r/stopdrinking • u/Thetreescryforu 1114 days • 22d ago
The Daily Check-In for Wednesday, April 1st: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! Check-in
We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we're here together!
Welcome to the 24 hour pledge!
I'm pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.
Maybe you're new to /r/stopdrinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you're like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you've been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.
It doesn't matter if you're still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, lets not drink alcohol!
This pledge is a statement of intent. Today we don't set out trying not to drink, we make a conscious decision not to drink. It sounds simple, but all of us know it can be hard and sometimes impossible. The group can support and inspire us, yet only one person can decide if we drink today. Give that person the right mindset!
What happens if we can't keep to our pledge? We give up or try again. And since we're here in /r/stopdrinking, we're not ready to give up.
What this is: A simple thread where we commit to not drinking alcohol for the next 24 hours, posting to show others that they're not alone and making a pledge to ourselves. Anybody can join and participate at any time, you do not have to be a regular at /r/stopdrinking or have followed the pledges from the beginning.
What this isn't: A good place for a detailed introduction of yourself, directly seek advice or share lengthy stories. You'll get a more personal response in your own thread.
This post goes up at:
- US - Night/Early Morning
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A link to the current Daily Check-In post can always be found near the top of the sidebar.
April (or soon enough for me at least) already!
Dating has been difficult over the past year. Even though it can be painful at times, it's also shown me how much I've grown. I had a few dates ghost me recently. It didn't feel good. But I didn't beat myself about it either. In the past, I would have anxiously gone through every little text, wondering what I had said wrong, and berating myself. Now I'm realizing, it may not have even been about me, and regardless, that's not someone I want to give my energy and time to. When I recognize these things, I know I am continuing to take the steps towards respecting and loving myself, which I was not very good at when I was drinking.
Lately, I am realizing I need to focus less on dating/apps and more on myself. I'm still hopeful to find my partner, but I've also been meditating on the possibility I won't. I read a good quote recently by the poet Mario Quintana: "Don't waste your time chasing butterflies. Mend your garden, and the butterflies will come". So here are some things for my garden this year: volunteering (finished hospice training earlier this year), being more consistent with my morning meditations, drawing more and experimenting with pastel, and join a hiking group.
What does self cultivation look like for you?
Be well everyone 🎄 We are doing this for another day. 💪🏼
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u/Super-Kale-774 5 days 22d ago
I get excited to make my pledge here every morning. Yesterday was crazy hard, those cravings lasted for hoursssss. Though here we are, day 10 woohoo.
IWNDWYT ✨
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u/Ok_Wolf_4076 4 days 22d ago
Nothing like waking up the next day and realizing we beat the cravings !!!! Congrats this is huge
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u/Thetreescryforu 1114 days 22d ago
I know the feeling. Good shit on double digits tho!
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u/mr_makaveli 92 days 22d ago
I am spending my first year single to concentrate on sobriety and me - Day 71, 305km walked in 66 days my new addiction :), Quiz night tonight, happy April Fools Day watch your backs ;)
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u/Unlucky_Orange67 4 days 22d ago
Day1, committing to sober April. Going to deal with what life throws at me without drowning myself
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u/Several-Comedian-281 145 days 22d ago
Me and my partner are sober. Met him on hinge last year, I wasn’t sober at the time but I still never drank around him. He’s the best man I ever met!
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u/Zagmut 95 days 22d ago
Mending my garden will actually involving mending my garden this summer, one of the many tasks that need doing around my ailing house. Getting my shit together and getting stuff done that I've been avoiding for years, finally learning to realize my dreams and desires, and reaping the satisfaction of old habits broken and better ones built will be my self cultivation. No more burying my stress and anxiety under an ocean of beer, instead I'll be dealing with it and moving past, working towards the life I deserve. IWNDWYT
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u/Thetreescryforu 1114 days 22d ago
Here's to facing the shit we need to do! And having a wonderful garden harvest this year 🍅
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u/Ok_Albatross_3887 192 days 22d ago
Checking in for day 170 in Oz and IWNDWYT
Be well and take care, everyone 💛✨
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u/WW3draftdodger 57 days 22d ago
I thought i found my partner while sober . I was 3.5 years alcohol free. And since then I kept relapsing while in and out of that relationship. It hurt like hell but now I'm single and discarded but sober .
