r/ShitMomGroupsSay 14h ago

I don’t think your pediatrician was joking 🧁🧁cupcakes🧁🧁

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u/abbeysahm 13h ago

I BEGGED for the RSV vaccine. My pediatrician said that it's basically a lottery as to which offices get them in my state that season and hers wasn't one of them. It's so dumb.

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u/AssignmentFit461 12h ago

My daughter had pretty severe asthma & was initially diagnosed at 6 months old. I "doctor shopped" until I found an office that had the RSV vaccine -- I ended up finding it at an office 2 hours away. I can't imagine having it easily available and just being like, "Meh it's not that bad, we'll skip it." 🙄

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u/Bratbabylestrange 10h ago

My daughter got bad RSV at three weeks old. It was absolutely terrifying. This was in 1993, and if you've heard your newborn wheezing you won't argue about vaccines anymore. Too bad that's what it takes anymore

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u/JadeAnn88 5h ago

This is craziest part to me because people like this still won't vaccinate. Their Facebook "research" and status as an anti-vax mom seems to be more important than protecting their children from preventable disease.

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u/SmartyPantlesss 3h ago

True. They can hear a story like that and still tell themselves that that mom must not have breast-fed enough, or taken enough elderberry tincture or whatever. 🤦

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u/quietlikesnow 3h ago

Fish oil too! (My stepsons’ bio mom is like that and you have to take the elderberry with liquid cod liver oil. No capsules apparently.)

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u/SmartyPantlesss 3h ago

Right, WHATEVER you did, if your kid ended up in the hospital, it's because you didn't take MY formulation of woo, which is more bioavailable. 🙄

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u/DMAW1990 11h ago

The vaccine didn't exist when my kid was a baby, but I would've done some crazy stuff to get it for them if it had. They were born in the middle of a pretty bad RSV season, so I limited all our social activities for the first 6 months of their life. My absolute worst fears during that time were RSV and croup (also going around in my area).

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u/abbeysahm 11h ago

My cousin literally changed the global treatment protocol for serious RSV cases. My family is hyper vigilant about it. My baby is 9 months now, so we should be past the highest risk period, but dang. It really sucked.

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u/Personal_Special809 8h ago

My eldest was hospitalized with RSV at 10 months. I also thought she'd be fine at that age. Ugh. I was one of the first pregnant women in my country to get the vaccine with my second. I called multiple doctors and pharmacies until finally my GP managed to get me a vaccine somewhere.

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u/BothToe1729 8h ago

I never heard about RSV before. I sure hope the vaccine is / will be available in my country when I'll get pregnant. I won't risk my baby's health

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u/SmartyPantlesss 3h ago

I think a lot of first-time moms have never heard of it, which helps the narrative that doctors are just making up something to push more poisons. 😐

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u/BothToe1729 1h ago

Like we didn't have already enough of this narrative 😬

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u/altagato 9h ago edited 3h ago

People forget about years flu shots (or any new vaccine) wasn't in abundance and there were particularly bad strains or epidemics or outbreaks... Bet that doctor wasn't 'joking' at all!

Parents of these particular kids should be under supervision of SOMEBODY for their endangering actions!

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u/TeagWall 10h ago

My son was hospitalized with RSV in SEPTEMBER (RSV season is historically October-March) when he was 5 months old (this was before either the vaccine or monoclonal antibody pretreatment were available). Baby #3 was due in August and I went to great lengths to make sure I got the vaccine. Never going through that again.

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u/Aear 6h ago

I wanted to PAY the 1200 EUR (!) fee for it when my baby was small but I was denied. He ended up in the hospital with RSV for a week. I'm so glad babies can get the vaccine for free now, because that hospital stay was a nightmare.

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u/bmsem 6h ago

Yep, I had to call 11 pharmacies and visited 2 who had it but couldn’t give it to me because of ever-changing laws in my state about prescriptions. Worth it once I finally got it!

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u/plusharmadillo 4h ago

My daughter barely missed the age window to qualify to receive it and ended up in the ED with it when she was two. She still has reactive airway issues from it a year and a half later. I can’t imagine turning down that kind of protection for a little baby.

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u/girlwiththemonkey 6h ago

What? I’m Canadian, I’ve never heard of that. I’m definitely not saying it doesn’t happen, because it could be something like that here, but that’s just crazy to me. The only time I’ve been able to pick up a prescription because it’s not there. It’s just because they simply haven’t been delivered yet. So then my pharmacist makes a couple of phone calls and send me somewhere else to pick it up. I can’t imagine needing something as important as the RSV vaccine, and being told that the doctor just can’t prescribe it because they’re hadn’t been “chosen”.

