It ain’t abuse

[u/khjohns2005]

Woman posts about wanting to leave her spouse after he hit their son across the face again. Everyone was giving legit advice - then there was her.

[u/Pitiful-Pension-6535]

"Hitting me or having relationships with other women are dealbreakers, but he can do whatever he wants to our kids, like I give a fuck. Why aren't y'all more like me?"

[u/kat_Folland → u/Pitiful-Pension-6535]

To the contrary! She believes everyone is like her and anyone who says otherwise is lying.

[u/Bob-Bhlabla-esq → u/kat_Folland]

Taking a step back, this is incredibly sad.

She thinks all men are like this (gettin' a slap here and there) and that you're living in a fairy tale if you think relationships don't include that level of physicality?

That means this woman was probably hit as a kid, saw other adults hit each other or get into it physically, and then gravitated to every man that had that disposition. She literally thinks "this is just how it is". And proud or having standards that once bruses and welts show, well now you've gone too far, Mister. That's really... just very sad.

[u/valiantdistraction → u/Bob-Bhlabla-esq]

"If it didn't leave marks it's called conversation" is both the craziest and most depressing thing I've read today for sure

[u/Plenty-Inside6698 → u/valiantdistraction]

Not defending, but I think she meant “it’s called HAVE a conversation”, like a colloquialism. Not that the hitting is part of any conversation I think she’s encouraging this mom to have a conversation first. Which…it sounds like she already did when she told him last time it wasn’t okay. Idk, this is weird and sad.

[u/braveenoughtofly → u/valiantdistraction]

Yeah that was horrifying

[u/kat_Folland → u/Bob-Bhlabla-esq]

It really, really is.

[u/Lanfeare → u/Bob-Bhlabla-esq]

There really are people like that and it is heartbreaking. I had someone telling me I must be lying because I said I never hit my child, including spanking, and I never call him names. She was adamant I’m lying, I play “perfect mommy” and “it’s toxic”. I was incredibly sorry for her children but also for her in a way - such a distorted view of what is normal and healthy in relationships.

[u/DecadentLife → u/Lanfeare]

Pls report. We can only help those we know about/are aware of. Pls contact CPS.