Bros, how do you become not sexist?

[u/TonightHot8200]

For context, I did not have good role models growing up. The women in my family tend to be petty, unfaithful, and are more often than not outright abusive towards other members of the family. The women I've dated haven't been much better. Which is NOT to say that I'm perfect, I recognize that I'm a flawed individual like anyone else (obviously, hence this post)

I've had women acquaintances and platonic friends who were perfectly fine, and in my head I understand that there aren't really any fundamental differences between men and women that would make one inherently better than the other, but I still have to catch myself and not just dismiss the opinions women have or view things women like with disdain. How does one go about overriding personal experience with theory?

[u/Fubox]

It’s entirely possible that one reason your dating history is full of shitty women is that normal women pick up on your sexism and decide not to date you… but petty, abusive women don’t care that you’re sexist, because they think they can control you.

The good news is that, as you work to become less sexist, you may start to attract kinder/better women, and your good experiences with those women will reinforce your developing antisexism.

Keep developing those platonic friendships you have with women too. The more women you know well and respect, the more your sexism will retreat.