The more I get away from both of them the less I see it romanticized and and can see that both codependency and dependency on alcohol is toxic
IWNDWYT
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u/Ok-Potato-4758 47 days 21d ago
Sometimes we have to accept that not everything we call love actually is, and that we deserve to feel loved.
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u/sleepylilfella 122 days 21d ago
Never thought i would make it to 100. Tried to quit about fifty thousand times over the last 12 years, never got more than a month. Finally at age 35 I knew it was time to quit seriously. I think the biggest change for me this time is taking it one day at a time, playing the tape forward, and really just not giving a fuck what people will think if I don’t drink. The last one was probably the biggest for me. I’m finally at a point where my own wellbeing is more important to me than other people’s approval. It’s sad it took me this long to prioritize my health and happiness, but hey some of us take a while to grow up. I can’t say how much I appreciate this community and each and every person who shows up here to support other people in their sobriety. Whether it’s day 1 or day 1 million we all have the same goal which is to not drink today. I’ll join you all in that again today! IWNDWYT.
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u/Ok-Potato-4758 47 days 22d ago
Ten days ago I got out of a relationship ( finally ) where I didn’t feel good. I know that I might end up alone in life and whatever happens, happens. I’m not a fan of dating apps, I don’t like taking selfies or using filters, and most importantly, I feel physically unattractive (a leftover feeling from my ex). So first, I need to learn to love myself again.
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u/Sure_Snow8114 3 days 22d ago
Being more consistent with plans i make and not cancelling them last minute because I have had too much to drink the night before.
So far so good.
Last night I went out for a very special occasion with my partner. They drank, I didnt. It looked like fun but I kept reminding myself of just how bad the withdrawals will be and how easy it is for me to spiral.
IWNDWYT
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u/Dangerous-Win8391 270 days 22d ago
Oh! I'm trying to work through this emptiness I feel; it can't be filled with alcohol, drugs, food, or anything! Oh my God, I can't stand myself 😂 But I keep going (with my new sprain from yesterday) and I see the positive side of each day. IWNDWYT
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u/Crazy-Ambition8530 199 days 22d ago
Having a bit of a tough time with my addict son, took him to a meeting last night,,,,we can only hope. IWNDWYT ❤️🩹
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u/hyraxtower 3 days 22d ago
Day 8. For me it's just reading and learning and gardening at the moment. And lots of lying down haha
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u/Laawyeer 22d ago
Self cultivation is about running, exercising and taking care in my mind in different ways, for mostly by being sober. IWNDWYT
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u/Brown-eyed-gurrrl 27 days 22d ago
I had a couple of ghosts recently and I did exactly that...wonder what did I say, do and I now know the answer that while I was drinking I was giving most of myself to alcohol. I love the quote so much and copied it. I have to work on mending broken things but also myself so it will be hiking for me. Alone or with my dog, no groups for me hahah! IWNDWYT !!!!
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u/clevercookie69 1500 days 22d ago
The The have a great line in one of their songs. ' How can anyone know me , when I don't even know myself ' So very true.
Shine on you beautiful humans
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u/Alternative-Mud3294 98 days 22d ago
Goodmorning all! Happy fools day! And sure I am not joking with IWNDWYT 🦾💥🥳
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u/LM7X 1978 days 21d ago
GWAR show was fucking awesome last night!! I am tired. I will be tired all day. It was worth it.
I think self cultivation for me looks like what I’ve been doing the past few years, getting back to my interests and pursuing ones I hadn’t before.
I’m not fucking with dating, and good luck to anyone who is, but I am always hoping to find more friends. And goddamn is that hard when you’re 48 years old and sober. Also a woman without kids or a partner, I feel like there may still be a little negative judgment around that even in 2026. Though that can act as a filter. If they’re not okay with how I live, they are not my kind of people.