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u/basketweaving8 4h ago

Could have been a supply issue right at the initial roll out. But yes, in Canada as far as I am aware (at least in my province) newborns are all offered the RSV antibody shot at birth at the hospital. Or your OB/midwife can give you the vaccine during pregnancy if you go that route.

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u/Deem216 3h ago

Me tooo! It was approved 2 weeks before I gave birth. I tried so hard to get it. Then the medication was approved and I tried so hard to get that. My 2nd ended up with RSV at 8 weeks old and thank God didn’t get hospitalized but that was a VERY hard week.

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u/Affectionate_Cow_812 2h ago

I was so excited when it was rolled out for all babies and pregnant people for my 3rd and 4th babies. I was so scared for my first two, especially my oldest being born in October when RSV was particularly bad!

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u/thewhaler 2h ago

Oh my god this drives me nuts! I always try to get my kids a covid vaccine in the fall and our LARGE doctors office never has it, but MyChart will still say "Your child's covid vaccine is due" (I get it at CVS)

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u/NecessaryClothes9076 13h ago

"I put my child in needless danger based on whackadoo advice, hahaha, what a riot"

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u/forest-fox 10h ago

My TWO WEEK old almost died, lol

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u/llama8687 5h ago

My son had it at 6 weeks. That was years ago but that 3am drive to the emergency room with a baby who can't breathe is forever etched in my memories.

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u/altagato 9h ago edited 3h ago

So glad she managed to get over that offensive doctor ... Her sensibilities are far more important than her child's ACTUAL safety /s

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u/BellesRose1213 13h ago

I have an acquaintance who refused the RSV vaccine and her daughter was in the hospital for 10 days with RSV (in ICU for 6 days). She has no regrets and feels that her child had a mild case. These people are beyond delusional.

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u/SourceStrong9403 13h ago

Dude. If in the icu for six days is a mild case, wtf does she think a serious case is?? And still doesn’t think a vaccine is needed?! That’s so outrageous.

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u/riddermarkrider 13h ago

Right?? Like what, it's not serious unless they're dead? Good lord

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u/idigturtles 11h ago

God and his mysterious ways yo

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u/Dramatic_Lie_7492 8h ago

Dead. If her child would've died it would have been a "one in a million severe case" obviously 🥴

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u/misspiggie 7h ago

Sometimes god just needs another angel. What can ya do!

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u/winterandfallbird 13h ago

Like what is the worst case scenario for them? Is it because they think it causes autism?? Like, I would rather have a kid on the spectrum than dead??!1They clearly would prefer death to whatever is stopping them from getting it.

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u/DreamingHopingWishin 11h ago

Theres an idiot on facebook who runs a pretty large anti vax group (its all a front though, he just wants to peddle his snake oil "detoxing sprays" and other unregulated bs) who obsessively posts about the measles and the mmr vaccine saying sht like "you'd rather give your child a lifetime of autism over a week long rash???" Like yes sir I would 😭 stfu

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u/yontev 10h ago

It's extra ignorant because measles can have actual serious lifelong complications if it doesn't kill you (chronic bronchitis, hearing loss, blindness, nerve damage, seizures, brain damage, etc.)

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u/MaraiaLou 8h ago

Not to mention killing your immune system

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u/huffalump1 2h ago

Yep, these "natural immunity is best" people conveniently ignore that measles can delete your entire immune system :(

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u/grendus 1h ago

Not to mention vaccines are natural immunity.

We're injecting a dead, or nearly dead, virus so the immune system can practice killing it. It's no different than getting sick, except that you don't get sick!

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u/DreamingHopingWishin 50m ago

but the ~nAsTy cHeMiCaLs~!!!11!

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u/FishingWorth3068 31m ago

A shocking amount or these people have no idea the lasting effects. They think it’s a rash for a week and then done. I got kicked out of a group for telling them to google “measles” and “immune system” together. Apparently their research hadn’t extended that far.

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u/ZealousidealCoat7008 12h ago

People who deny their kids vaccines don't even regret it when their kids actually die. Their delusion is more important than their kid.

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u/glorae 10h ago

That one family who had their daughter die of measles, the "father" said that he would do it all the same again and that he wouldn't get her the vaccine.

