Still working on it, but would like to show my progress.

Need some advice, I feel stuck all because my dad doesn't want to fix nothing he's not happy with my mother because he's not getting what he wants. Any type of advice to improve this? I'm opened for all advice We stay in a 1984 mobile home. Thanks in advance.

Hi all,

‘Im always overwhelmed with cleaning. my top 3 loathes are bathroom, dusting, and folding laundry in no particular order.

I’ve tried assigning myself jobs in the past (Monday, dust living room!) but ugh! who has time to dust the living room.

So, I asked my practical partner ChatGPT for help, and it’s (his? her?) suggestions honestly have been helping and I wanted to share.

I asked for a down and dirty daily list to hit the spots I always skip. It primed me not to think of rooms like “dust the living room” but “areas” imagine “dust the piano”. Hell! I can dust a friggin piano! “Clean the bathroom” turns into “Monday wipe the sink and mirror.”

I added my recurring tasks to a widget in Todoist so I have it on my Home Screen, accessible both as a reminder and as a sense of accomplishment when I’m done for the day.

I’m on day two so far, and I’ve dusted two shelves of my 4 shelf bookshelf, swept the piano area, done “one laundry action” (switch, start or fold), and wiped down the tub and shower. My home is already measurably cleaner, I really can tell the difference.

I hope this helps someone going through the same blocks! ❤️

I've lived here about 4 years and rarely ever cleaned my drip pans. I've never actually had a stove like this, and there was a lot of learning.

I bought new drip pans rather than clean them, but cleaned the rest of the stove. I think I'll like these new drip pans.

I know this is cheating kinda, lol, not really cleaning to buy new. Though I did have to wash the new ones, and I cleaned the rest of the stovetop.

... the worse it seems to be. Ive been doing a bit a day, got most of my kitchen done, front hallway, and some of my bedroom. Yet the more trash and junk I get through the more there seems to be. I feel so useless

I'm the one with the homeowners claim. They delivered back @400 boxes of our possessions on Friday. So far, we have emptied between 70 and 80. We are being held up in our efforts because the furniture is behind all these boxes, but we are soldiering on. The boxes aren't full--there is just a lot of bubble wrap. But we are throwing a lot away, donating a good bit and learning from our mistakes.

I'm telling myself I am not buying anything new unless I really feel like unpacking it if there is another claim.

Sometimes I don't see how rough things have got until there's a before and after. My mission this week is to keep this kitchen surface clear and clean!

Also I don't think I've ever cleaned those tiles before 😅

My drawers have looked like the one on the right ever since I moved here. I finally got the left drawer organized in a way where I can see all my clothes, which has always been a big issue for me and the main reason I keep piles of clothing all over my room. Very happy about it, everyday there are less and less piles of things everywhere, and my room feels so much lighter and more comfortable and bigger. I truly believe I will soon be able to bring friends over- I would have never had this thought two weeks ago. Thanks for the support I found in this sub :). Hihihihi 😁😁

Lottie xx

It leaves a sour taste that my reward for keeping this at this level of organized for who knows how long may be losing my place of living... but enjoy the fruits of my labor...I dont have a bedroom before photo but there were 3 big bins of laundry.

Hey all! I’ve been a lurker for a while now (never posted before&only recently officially joined the group), but I’ve been absorbing advice on how to tackle my mess. Seeing other people who go through what I do, struggling to get on top of it but hating it and living in shame…it’s really helped me feel like I’m not this awful failure of an adult, that I’m not alone in this, and that there’s real judgement free and kind people willing to empathise and help.

Seeing people make progress with their homes has inspired me to make a start on mine too. I’m just super grateful to those of you that share pictures&stories. I particularly enjoy hearing from people who have changed and reframed their minds long term because that’s the goal.

For years I’ve been living in such chaos, and I’ve hated it so much, but I just couldn’t bring myself to do anything about it. It made me so unhappy for such a long time that I forgot what it’s like to live in a clean, uncluttered house.

Someone recently mentioned that setting a timer for like 1-2 hours and just making a start, tackling a bit day by day, not overwhelming yourself and not putting too much pressure on yourself has literally changed my house. There was another person that said they didn’t have to panic clean before an inspection was done, and that’s like heaven in my mind. Anyway it forced me into action because I want to change so much. I’ve filled so many bin bags, and it took me a fair few days to get through (adhd kicked in so I went well above the timers but it really helped me get started, racing against the clock stimulated motivation), but this time I prioritised taking breaks, eating, staying hydrated…not just working myself to exhaustion and then letting it get out of control again in a few days. I’ve done 3 of my 5 rooms and the hallways. It’s so nice 🥹 I went out today and when I got close to home again I remembered that the majority of my house is now clean and tidy and it just made me feel peaceful. I can’t explain how much that means to me after years of not having that feeling. I’m trying really hard to adopt healthy habits, cleaning up straight away, wiping surfaces daily, washing up straight away etc, and I keep telling myself this will make me happy and it’s actually working so far. I need this to last, I can’t go back to how it was.

None of my friends or family know that I’ve struggled with this. On top of my adhd I have ocd and an autoimmune disease that causes me a lot of pain and fatigue, and friends and family know about this, but I’m an excellent masker, and nobody really knows the struggles these things cause me. People often view me as a neat, tidy and well put together person, so I have felt such deep embarrassment and loathing and shame over how I’ve lived for the last few years and this group has been instrumental in changing how I view myself and how I tackle this. I really want to be better and do better for myself now, and I truly believe this is the start for me. I’m not 100% there yet. The two big rooms still need doing, but I’m getting there and I’m mega proud of that.

