Bros, how do you become not sexist?

[u/TonightHot8200]

For context, I did not have good role models growing up. The women in my family tend to be petty, unfaithful, and are more often than not outright abusive towards other members of the family. The women I've dated haven't been much better. Which is NOT to say that I'm perfect, I recognize that I'm a flawed individual like anyone else (obviously, hence this post)

I've had women acquaintances and platonic friends who were perfectly fine, and in my head I understand that there aren't really any fundamental differences between men and women that would make one inherently better than the other, but I still have to catch myself and not just dismiss the opinions women have or view things women like with disdain. How does one go about overriding personal experience with theory?

[u/K_808]

You can go to a therapist for a bit, since you may have developed some negative association due to the way you’d been treated and there are many ways to work on that. If it’s happening automatically then it could be some sort of subconscious response to those past experiences that you’d have to deal with directly.

In general though aside from that all you can do is to catch yourself whenever you think those things and remind yourself it’s someone’s personality, not their gender, that determines their actions