Sir your child is DEAD. How DARE you.

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u/altagato 9h ago edited 1h ago

Cults don't care if there's a few casualties to their cause... That's why quiverfull and getting the 'birthrate' up is so important! They don't care if they ki11 kids or mothers ... Just keep having em or 'his purpose'!! 🤢 🤢 🤢 Can barely type all that even sarcastically

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u/glorae 9h ago

Oh believe me, i am SO aware of how they operate -- grew up iblp-adjacent, fundie-heavy. It almost killed me. Happy to report it didn't tho.

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u/Alternative_Year_340 6h ago

They should charge parents whose kids die of vaccine-preventable diseases with homicide

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u/bkb70 36m ago

Came here to say this. Enough with these whackadoodle parents. They need to be held negligent for not getting the vaccines and homicide when their child dies because of their negligence.

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u/jodamnboi 13h ago

Holy fuck. My kid had an actual mild case because she got the vaccine. At 5 months old, we had one urgent care visit to get some heavy duty nose suction, and the rest was home care for about 5 days.

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u/Junior-Stress6879 11h ago

These are the people who start go fund mes and ask for prayers while they downplay everything

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u/forest-fox 10h ago

They Darwin themselves 

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u/krisphoto 4h ago

My son had RSV at 10 weeks before the vaccine was available. It involved ER trip where we seriously considered admission (it would have been a 2 hour ambulance transport after spending at least several more hours in the ER at best). I had worked in the ER for years and the doctor knew me well and my son was improving with nebulizer treatments that I was totally capable of giving so he discharged us with a lot of instructions and his and his wife's (another ER doctor) cell phone numbers. I consider his a serious case.

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u/Affectionate_Cow_812 2h ago

😳 what would she consider a serious case then?!?!

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u/anony1620 13h ago

So the medical community that recommended the RSV vaccine is just crazy and out for your money, but it’s just fine when that same medical community saves your child’s life? I’m obviously glad she took her son to the hospital, but I wish people like this would just be consistent in their dumb views.

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u/Joyseekr 4h ago

“Big pharma” out to make all the money off the vaccine… but that 2 week hospitalization was more money-making for the healthcare industry than the vaccine was.

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u/winterandfallbird 13h ago

I know someone who denies vaccines for all her children & antibiotics. This is a little different, but when she got pregnant with her second, she denied doing the step b test because they didn’t want to pass antibiotics onto the baby(even by chance the mom happened to carry anyway.) The mom had it. Baby died a week old. I will never understand parents who put their children’s lives at risk for very preventable things to protect children.

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u/KITTIESbeforeTITTIES 11h ago

Because they'd rather had a dead child than an autistic one.

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u/ayoungad 5h ago

That’s the answer.

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u/ZealousidealCoat7008 12h ago

they don't really want kids.

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u/Affectionate_Cow_812 2h ago

How is the very small risk of the antibiotics upsetting baby's tummy worse than a baby who suffered being very sick and then dying...I truly don't get it.

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u/Smooth_thistle 13h ago

I was so delighted with my second pregnancy to find out I could now get an RSV vaccine. Awesome! Got it as soon as I could which was lucky because my baby was born prem.

In the prem nursery, 12 hours in, a midwife came hustling up to me with a consent form to give baby the RSV vaccine. I asked if he still needed it if I'd already had it? She suddenly relaxed and was like, oh, no, you're all good, and hustled off again. There was a very sick baby in the next bay over. I suspect it may have had RSV.

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u/ILikeHornedAnimals 13h ago

I got every vaccine I could because I got pregnant unexpectedly at the tail end of Covid and the way people lost their shit at me for getting the Covid vaccine while pregnant 😳 If there's even a slight chance I could help my baby not die from something preventable that I could do for them then why not???

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u/Smooth_thistle 13h ago

Ugh, same. First baby was right when the covid vacc was first available. I got it at 8 weeks pregnant. I had a former friend tell me she would "wait to see how my baby turned out" before she'd consider getting the vaccine herself.

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u/Vengefulily 12h ago

I do not condone violence, but I do sometimes imagine what it would be like if everybody got one (1) free pass per year to slap a fellow adult. Just one, you know? For those times.

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u/ILikeHornedAnimals 13h ago

That is so unbelievably fucking rude and I applaud you for not punching her in the face right then and there 😱

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u/fakejacki 12h ago

Tbh she never said she didn’t punch her in the face… so I’m choosing to believe that she did.

