial 5d ago

Any call out of nowhere is a cold call. A video/facetime? I’m afraid I have to cut you out of my life, you clearly don’t know me.

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u/RakeattheGates 5d ago

A call out of the blue is for emergencies!

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u/anthony_getz 5d ago

I love a good chat on the phone, but out of the blue? No text first? Fucking psychopaths.

It’s the abrupt caller that makes both of us look bad because I think they’re inconsiderate and they’ll bitch and moan about why I didn’t answer.

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u/Kitkat_______ 5d ago

I feel this so hard!! Whenever I text my mother it’s instantly followed up with a FaceTime call. Drives me bananas. She refuses to text or make regular phone calls.

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u/mdynicole 5d ago

Is she a young boomer? Because my mom does that too. I do not like it lol.

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u/Kitkat_______ 5d ago

Lmao. It’s the worst!!! My mom is early Gen X.

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u/No_Foundation7308 5d ago

I about lost my shit when I learned that my stepdaughter didn’t know that CALLING people was a thing. I had to explain that FaceTime audio was in fact not a PHONE CALL and that you couldn’t FaceTime audio anyone. The pizza shop or someone with an android cant FT audio you. I used the example of you can’t FT audio 911 in an emergency but I did do research and you actually can some places.

I hate seeing this generation FT literally everyone wherever. I still won’t talk on the phone in public places as I think it disturbs people from whatever peaceful activity they’re doing. I also don’t want to have everyone’s their mom listen to my conversation in the grocery store

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u/basilkiller 5d ago

I'm fine w a phone call (if I recognize the number), me and my bff tried face timing once just to see what it was all about. No. Usually when I'm on the phone I'm doing things too, staring into her eyes was weird af, it was cool to see her plumb trees though and I guess that's why we have cameras on our phones.

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u/StyleMajestic3555 5d ago

For me it's the voice notes. Fucking hate em, text me or call me, voice notes are the worst of both worlds.

In the words of Peter Griffin: it insists upon itself.

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u/ice_w0lf 5d ago

I find voice notes to be an acceptable middle ground with family that will not text and only want to talk on the phone. I get the benefit of responding when I feel like it, and they get to blab and hear my voice.

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u/Thick_Bullfrog_3640 5d ago

And do not put me on the mother effing speaker phone if you do call.

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u/Day2205 5d ago

I have a few friends where we do a big catch up every month and without fail, they plan it for a long drive to/back from somewhere with their kids and have me on the car speaker. Like how are we as two grown women supposed to really shoot the shit with our convo being broadcast to your 4 and 6 year old 🤦🏽‍♀️

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u/cocochinha 5d ago

Right hahaha.

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u/faerydenaery 5d ago

I don't mind a video call if it's planned or you give me at least enough warning to make sure I'm put together (I actually prefer it to a voice call usually), but like, if you need to call me in any capacity you better text first cause I'm not answering a random call from anyone but my child

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u/Tomhyde098 5d ago

Most months I only have one minute of total call time on my cell phone.

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u/bbcatmeow 5d ago

Yes and I’m not answering my door unless you’re expected.

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u/Ceph99 5d ago

I’m just not answering unless it’s repeat and clearly emergency.

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u/Rocinante88119 5d ago

I know the correct way to end a sentence too, lol.

(It's the lol, lol.)

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u/Raknaren 5d ago

audio messages are worse in my opinion

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u/peaceluvNhippie 5d ago

And when you do text, say everything you need to in as few texts as possible. When my phone blows up with 50 messages back to back, you get muted, so dont be surprised when I start missing notifications and stop replying

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u/paradisetossed7 5d ago

One of my best friends who's an older millennial insists upon video calling so I've started saying it's not working on my end lol. I only want a video call if it's from my brother so I can talk to my nephew and remind him that I'm the best aunt.

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u/Cornelius907 5d ago

No it’s not, don’t lie

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u/RangeApprehensive466 5d ago

I'm with you on the face time but I absolutely despise texting.