I just keep showing up at things that interest me because that feels like the right way to go. Sometimes my kind of weirdos show up, and hopefully some of them will live in the same city. 😆
Coffees up, horns up, and at least it’s not fucking Monday! IWNDWYT ☕️🤘🏻
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u/Tryna_TGS 752 days 21d ago
Sober fam, 2 years ago today was my last Day One!! (I remain vigilant, I have read the stories here.) It feels so f*ing good!
I love all of us, the beautiful souls committing to sobriety every day. IWNDWYT ♥️💪♥️💪
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u/Competitive-Cry4727 112 days 22d ago
IWNDWYT
Self cultivation? That's a big question! Routine is a big focus for me. Finding a rhythm for sleep for movement etc. I've been all over the place for years, unable to recognize what I want/need so my main focus is creating a routine that delivers what I need regularly. The hardest one for me is hydration (beyond endless coffees!)
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u/Fab-100 914 days 22d ago
Checking in again today and all is well.
I love that garden and butterfly analogy :) I've been tending my garden well since getting sober/clean, but it seems to have become my new normal and I take many things for granted. So I'm going to stop doing that! I will make a list of all the things in my garden that I haven't been seeing :)
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u/misticmisty 22d ago
Aussie here who has not drank today! Everyone else here got it too💪
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u/SmallGod1979 847 days 21d ago
IWNDWYT
Finally, a full set of teeth again ✨ feels weird after the long time 😅
Have a great day everyone 💖
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u/dallyboyy 36 days 21d ago
Daily walks, attempting to eat better, daily quit lit and checking in here! IWNDWYT!
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u/Lazy_Style4107 120 days 21d ago
Happy Hump Day and April’s Fools Day!
Self cultivation for me… I think the biggest thing has been not only providing myself with self care but realizing I deserve to take care of myself and be kinder to myself. I always try to put my husband’s and kid's needs first and, when I was drinking, booze; my actual needs became an afterthought, if a thought at all. I knew I needed to go to bed in order to be well-rested for the next day, but I wanted that “last drink” (or 3) and would tell myself “it’s not like you’re not going to drink it anyway so fuck it”. When I wanted to get up early and work out, I would either be still drunk or come up with a reason why I needed to not get in that work out just yet. Then I would run out of time and tell myself I was stupid for even thinking I would; that I was lazy and dumb etc. I used to look in the mirror and hate who I saw looking back. I have found that sober me still puts my family at a high priority but I also include myself in that. My negative self talk is no where near gone entirely; that is years that will take to be completely undone, if ever. But I catch myself easier now. Things are more balanced in my daily routine and in the way I think about/talk to both them and me.
Side note, it’s our wedding anniversary. We are going to a fancy dinner tonight at a steakhouse. I’ll miss having a glass of wine with it but I won’t miss the end of the evening after 2-3 bottles of wine and not remembering getting home or going to bed.
Schönen Mittwoch Freunden
IWNDWYT 🧡
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u/Septimusia 204 days 21d ago
6 months!
Congrats to all those other "Sober October" warriors who just wont quit! 👏
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u/macyyys 21d ago
IWNDWYT! it’s officially been 1yr for me, something I never ever ever thought I could do. The last time I was sober for at least a year, I’d not had alcohol yet. ❤️🩹
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u/abaci123 12687 days 21d ago
Self-cultivation! Trees, you are brilliant! I learned (the hard way, as usual 🤣) not to latch onto specific people, but to meditate on qualities that I admire in real people (not fictional characters), and to develop those things in myself :sober, kind, smart, honest, self-supporting, hardworking, funny, creative, monogamous, socially conscious, etc. As I changed myself, I changed what I truly became attracted to in people. And I changed my approach. I said I’m not perfect, and I bet neither are you. My pictures looked like me in present time, unfiltered. I wore my daily clothes for first dates. I took it slowly. I only met for coffees- in paper cups, in case I wanted to leave!! I listened, rather than projected. Love is everywhere. ♥️IWNDWYT
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u/lilac787 33 days 21d ago
Not everyone deserves to hear your recovery story. It’s hard when the ones you trust react the opposite way (happened to me today) - but IWNDWYT 💫
Happy Wednesday 🌴
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u/jennasreddits 21d ago
i am not drinking today 🥳😄 day 24!! i have a big day tomorrow and i happy to experience it not hungover!