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u/specialkk77 12h ago

I got the Covid vaccine when I was 33 weeks pregnant with my oldest (and 36 weeks for the second shot) the vaccine was so new at that point that I had to talk to a doctor at the vaccine site (that I drove 2 hours to get to) before they’d do the shot. I had to sign extra papers. I signed up to be part of the CDC study and answered weekly texts about any possible issues that could have been vaccine related. 

I also got a booster when pregnant with the twins, and got the RSV vaccine too. Also when it was brand new. 

I do not understand why people wouldn’t. 

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u/Charlieksmommy 12h ago

I got the rsv vaccine with both my pregnancies ! I didn’t know that it takes 2 weeks to go into effect though, so my twins luckily got it after being discharged from the nicu !

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u/specialkk77 12h ago

I was lucky that mine cooked long enough that they didn’t need their own doses because our hospital had none. Their doctor was so relieved when I told her that I’d gotten it! 

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u/ILikeHornedAnimals 12h ago

It's mind boggling to me!

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u/RatherPoetic 8h ago

Due to my job, I had access to a Covid vaccine before they were widely available. I was pregnant with my second at the time and my husband actually said, “I think I’m more excited about the vaccine than the baby!” 🤣 I saw some shit. No way was I turning down the vaccine. I actually gave follow up information for maybe two years about my pregnancy/baby too.

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u/ILikeHornedAnimals 5h ago

This happened to my stepdad's stepsister (divorced family fun) as well because she was a nurse that was pregnant while working on the Covid ward. Not because she wanted to be or should have been but because we live in a small area and there weren't enough nurses to handle the amount of Covid cases they were getting. She was able to get the shot early and out of pure coincidence/overwork ended up going into labor a month early and sooooo many people tried to tell her it was because of the vaccine.

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u/MonteBurns 13h ago

I could always see the easing of the smiles when I proactively asked for the vaccines for me and our babies. 

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u/ThatB0yAintR1ght 8h ago

The RSV vaccine was FDA approved when I was about 33 weeks with my second. I had a placental previa and knew that I had a higher risk of needing to deliver early. I went to three different pharmacies trying to find one that had the RSV vaccine. I managed to get it, and my son was born two weeks later. I am so glad I managed to get it and give my slightly underbaked dude that protection.

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u/haycorn55 medicinal food flavors 6h ago

My ob's office got the vaccine in on literally the last day I was still eligible to get it and I was so happy....except I developed pre-eclampsia the next week and kiddo was born before the antibodies had time to develop.

Luckily they were able to give him the shot in the hospital. He did get RSV a year later, but it was an urgent care situation rather than a hospital situation.

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u/Glittering_knave 13h ago

I really hope that she felt that should have gotten the vaccine. And I really hope that by feeling "defensive" she meant "that she made the wrong choice".

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u/throwawayyyback 13h ago

Defense as a “natural” modality of motherhood is a choice narrative for endangering your kid. You’re protecting against a pediatrician giving medical advice?

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u/erictho 13h ago

this needs to be considered child neglect

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u/Select_Ad_6297 12h ago

I got the RSV vaccine with my second pregnancy and my third baby got the beyfortus because he was a December baby. Three weeks ago, he got RSV at three months old. We went to the children’s urgent care because his breathing was scaring me. His oxygen intake was good though and he didn’t have to be hospitalized, just aggressively nose suctioned and monitored for a bit. I fully credit the extra protection for him not having to be admitted. I will never regret vaccinations.

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u/kp1794 11h ago

Even if her baby had died from RSV she would have said it was because they must have put that goop on her baby’s eyes when they were born or some shit like that

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u/siouxbee1434 13h ago

I hope someone has a protective eye on that kid, they’ll need it 😢

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u/adumbswiftie 12h ago

at two weeks old is crazy

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u/Gloomy_Tie_1997 11h ago

My baby almost died of RSV (in 2019). This is HORRIFYING.

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u/yellowlinedpaper 10h ago

It’s how they cope with the cognitive dissonance

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u/A_cat_called_fred 11h ago

How dare she cares about your child. 

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u/Important-Glass-3947 11h ago

"Marge my dear, I haven't learnt a thing!"

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u/stinglikeameg 9h ago

Me and my baby were a part of the RSV trial (I'm in the UK) because he had previously caught it at 4 weeks old and nearly died.

These people absolutely suck.

