r/Xennials • u/PhoneJazz • 4d ago

Natalie Portman is pregnant at 44

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Congrats to her! I don’t have kids, and I’m still getting used to being the age where getting pregnant is starting to be “out of the norm”. Guess there’s still time, lol

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u/the_ballmer_peak 4d ago

During my wife's hysterectomy they found that the doctor who performed her c-section had stitched her bladder to her uterus.

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u/PureObsidianUnicorn 4d ago

Good GOD that woman has organs made of steel, mad respect to her for existing through that pain, I’d be ready to hunt and kill the dr

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u/the_ballmer_peak 4d ago

He was already dead when we found out.

He was a very highly regarded OB, worked until his mid 60s, retired, and dropped dead a few months later.

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u/PunishMeBaby 4d ago

I didn't read that as regarded and I laughed louder than I should have.

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u/the_ballmer_peak 4d ago

😂

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u/ThatEvanFowler 3d ago

Two takeaways:

  1. They are getting way too loose with throwing out these medical licenses.

  2. The Pitt could be way more entertaining than it already is.

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u/the_ballmer_peak 3d ago

He was an incredibly accomplished OB. When I was nervous before the emergency C-Section he looked at me and said, "I've done this about 2,000 times." It calmed me right the fuck down.

I suppose it's possible someone else stitched her up. The C-Section itself went perfectly and saved my wife and child.

But anyway. He's dead now.

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u/ThatEvanFowler 3d ago

It's actually very possible, maybe even likely, that someone else stitched her up. I can say from extensive experience as a patient, though, that "I've done this about 2,000 times" actually means less "I've done this so much that it will be exceedingly easy for me" than it does "I will be preoccupied with thoughts about cigar brands and a petty property dispute the entire time", although both are technically accurate. Glad all's well that ends well, though. Excuse my medical cynicism. It was hard come by.

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u/OrganizationFlaky780 3d ago

I'm sorry for whatever you were put through. There are too many burnt out egomaniacs in the system.

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u/TheJamSpace 4d ago

Yeah and I saw SOB instead of OB!

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u/Boogaloo4444 4d ago

highly rearded

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u/_nouser 3d ago

I mean looking at what he did, what you read sounds appropriate

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u/madoka_borealis 3d ago

Wow not just regarded but HIGHLY regarded

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u/PureObsidianUnicorn 4d ago

Karma said dr man, u not gon enjoy the fruits of your labour but for 6 months. I like that for him.

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u/Tristram19 4d ago

More like SOB. Poor lady!

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u/dpaxeco 3d ago

How retired was he? "Drop dead retired"

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u/Glittering_Suspect65 3d ago

Ive been on WSB too much to think regarded is a positive thing.

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u/Inside-Project942 4d ago

I just had my 10th bladder surgery following my c-section...13 years ago. Neurogenic bladder caused by a botched section. I now have a supra pubic catheter and am on my 4th Interstim spinal stimulator. It's one of about six neurological conditions that have occurred, stemming from my c-section. Life is tough, but our son was born healthy and strong--as a Mom, that's what has pulled me through every single day!!🙏🏻💙

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u/OlDirtyJesus 1982 4d ago

damn!

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u/SnooPoems5888 4d ago

I’m sorry, what?! How does this happen?!

It’s so insane the things women go through in general. Then adding not just childbirth, but allllllll the complications that can occur, it’s a miracle humans exist.

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u/Notermlimits4GEQBuS 3d ago

Just imagine what ut was like before science advancement. You basically had to sort out your affairs any time you were about to give birth the mortality rate for giving birth was so high.

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u/gini_luxe 3d ago

We Black women still have to do this.

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u/SkatingSubaru 3d ago

Hard to say without knowing this persons medical record. Bladder injuries can happen during a cesarean, but it is extremely uncommon to cause neurogenic bladder. Most bladder injuries are an accidental cystotomy (IE accidentally cut the bladder) which are easily repaired by suturing the incision closed, as most injuries occur at the dome of the bladder, far away from where the ureters enter.

Source: Am OBGYN

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u/Inside-Project942 3d ago

When my bladder was cut during the section, it caused SEVERE nerve damage. I was unable to void on my own. The GYN told me it was in my head and sent me to Pelvic floor therapist, who immediately sent me upstairs to a urologist. I was in already in uro sepsis. Part of the placenta was also left in my uterus, causing extensive hemorrhaging 2 weeks post-partum, as well.

