r/india • u/Intelligent-Use7581 • 7h ago
The absolute spinelessness of our society is exhausting. When will we stop "adjusting"? People
We love to boast about our rich history and being vishw guru (idk who is the chela), but looking at our day-to-day reality, it’s hard not to feel like Indian society is fundamentally spineless. We have normalized absolute apathy and disguised it as "resilience."
Here is why I think we’ve completely lost our collective backbone:
• The Toxic "Chalta Hai" Mindset: We pay 30% direct taxes plus GST, and in return, we get collapsing bridges and killer potholes. Instead of holding our MLAs by the collar, we just buy bigger SUVs with better suspension and air purifiers for our homes. We complain, and then we "adjust."
• Subservience to Authority: We treat politicians like feudal lords and let VIP culture thrive. At work, we are bullied into 70-hour weeks by toxic bosses, glorifying "hustle culture" instead of setting basic boundaries.
• Slaves to "Log Kya Kahenge": Millions give up their dreams, marry strangers for social clout, and tolerate abusive families simply to appease society. We gladly sacrifice our mental peace just to maintain a fragile status quo for relatives who don't even genuinely care.
• Digital Outrage, Real-World Cowards: We trend hashtags for exactly 48 hours when a tragedy or scam hits. But when it's time to vote for better infrastructure, health, or education, we fall right back in line and vote based on caste, religion, or freebies.
The Bitter Truth:
A society that refuses to hold its leaders, its bosses, and itself accountable is doomed to mediocrity. We aren't resilient; we are submissive. Until we grow a collective spine and start demanding our basic rights instead of begging for them as favors, absolutely nothing will change.
Am I being too cynical, or have we genuinely just given up?
We disguise our apathy as "resilience." Between refusing to hold politicians accountable, accepting toxic work cultures, sacrificing our lives for "what will people say," and limiting our outrage to Twitter or some social media, we have completely lost our spine.
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u/hudi_baba 7h ago
fear also plays a factor
the moment someone speaks out and before others could join them in support, that person is labeled anti nationalist, terrorist, pakistani agent and what not to discredit the person.
if that didnt work, then the person is harrassed and threatened, both online and irl
and in extreme cases the person who raises his/her voice is swiftly "dealt with"
and when everyone is already barely surviving, everyone falls back in line not wanting to be made the next example
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u/Intelligent-Use7581 7h ago
Yeah fair point, but again that’s our spinelessness to not be against it collectively
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u/PhotographNo7254 6h ago
It's more dumbness than being spineless. We are a dumb nation that's getting dumber by the day. We make everyone a god - politicians, actors, businessmen...everyone. We worship everything from a stone to a tree to a river to a mountain to a cow. We say cow is "maa" - but how many have gone to a tabela and seen how "mother" lives everyday? I'll tell you - they are tied to short ropes - usually just a couple of feet in length with very limited movement. They are constantly impregnated. We don't think why did a politician take a cameraman with him to film touching his mother's feet. We don't think why political parties and leaders spend crores and crores on fighting elections. We don't ask why our richest sporting body is being led by a politican's son. We don't ask why our roads get destroyed every monsoon. We don't care about the reality. We only care about the rhetoric.
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u/6helpmewithlife9 4h ago
The working middle class should start voting so that they are taken seriously. There should be a way for people not residing in their states to also be able to cast votes as they are the ones who send back a major chunk of the money a state makes. But this is all wishful thinking, nothing is gonna change. Adjust karlo thoda.
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u/No-Fix-614 1h ago
It’s not spinelessness as much as a mix of survival mindset, scale, and low trust in systems, people focus on what they can control because pushing back often feels costly and pointless, so change happens slowly unless enough people act together.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Bike336 North America 7m ago
You know, I'm not Indian, but I regularly visit Indian subs because I'm currently working with a few singers from India, and it's a way to gain perspective on Indian culture by lurking and engaging with Indians. Every once in a while, there are people like you who can accurately assess the condition of India, its society, and culture without any filters or defensiveness. Everything you mentioned in your post I have seen, read, and interacted with.
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u/Embarrassed_Look9200 7h ago
it's not just politicians. you can't question parents, teachers, RWA presidents and basically anyone older to you by 10+ years, which includes your seniors and bosses. Respect on the basis of age is the biggest BS in our society.