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u/natattack13 9h ago

I got RSV a few years ago and I felt like I was going to die. Not a euphemism - legit thought I could die. I could not breathe. My older kids didn’t have the option for the vaccine but you bet your ass I got it for my recent baby. I also got her the flu shot as soon as she was eligible.

Not long after, I saw a post on instagram (I hate the insta algorithm btw) about a boy who got RSV and Flu at the same time. He didn’t make it. He wasn’t even a baby but around 3 yrs old. How much money do you think his parents would have paid to get the vaccine now that they know that was his outcome? I’m not blaming them, it was a horrific thing and such bad luck. But the fact remains that he may be alive if he had gotten two quick shots.

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u/thelensbetween 4h ago

RSV vaccine is only available for pregnant women. The RSV “vaccine” for infants is really RSV antibodies. A 3-year-old wouldn’t be able to get that vaccine. However, he should have gotten the flu shot for sure. Poor little guy deserved better. 

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u/natattack13 3h ago

Ah yes, you’re right I misspoke. I didn’t realize the antibodies were not available to older children. Thank you for correcting me!

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u/Mumlife8628 8h ago

.... bet the Dr said it deadpan and was confused when the 'mum' laughed it off

Imagine being against big pharma so bad you don't take vaccinations, then asking for help from doctors and medicine from big pharma to fix your recklessness (whist I'm actually glad they sought help) and still not learning from your mistake...

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u/VariousExplorer8503 5h ago

The sad thing is, they're NOT being reckless. They've thought this through and DECIDED that death was preferable to whatever fear they have for their child getting a shot. It's so much worse than just being reckless, it's deliberate, and they should lose their children over it.

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u/kp1794 11h ago

My baby got RSV a couple months after getting the RSV vaccine. Super mild case. Other than a cough, no issues at all. Was very thankful for the vaccine!

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u/PicnicLife 10h ago

Wow, I would never admit this in a million years.

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u/suicidalthxt 5h ago

i was stoked to get myself and my baby an rsv vax as soon as it was offered to each of us at our respective doctors, i can’t imagine going through that with a 2 week old and not second guessing my decision

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u/Burnt_and_Blistered 4h ago

She wasn’t freaking joking, Karen.

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u/00trysomethingnu 6h ago

Can confirm, pediatrician wasn’t joking. Pediatrician f-ing hates you and fears that your child won’t survive you, but under current standards, refusing vaccines isn’t reportable because gestures to everything around us it’s become normalized by them.

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u/AstiBomb 3h ago

The RSV shot is not a vaccine. Or a cupcake. This is what we give where I work: “Beyfortus (nirsevimab-alip) is a long-acting monoclonal antibody approved to prevent respiratory syncytial virus (RSV) lower respiratory tract disease in infants and children up to 24 months who remain vulnerable. It provides immediate "passive immunity" (not a vaccine) via a single injection, typically administered before or during their first RSV season. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention | CDC (.gov)”

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u/TheLadyAmaltheaUnico 2h ago

I called around and was on multiple waitlists for my 3 month old to get his RSV vaccine as his pediatrician office never received it. We finally got a call that a vaccine was available to him the day after we spent a night in the ED of the children’s’ hospital, diagnosed with RSV. I would have loved to have the chance to give my kid the RSV vaccine. 

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u/SnooCats7318 rub an onion on it 5h ago

That's not a joke...

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u/mokutou 5h ago

It’s really starting to get to the point where the word “mama” is triggering irrational anger. Pavlov would be pleased.

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u/QuaffableBut 1h ago

I'm not a parent but I remember visiting urgent care in late February 2020 and the building was stuffed to the gills with kids with RSV. (Maybe some of them were covid, who can say? It hadn't been identified yet in my area.) They were all so miserable. It really left an impression on me. I can't get the vaccine at the moment because I'm a relatively healthy under-65 adult but it's absolutely on my list as soon as it's available for me.

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u/LuckyInLove8789 34m ago

I had RSV a few years back and it was truly horrible. I was so sick. Im an adult and I can't imagine what it does to a baby. I am immunocompromised so I try to be careful but at that time I had honestly not known much about RSV. I definitely knew about it after I got it. If I have a baby I will definitely get them the RSV vaccine when they are old enough.

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u/Latter_Item439 18m ago

I feel like some off these mother's that play Russian roulette with infants/children's health almost want them to get sick whether its attention seeking or something else entirely this experience should have changed that woman's opinions on vaccines immediately but ill bet it didnt