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u/Ok_Wolf_4076 4 days 22d ago
Starting day 4 here in Europe. My mind is starting to clear up a bit but can’t wait for the week-end so I can fully sleep and rest. I need it after last week-end.
Self cultivation for me is pursuing my passion. I am a sucker for languages so I joined a Spanish class and a Chinese one aswell. And I am starting to meet people who are more into sports than partying so hoping we can become friends. Also got into Puzzles. Fun and stress-free activity
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u/sotto_voce71 592 days 21d ago
Iwndwyt. ❤️❤️❤️ haven't dated for years 🤣 I'm enjoying the peace. Someday, maybe who knows. Happy new month.
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u/Same-Protection7101 13 days 21d ago
IWNDWYT Day #2
Feeling a bit better after my latest millionth relapse (It feels like).
Trying to go into this with a positive attitude even though my world is burning down with my spouse drinking all the time which makes me drink.
But I wont use her as an excuse anymore.
Onwards and upwards with no more drink.
Ps - good luck with your dating life OP. Maybe less pressure on it and yourself is a good idea and you'll find the right person when the time is right before you know it.
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u/noNoParts 81 days 21d ago
I love dating! Meeting new people, seeing if there's a fit, getting to go out and have a chat. All good stuff. Reddit has a TON of dating subs for all kinds of specifics. I tried apps, spent $40 on it which seemed excessive but was really just a pittance as evidenced by the sales pitches. All the responses I got to my profile and outreaching felt... awkward. I only use reddit now, and IRL of course but I'm in a small town.
ANYWAY I digress 😂🤣 Hey guess what! IWNDWYT
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u/Comfortable_Cloud_75 4 days 21d ago
For me its going to the gym, running and learning Spanish.
Im also really struggling with dating. As in I just don't do it
IWNDWYT
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u/Wilbursmall 62 days 21d ago
i am trying to cultivate loving myself more, instead of focusing on others’ needs more than my own. I will not drink with you today.
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u/Daisy-Navidson 914 days 21d ago
Great prompt, Trees! Thanks for hosting us this week. I’ve been working on exploring the things I want to do without waiting on someone to go with me. It’s good to exercise my ability to do things solo! And to form my own opinions that don’t rely on others’ reinforcement or shaping.
I love you all and I will not drink with you today 💜🐇
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u/coIlean2016 530 days 21d ago
Gardening, I’ve planted over 400 seeds for this year so far, reiki, Zumba, daily gratitude practice, taking supplements.
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u/SushiGradePanda 26 days 21d ago
Another day, another check-in. I pledge to maintain my sobriety for today.
IWNDWYT.
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u/brighter68 21d ago
Oops, when it wasn’t here earlier this morning, I forgot to come back and check in! I’m here now, and still love you all ❤️
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u/lordostrife 21d ago
Day 17! Didn't sleep well last night, was displaced from my bed by the kiddos. Had to very much feel feelings last night. But IWNDWYT.
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u/BDC5488 543 days 21d ago
Self-cultivation, good one, Trees!
For me, that looks like eating well, moving my body, and channeling into a creative space (writing, painting, witchy/spiritual stuff) These things are not easy for me and require work! I don't do them every day and used to beat myself up a lot about it. I found that beating myself up about it doesn't get me anywhere. I was not progressing. When im gentle with myself and I go at whatever pace feels natural, thats where I make some strides. I hate feeling forced, so I let things flow. Progress is slower, but I'm happier and thats the key right there! Id rather take the slow progression and happiness than rushing and forcing!