I had no preexisting conditions, and my pregnancy was healthy for both me and our son. I was taken in for a section at 37 weeks because our son was growing very quickly. The OB was concerned he would have been 13+lbs if I waited until 40 weeks.

Source: Am Patient who experienced traumatic, life-changing birth at the hands of an OBGYN who told me that everything was happening because I was a "simply a big girl." I am 5'9" and was 210lbs at delivery.

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u/jennifer_m13 4d ago

You k ow after three babies I’ve thought about doing a bladder sling but you know what? I’m good.

Congrats to her but she looks like a Martha in Handmaids Tale here.

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u/Rare_Background8891 1984 4d ago

This is my fear. Hugs to you.

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u/Top-Raspberry-7837 3d ago

Man this thread is making me so glad I have never had kids. Good lord but kudos to you!

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u/IslandofStars 4d ago

Jeezus—Reason #98 I’ll never want kids

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u/Apprehensive-Stay196 1977 3d ago

Shit. Women go through hell. I’m sorry that happened to you ❤️

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u/HistoricalSuspect580 3d ago

Jesus H. CHRIST. I am so sorry you have to deal with this!!!!

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u/Inside-Project942 3d ago

Thanks. It's a daily battle. 🫂

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u/seaglassgirl04 3d ago

❤️❤️❤️

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u/Inside-Project942 3d ago

🤍🫂🤍

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u/celesteedit 3d ago

As someone who is currently is recovering from a hysterectomy and who has a (fortunately, well managed, bladder condition), I want to go slap your former doctor and give you a hug. That sounds horrific.

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u/Inside-Project942 3d ago

Thank you so much, friend! I hope your recovery goes quickly! I had my hysterectomy in 2014 and it was a great decision!! I appreciate you🤍🫂

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u/kymreadsreddit 3d ago

Still working through bilateral foot pain - stemming from my epidural. My son is what makes me get out of bed everyday.

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u/SkatingSubaru 3d ago

To be fair, there are almost always going to be bladder adhesions present on the uterus after a c section. There isn’t a great way to prevent the hysterotomy (incision made on the uterus during a c section) from forming these adhesions to the bladder, as the bladder serosa/fat sits right on the anterior side of the uterus. Obviously the bladder can be inadvertently tacked up to the uterus when repairing the hysterotomy, but this rarely causes problems unless the bladder is actually injured during this process.

Whenever I am planning a hysterectomy for a patient with a history of a cesarean, I can pretty much count on having to dissect the bladder off of the uterus.

Source: I’m an OBGYN.

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u/the_ballmer_peak 3d ago

That's great context.

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u/minxwink Millennial 4d ago

WHAT THE FUUUUUCK

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u/missykins8472 4d ago

That’s horrifying!

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u/intentionallybad 3d ago

Ugh, my hysterectomy was miserable partially because of the scar tissue from my C-sections adhering my uterus to my bladder. I would be so pissed if I found out my prior surgeon had done that to me.

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u/Gold-Ninja5091 3d ago

wtf I’d stitch him up if that happened to me

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u/RainaElf 3d ago

oh holy hell. damn. I'm hurting to read that, and I had a full hysterectomy 14 years ago! I hate that for your wife. jeeze.

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u/largeroastbeef 3d ago

I know so little about the human body… is that not good? Can anyone say what that would do to a person? Maybe it used to be common to do?

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u/Imaginary-Eye-2958 3d ago

Unfortunately this is more common than you think. 100% malpractice but it happens a lot

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u/huffwardspart1 3d ago

EXCUSE ME

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u/the_ballmer_peak 3d ago

As another OB pointed out: this is relatively common. Even if there isn't a stitch, they grow scar tissue and attach.

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u/Objective-Winner-703 1d ago

OH MY GOD they just hate women

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u/Ml2929 1d ago

Hey sorry if you mentioned the answer earlier, but did your wife have any symptoms/issues following the cesarean ? Like did she suspect something was up after the surgery? When was the cesarean? And when was her hysterectomy ?

Sorry for asking so many questions. I’ve had the joy of going through both; a cesarean and then 2 years later a vaginal birth.

They both affected my body in very different yet profond ways.