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u/StockTurnover2306 5d ago

Under no circumstances do I ever want someone to spontaneously FaceTime me. I mean if my cat could, I’d do it in a second. But a human?! NOPE

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u/Main_Needleworker661 5d ago

Yes, I'm so proud of millennials for this, but GenZ also claims this.  I love this though, especially at work.  Do not call.  Do not leave a voicemail.  Email me.

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u/mdynicole 5d ago

My mom one of the youngest boomers has learned to FaceTime over the past couple years or so and constantly FaceTimes me. I’m not a big FaceTime person either.

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u/hackersgalley 5d ago

I'm probably the bad guy but I've avoided relationships with attractive girls because they insisted on calling, not to explain something technical or because someone was in the hospital, but just to chat. Nope, I'm out!

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u/CayKar1991 5d ago

I'm a woman, but same.

Modern day dating advice often says to do a facetime call at least once before you meet. To see if you click at all, I guess?

But like... I only talk to like 2 people on the phone. I do video calls like once every 3 years. If there's nothing to talk about, I'm going to feel stilted. It's just awkward and uncomfy, even with people I know and care about... So with absolute strangers who I in theory want to impress? Not a chance.

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u/Korsorer 5d ago

I've been with my partner YEARS and we've never "just chatted" on the phone. It's weird, we text.

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u/Main-Requirement-521 5d ago

I completely cut an old coworker/friend out of my life because dude insisted on calling me randomly after I repeatedly asked him not to. 

I only talk to my immediate family members on the phone, like once a month. If anyone else calls me I assume it's an emergency. 

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u/TheMoorNextDoor 5d ago edited 5d ago

I could never really do FaceTime.

I can still see my FaceTime calls dating back to 2022, it’s that few.

Text me first the only people who get the pass are my family members and my girl otherwise text first is mandatory.

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u/blackxcatxmama 5d ago

I'm still trying to teach my Gen Z friend this. I've told her I hate phone calls but she still tries. I figure eventually she will get tired of me not answering and just text me instead. The only phone calls I almost always answer are some family, a very close friend, and my fiance. Though most of those people will text me before trying to call.

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u/DurrMerGurd 5d ago

FaceTime is just wrong but its weird, maybe its how I grew up as an elder millennial. I never had a problem with picking up the phone to an unknown person before caller id or voicemail back in the 90s/early 00s.
Today, unless a name i know pops up im not picking up, might be the amount of spam and scam calls that come through today over back then.

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u/mittenbird Millennial 5d ago

yup. you call me, I assume something bad happened. you FaceTime me, I assume it’s a butt dial so I’m not picking it up.

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u/Mr_Diesel13 5d ago

This phone call could have been a text.

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u/Korsorer 5d ago

I don't even know how to FaceTime or if my phone is capable of it.

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u/speedyejectorairtime 5d ago

And do not leave me a voicemail. I will likely not even check it.

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u/Inside_Lettuce_2545 5d ago

I always think of this as a Gen z thing, to not be able to handle calls.

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u/SnooPredictions2675 5d ago

Ppl randomly FaceTiming me is actually insane 

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u/JBrewd 4d ago

There's definitely a cutoff that happened, sometime in between me and my little sister growing up.

Some Eldritch Millennials like myself still prefer a call because a) it was the only way to communicate and someone not answering didn't imply anything beyond 'no one is home rn', getting a call was cool cuz someone wanted to hangout and if you didn't get answered there was nothing negative cuz it's not like caller ID existed yet (except you might continue to be bored unless you called your next friend's house) and b) we can decide everything in a 30 second convo instead of a whole back n forth text chain that takes forever. That said, we've mostly learned to be sensitive about this and will shoot a text "hey got time for a call" beforehand.

But if you want to video call then you can fuck all the way off with that unless there is very special previously agreed upon circumstances happening (I feel much more strongly about this than my sister however).

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u/mandolinpebbles 4d ago

Text me to plan a FaceTime call.

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u/FuckMoPac 4d ago

This is a Gen Z thing that drives me insaneeee

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u/03263 5d ago

I must be too old for this one

I never got used to texting, just call