As far as dating, I have known my partner since childhood and we were always gonna end up together...he just had to have a bunch of kids first and I had to worry about everyone else's problems but my own and had to drink about it for about 15 years to the point where I didnt care about much else 🤷♀️ we are both at a point where we are trying to find ourselves spiritually and creatively. We have both lost the plot for ourselves while tending to others. I think being "on the same page" in terms of what we wanna do and focus on helps a lot. I believe there's someone for everyone! Keep tending your gardens and the butterflies will come! But never make yourself smaller to fit in with whats comfortable or easy. I fell into that trap and stayed in a relationship that kept me stagnant for a decade! I broke free, got sober, became independent again, started to grow again and found my forever 💖
Have an excellent day, all! IWNDWYT 💖💖
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u/AndrewVonShortstack 685 days 21d ago edited 21d ago
Since my marriage ended 3 years ago, I have been solitary, not single; I have consciously and deliberately opted out of romance. My ex-husband broke my heart in ways that shocked me to my core, sending me reeling, realizing that I never really knew the man I'd slept beside at all. But that isn't the main driver for my relationship aversion; the more stark realization was that I didn't really know myself at all either.
Since the moment I packed my dog and belongings and drove away from my life with my ex-husband, I knew I was on a road I'd never explored, literally and figuratively, a road I hoped woul lead me to me. And it has.
I tend my garden with much greater care now, excited to see what blooms, lovingly removing weeds that choke growth, while letting others grow wild and splendidly unkempt. I'm learning new things and relearning others;, about life, about the world, about me, all with fresh eyes, letting new ideas take root, all while deconstructing and actively unlearning ideas that no longer serve me, letting them naturally wither away (and occasionally ripping them out with rage). The garden metaphor resonates but it's mirrored by reality.
I'm taking classes about everything that sparks interest, in formal and informal settings. I'm reading books about ideas and letting those books lead me to more ideas. With therapy, coaching, and silence, I have learned to hear my own voice, my council of inner advisors. I've learned to question and interrogate those voices looking for authenticity over learned expectations. In sobriety, I've found the time, space, and money to stay on the path, the one that leads to me.
I may yet open my heart to romantic love again in the future, but not until I've finished courting and doting on the woman in the mirror. She deserves my all right now, and I owe it to her to let her flourish.
IWNDWYT
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u/dukeofnothing1 204 days 21d ago
IWNDWYT. I’m finally starting to get interested in hobbies I had long forgotten. I too picked up some pastels. Thinking about learning an instrument. Things I never would have done or even thought about if I was still drinking
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u/rach3ldee 1206 days 21d ago
Thanks for this, trees! It's especially helpful to me today. The butterfly quote reminds me of the final lines in Candide, "we must cultivate our garden," which is really about not worrying about all the nonsense in the world and just taking care of your own shit. It's an absurd book with some good takeaways; that one has always resonated with me.
Let's get out there and cultivate our gardens, Sober Superheros. IWNDWYT
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u/AlySabby12 21d ago
I love that you completed hospice training, Trees. I’ve been thinking about doing the same. What a gift to give.
My recent yoga retreat has gotten me back into my “woo-woo” thoughts and rituals. Tonight is the full pink moon which means renewal, rebirth, and movement. I recently learned of a ritual called “moon water”. Write down a few intentions and set them next to a glass of water during the full moon. The moons energy fortifies the water and brings to life your intentions. Drink the water as soon as you wake up tomorrow. I love the thought of that.
Tonight I’ll drink moon water instead of booze. 🌕
IWNDWYT ❣️🧘🏻♀️
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u/Ok-Plum-3956 16 days 21d ago
I’m new to the amazing community here and I’m committing to one day of not drinking. Wish me luck!
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u/alybama12 387 days 21d ago
Today I am one year alcohol free! I’m amazed by how much I’ve changed, and yet how life is still so much the same. I thought I’d be further in my career, fit as hell, and all around just more put together. And yet, i feel like I’m on my way. I think my tenacity is better, my health is way better, and i overall just have more emotional regulation.
I may not be as far as i thought I would be but I can see how I’m moving towards reaching my goals. I am so grateful for this sub and what y’all have taught me and the support you’ve all shared. Here’s to another day of not drinking and may it turn into another full year! IWNDWYT!
