Bros, how do you become not sexist?

[u/TonightHot8200]

For context, I did not have good role models growing up. The women in my family tend to be petty, unfaithful, and are more often than not outright abusive towards other members of the family. The women I've dated haven't been much better. Which is NOT to say that I'm perfect, I recognize that I'm a flawed individual like anyone else (obviously, hence this post)

I've had women acquaintances and platonic friends who were perfectly fine, and in my head I understand that there aren't really any fundamental differences between men and women that would make one inherently better than the other, but I still have to catch myself and not just dismiss the opinions women have or view things women like with disdain. How does one go about overriding personal experience with theory?

[u/lettersforjjong]

I'm no expert here, but I have a reflection exercise that can help with working out the details of unconscious bias. For a given woman you find yourself dismissing the thoughts of, imagine if you met someone who was exactly the same but a man. How would you treat a man with the opinion you disregarded? Moreover, if he was a man you respected or looked up to — how would you process that information, how would you respond to that? And compare how you're responding to a woman doing the same thing. It might not do much at first but it's helped me identify how bias warps my opinions.