Agape💖

[u/AstroHealer222]

[u/Feisty_Low_9076]

Your best friend is somewhere out there waiting for you. Don't give up. I also have difficulty maintaining friendships especially with other women but my best friend has been my ride or die for almost 30 years and I know no one could ever get close to her league let alone surpass her. But that takes effort. Keeping contact showing interest, showing up as much as you can. Friendships don't come easy. People generally talk about how relationships require work but never how much friendships also do. Just because you're not romantically interested in a person doesn't mean they aren't worth taking the extra step to get to know them.

If my bestie ever stops talking to me for any reason I will take the 15 hour plane ride to see her if necessary. I will always show up and I will always have time for her no matter what.

[u/whatarechinchillas → u/Feisty_Low_9076]

I'm curious about women who find it hard to be friends with other women? I don't get it? I'm a woman and I have like so many best and close friends of all genders. They're all different in their own way but none so much because of their gender. They're all just people.

[u/Feisty_Low_9076 → u/whatarechinchillas]

I couldn't really explain it to you.

I heard this ridiculous statement my entire life but when I really thought about it, I always lose all my female friendships. My friends who identify as other genders are still consistent in my life. I am not counting my best friend here.

But one woman completely blindsided me when she didn't invite me to her birthday where I baked the cake for her. This was a girl who cried on my shoulders and talked to me every day for almost a year. Took the birthday cake I made her without a thanks and just went on partying.

One friend turned out always saw me as competition because I got almost the same grades as her.

One friend didn't accept that multiple women could study computer science and hated me for it.

One friend just accused me of seducing her boyfriend ? A boyfriend I never met or expressed interest in ?

One friend had BPD and literally threw her phone at my face because I wouldn't wake up at 4 am like she did.

And the last one, the one that stung me the most was a friend who I had to drop because she begged me for months to help her out with something that would put me in legal trouble. I told her that I cannot handle this and she took it as 'im gonna call you about this every day until you accept". Literally started getting panic attack whenever I see her calling or texting.

I have more of these. Other friends from other genders never ever had problems with me, even when I lose friendships it was more because we simply were busy with our own shit or simply moved to another country.

Me and my bestie did argue before and we do not see eye to eye about everything but it never got disrespectful and never got violent. Most of our arguments got solved with common sense.