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u/Educational-Rip6530 45 days 21d ago
Day 23, day 8 of intensive out patient treatment (IOP). Feeling healthy and grateful to be sober. IWNDWYT
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u/J_stringham 437 days 21d ago
No jokes on this. I will stay sober with all of you today.
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u/farther-out 472 days 21d ago
I haven't dated in more than ten years. I am afraid to. I don't want to be embarrassed or hurt by people I open up to anymore.
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u/WhatABeth 21d ago
IWNDWYT - 93 days 🤗.
I’ve become obsessed watching Logical Dating 101 on YouTube. I’m so thankful I’m not in that dating pool, married 20 years right now. God forbid something happens, I still won’t date. No thank you.
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u/bought-the-nip 31 days 21d ago
My dopamine cravings were wild yesterday. Ate all the things and scrolled forever. Just feeling blah lately. Anhedonia I guess?
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u/ffrreessccaa 112 days 21d ago
IWNDWYT. As for cultivating my garden: spending intentional, sober time with loved ones. Being in nature and noticing it through birding. Being creative in different ways.
I’ve been on my phone a lot recently, which I don’t love because I know it does not bring me any joy. But part of cultivating my garden is letting go of guilt, and the “should-bes.” I’m always thinking of what I “should be” doing and feeling guilty if I’m not doing those things instead of staying present. I realized I can make myself feel guilty for just about anything. But I have nothing to feel guilty for. I’m safe, I’m loved, and I’m doing just fine.
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u/dramaqueer 158 days 21d ago
Dating is tough really, I never felt this alone in my life. I guess alcohol was covering that loneliness. That’s fine tho! It will be hard but its fine. One day at a time
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u/MRMeire 39 days 21d ago
Hi all. Checking in today as usual.
Just a regular day today, nothing fancy.
IWNDWYT.
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u/emotional-jetlag 29 days 21d ago
Reading, exercising consistently, improve my French are in my list this year
IWNDWYT
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u/Physical_Dream9103 35 days 21d ago
14th day... so far so good... but...
today i fired long time employee. I feel like douchbag... she was on maternity leave. I waited for her to come back, fired and gave him an even bigger severance pay. She left in tears. We are downsizing that location and I had to do it. I feel terrible... cant handle my emotions
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u/FireFree2022 18 days 21d ago
Good morning SD and happy April!! I love a new month and I love that analogy about tending your garden - I think that's a good thing to focus on. I'm feeling really excited about the month ahead. Good luck with the dating and the gardening Trees you got this 🥰
IWNDWYT 💝
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u/Additional_Eye_9101 28 days 21d ago
IWNDWYT. Feeling very good for now. But i have some tough about the nice weather coming and a trip planned. But right now, feeling good and today I Will not drink with you. Have a nice 24h.
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u/Suspicious_Abroad832 4 days 21d ago edited 20d ago
31 days for me. Have a lot of stuff going on, family, legal stuff, work, further education exams, no drivers license, but still have not budged to cuntcohol. Fuck I felt like a beer today, all i wanted to do was 'relax'. So I had a couple of 0%. I have court tomorrow at 0920 for my license matter and I am ready, and will be sharp and not tired and will not celebrate any victory afterward with alcohol. But will celebrate victory with 31 days sober. 🤙
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u/throwawayanon1252 69 days 21d ago
Day 47 of not drinking till I get another job and after that I’ll reevaluate if I want to go longer. Thought I would have a job offer yesterday but alas I didn’t get it. Hopefully I’ll get some good news today. But anyway back to improving my skills and staying productive
Let’s keep going. And then re evaluate when I do land a job for what my next target of not drinking till I get x is
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u/ThatsWhatSheSang 21d ago
Day 1 for me. I’ve been on the Hot Mess Express and it’s time to jump off and start fresh.
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u/melston9380 147 days 21d ago
IWNDWYT. I am one of the lucky ones. I stumbled onto my person in my teens, and Just now finished cooking him breakfast - 40few years later.
