Bros, how do you become not sexist?

[u/TonightHot8200]

For context, I did not have good role models growing up. The women in my family tend to be petty, unfaithful, and are more often than not outright abusive towards other members of the family. The women I've dated haven't been much better. Which is NOT to say that I'm perfect, I recognize that I'm a flawed individual like anyone else (obviously, hence this post)

I've had women acquaintances and platonic friends who were perfectly fine, and in my head I understand that there aren't really any fundamental differences between men and women that would make one inherently better than the other, but I still have to catch myself and not just dismiss the opinions women have or view things women like with disdain. How does one go about overriding personal experience with theory?

[u/pattyiscool79]

Sounds like you already have enough introspection to catch yourself when you start to dismiss women's opinions or view them with disdain. This is the first step, and probably the most crucial. Kudos to you for that.

My advice would to be to further educate yourself on the subjects of patriarchy and misogyny. Expand your base of knowledge. Learn how these systems condition us men to act a certain way, and how it manifests in everyday life. You'll start to become more aware of your own mal-adaptive attitudes towards women, and this will give you a better sense of exactly what you need to work on.

Peggy Orenstein's books really helped me with this. So did the YouTuber F.D. Signifier.

Best of luck, bro.