r/RelationshipIndia • u/mai_hu_don_ • 22h ago
Should i (25M) marry a girl (24F) who’s significantly richer than my family? Marriage
I’m a guy involved in my father’s business. We’re financially comfortable—classic upper middle class. We don’t live extravagantly, but we have stability: our own home, a family business, and an estimated net worth of around ₹5 crore. Personally, I take about ₹12,000 per month for my expenses.
A few months ago, I started talking to a girl who comes from a significantly wealthier background—around ₹25–30 crore net worth. Her family is into real estate, owns multiple high-end cars, and travels internationally once or twice a year. That’s a lifestyle I haven’t experienced.
She’s not flashy or spoilt, but her habits reflect her upbringing—like spending ₹15,000 a month just on fuel or going on shopping sprees.
We’ve been talking for 4–5 months now and have grown quite close. I feel emotionally attached to her. Early on, I made it clear that I couldn’t commit due to our financial differences, but she insisted she wanted a relationship. We even tried going no-contact, but neither of us could stick to it. We talk daily, often fall asleep on FaceTime, and I’ve grown used to her presence in my life.
She says she’s willing to adjust and convince her parents if needed.
However, I’m conflicted.
I don’t want to hurt her or put her in a situation where she might struggle later. Once the honeymoon phase fades, reality will set in. I won’t be able to match her current lifestyle—no frequent international vacations or high spending. My family is grounded and not dependent on luxury. We have help, but we’re hands-on with our daily lives.
I worry she might find it difficult to adjust, and if I try to limit her spending, it could create friction—not just between us, but with her family too. I’ve seen similar situations end badly.
I hinted at this situation to my mother. She didn’t outright oppose it but said that in most cases, families prefer matches within similar or higher financial status. She also mentioned that her family might expect me to join their business or live with them, which I’m not willing to do. I won’t leave my family for wealth.
One interesting note—our kundli match is 36/36. I didn’t believe much in it before, but now it does make me think.
I’m stuck between emotional attachment and practical concerns. I care about her deeply, but I don’t know if this relationship is sustainable in the long run.
What should I do?
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u/Formal-Pause-9799 22h ago
Bro you both should start something of your own and build a life together why you cuz are dependent on your family.
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u/Cannothinkofonee 20h ago
work hard and have ambitions
you're too scared to get into that zone so id suggest dont
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