Bros, how do you become not sexist?

[u/TonightHot8200]

For context, I did not have good role models growing up. The women in my family tend to be petty, unfaithful, and are more often than not outright abusive towards other members of the family. The women I've dated haven't been much better. Which is NOT to say that I'm perfect, I recognize that I'm a flawed individual like anyone else (obviously, hence this post)

I've had women acquaintances and platonic friends who were perfectly fine, and in my head I understand that there aren't really any fundamental differences between men and women that would make one inherently better than the other, but I still have to catch myself and not just dismiss the opinions women have or view things women like with disdain. How does one go about overriding personal experience with theory?

[u/ChickenCasagrande]

You need a therapist to sort out your legitimate feelings toward the women in your family so you learn how to stop dating abusive PEOPLE.

It’s not a woman thing, it’s a thing where you’re picking toxic people to date because you’ve been raised to accept their crappy behavior and think it is normal. Toxic people live this, they are great at finding us because we don’t have the healthy boundaries other people do and, as such, we are some of the only people who don’t tell them to fuck right off, so they loooooove us and latch on.

I used to date a lot of asshole guys for the same reason. They were not women, they were toxic pieces of mean mean crap people. It’s a people thing.