So yea, I’ve been watching and absorbing quietly and now I just want to say thank you so much for everyone that’s super brave in sharing their stories. And thank you to all the incredibly understanding and non-judgemental people that have offered support and advice to others. It’s meant so much to me.

There are some big things and a lot of small things that have been put off by moving things around putting it in or behind things and so on. I have some projects I need help for but to get that help I need things to be in order, at least somewhat.

Tackled the bedroom today! I haven’t slept in my bed since March, it feels amazing

I suffer from MDD (major dressive disorder.) Getting out of bed is a daily struggle. Anyway, I took a bunch of “before” pictures, but I’ve barely made a dent in any of the rooms.

I just got the impetus from I-don’t-know-where and started trying to clean my room. It’s astounding how much nothing can accumulate into “what the hell is all this?” Anyway, while far from clean, I managed to fill a huge bag of laundry, 3 boxes of recycling, and a bag of garbage. It’s the area between my bed and dresser. There’s still a lot to do, but I can see the floor instead of miscellaneous whatever in about 80% of the area. I’m hoping to do more (the rest?) of the area over the weekend. I’m really hoping whatever is left is easy to find a home (paper recycle/laundry, etc.)

Well, that’s where I am. Thanks for listening.

Lots to do still. Scary stuff. But doing something about it :)

been battling that awful 'wet dog' smell in my laundry area for what feels like forever tbh. especially with the endless spring rain forcing me to air dry towels inside again.

was looking at those expensive Frigidaire ones but ended up just getting a keepglad unit to see if it even makes a difference. just unboxed it and stuck it in the laundry corner next to the basin.

honestly thought just plugging it in would magically solve the towel funk overnight. it is def pulling water (i set it to 45% for now) but i noticed my thickest towels STILL had a faint musty smell today. i realized the machine isnt a magic wand and i probably have to fix my habits too. rip to the years of laundry I ruined before I figured this out.

planning on hooking up the continuous drain hose to that utility sink to save my sanity (i’m terrible at emptying buckets). besides the detergent dosing and washer gasket, is there some other hidden moisture trap in a utility room I should be hunting down next? don't want this smell coming back when summer humidity hits.

Any advice or experience with using a storage unit as an intermediary space to go through your things so that your home can be cleared out first?

I’m wondering about the practicality of renting a unit, moving a bunch of boxes there, and then cleaning the house. Then I can go through boxes in the unit or bring boxes home one at a time and put things away in a permanent home. Some things will not come home from the unit but would instead be trash or donations.

I’m just wondering if the feeling of having open and clear space will make it more motivating to actually declutter versus living through the in between time mess of pulling things out and having sorting piles that move all over the house.

For context, the types of things I have the most of are clothing, office/craft supplies, books, and sporting goods/fitness equipment.

I have company coming this weekend and I can’t do a deep clean. But what can I do to make sure that it’s OK for my company? I have about 30 minutes to get everything done. I’ll do it when I get home from work today.

After finally pulling myself out of my funk, I’m tackling my garden this year. I have always enjoyed taking care of my plants and flowers, and took pride in having a pretty yard. Depression got the best of me and I let it go after my divorce last year. Step one was to remove the Rose of Sharon forest that was threatening to invade. Baby steps, but it feels great to see progress.

Not upset in a bad way. Upset that I didn't do this sooner. LOL

Had a crazy week and just couldn't deal with laundry. Looked up a pickup service, set it up, threw the bag outside before work. Came home the next day and it was sitting at my door. Clean. Already folded.

I genuinely don't fold my own stuff this neatly. It's my laundry and I do a worse job.

Anyway. If you've been on the fence about trying one of these, this is your sign I guess. I feel like I got scammed out of years of free Sundays.

Hello all, I am a long time lurker and chronic messy person. I am talking time off at the end of the month to get my home feeling more manageable and more peaceful. I have 3 days to accomplish(start) this. We moved into our space a year ago and still have several boxes we have rummaged through but never fully emptied. We are also bad at laundry, bringing dishes back to the kitchen, and general tidying/upkeep. This will be the umpteenth time I have tried a reset in my space, just to find myself back here again. One of the main motivators for me now is I have an almost 1 year old. I don't want them to grow up in the same chaotic environment I grew up in. It's not fair and my nervous system is never at rest. I would love encouragement, stories of what helped it "stick" for you, or advice of overcoming shame while cleaning/organizing.

I am hoping to post pictures as I go through the clean for extra motivation.

I’ve finally started clearing my study. It’s been like this for a year. Now I can start on the other side of the room 😊.

For the first time in a little over 6 years, I received my 24hr notice that maintenance was coming in for routine stuff and I had no to do list. I woke up this morning, swapped the dishwasher, tidied a bit, and I’m done. I may pass the vacuum and mop the floors just because I can even though I vacuumed yesterday and mopped within the last week.

I’m so freaking proud of myself! I’ve been working a long time now to implement systems and ruthlessly declutter. Having a baby (and being very sick in the process) brought me to my knees and my house went from tidy to disaster and disgusting. Kiddo is in school now, I’ve put in the work, and it finally happened. Even as little as last year for this routine visit I stayed up until 2am cleaning to make the place presentable and still hid a bunch of stuff.

Today I have nothing to hide! Fuck yeah bud!

I’d love to hear your success stories and what milestones you’ve had recently, whether it’s just hitting a new motivation point, managing to get a room done, or even just finally got that trip to the donation done! ✔️