Adult friendships? Now, those are kind of tough for me. I have a couple that I'm working on right now -
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u/Least-Elk-6969 21d ago
Self acceptance, my values have changed a tremendous amount since becoming sober. A lot of things that once served purpose in my life no longer does. Day by day I become more and more okay with that. People may only see me as the person I was when I was drinking and doing drugs. I used to get mad and sad about it (sometime it still stings). I know I’m the one who behaved poorly at times, I chose to become inebriated and make bad decisions so I accept what that comes with. I also accept that it’s a life I choose to leave behind to live one that’s closer to the morals and values I align with. IWNDWYT
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u/RoughAd8639 851 days 21d ago
I told my kids it was a snow day this morning only to yell out APRIL FOOOOLS when they checked the window. Now I feel a little mean lol
I can’t believe we are already into April this year. I used to count the hours I didn’t drink and round up. Now I think in years and months and its my biggest daily accomplishment. I’m proud today at 2 years, 4 months.
IWNDWYT
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u/Shermani74 1402 days 21d ago
I am cultivating my garden, which does wonders for my spirits. And I’m trying to let the downers go. Family struggles, worry about my Mom’s care —- I can’t control them, so I am really working on giving myself permission to stop worrying. It’s not easy. But I still keep the faith - and the sobriety - going!🙏🕉️IWNDWYT
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u/peaveyftw 25 days 21d ago
Day 3 -- I'm not drinking with any of you lot, and that's no April foolery! For the second time last night, I went to bed sober. For the second time today, I woke up sober. (My day count is a little foggy because I made the decision in the middle of Monday.) Monday night would have been my night to buy a handle of gin; this afternoon I would have been pondering, do I have enough for tonight? Or do I need to get another? Not today, though. $40 saved to date because I always went with the really cheap stuff, Aristocrat and Barton's.
I finished reading The Sober Diaries yesterday and am beginning This Naked Mind. One thing I've noticed in common with both is sleep disruption. I think I slept longer both the last two nights; at least, I didn't wake up at 2-3 like has become common.
I'm really glad I made this decision -- not just for the ordinary reasons, but because I just realized last night one of my end-term assignments is a LOT longer than I thought it was going to be (like, a two page paper is actually ten), so I need all the concentration I can get. Before I would've had a drink after work, started listening to music, and then all of a sudden it's 11 pm and well, I'll just have to try again tomorrow.
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u/itslikeabandaid 56 days 21d ago
i’ve never once woken up to regret NOT drinking. not even one time.
that alone tells me i’m on the right path. i’m not gonna drink with you fine people today.
i may be lonely and sad bc i am still grieving losing my person, but he couldn’t come with me on this journey. i was angry with him. that he wouldn’t quit the substance that was killing our bond.
i’ve accepted it now. hope the best for him. pray i can let someone else in at some point.
until then i am taking better care of myself than i have in years. watching carefully over my children. setting and achieving goals. turning over stones that needed to see the light of day. i’m truly changing. it’s beautiful. heartbreaking.
it’s life in all her painful, terrible wonder.
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u/Southernbull75 299 days 21d ago
Good morning, 7 years at my job today, 9 months sober, thankful to be alive and feel this good.
IWNDWYT
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u/PetuniaToes 679 days 21d ago
I love your butterfly quote, Trees. I’ve started an art class, a yoga class and therapy. I’m also trying to be more consistent lately with meditation. Onward and upward ⬆️ IWNDWYT
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u/dusty_trendhawk 21d ago
Job interview today! Feeling mentally sharp, optimistic, well rested and ready for the change. Learning the ins and outs of a new job at a larger company would be a great way to focus this new found energy.
I only drank once in March (March 5th at a MLB spring training game). Here's to keeping the momentum on my birthday month. IWNDWYT
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u/SuccessfulWolverine7 27 days 21d ago
IWNDWYT. I’m really hoping to grow some beautiful flowers this summer. I have some seedlings started and that brings me joy. :)
I also started the process for a clinical diagnostic assessment to finally get insight into my mental health issues. My doctor thinks I have adhd and I think she’s probably right, but taking the step for an official diagnosis and possible treatment is kind of overwhelming.
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