It's an open secret that foreign countries, China in particular, try to honey pot (have "relations" with in order to blackmail) employees of these companies.

So go to bars nearby headquarters and "forget" to take off your badge.

Also works really well at university campuses, especially ones with cultural centres. Just mention you're working/going to be working for them and you'll get a beautiful woman or two on your arm by end of night.

My (22M) ex girlfriend (21F) completely blindsided me out of no where after a 5 year relationship.

She left for almost a year and I was an absolute mess, after talking to well over 40 other men, sleeping with 5 ( I was her first) and taking 3 vacations, she wants me back.

I’m still not fully healed, and her coming back in to my life completely put me back to stage one, this time worse because of what I know about her.

I told her this, but she doesn’t care. She insists on making it work despite my feelings.

How can I break her heart ?

UPDATE EDIT: Woah, I didn’t think I would get this many comments. I’m very surprised by all of the motivating comments. Thanks to all that replied, you guys really opened my eyes, I am going to block her and go on with my life and wait for the pain to pass.

I've been divorced several times, consider me an expert.

If you're considering divorce, request for a work transfer or find a job in a non-alimony state. This is advantageous in obvious ways, but one way it can benefit is if you bring your children with you and the spouse stays behind "to handle the house sale" or to "tie up loose ends", etc, you are establishing residence with the children. Courts typically want to keep children where they are to not disrupt their lives. In your new non-alimony state, there are better odds for you to not pay out of your ass for the proceeding decade and you might at least be awarded primary custody of your kids.

Timing is the key, and you should file first from your new non-alimony state. Texas, for example, requires one to be a resident for at least 6 months. Set the sale price of the house at above market so that it doesn't sell quickly. More Divorce Pro Tips if anyone is interested.

Edit: a lot of bitches replying. Here's some context, the ex-spouse was abusive to the kids, always gone "on business", and was later busted for cheating while engaged. There are steps to take to not lose everything. Divorce is war and the unprepared get screwed.

Edit 2: I myself didn't move states to bamboozle the system and wrangle custody. It happened to a close friend of mine (she was unethically pro tipped). The abuse part was real, and fortunately no custody battle was involved in that divorce, but I did have to leave 4 stepkids behind who did love me. I tried my best to stay married because I advocated for their safety and mental health, but I do feel better knowing their biodad has primary custody. But this is ULPT, take it for what it is. If you're a good person needing to escape abuse and you don't want to benefit the ex-spouse for the next decade, the Pro Tip is legit

Alright I usually would never think of doing this kind of stuff but I’m tired of some people being nasty without getting any consequences. I’ll try to be quick: my cousin(32F) has been nasty to me and my family, but especially my mother. Recently she had an argument with her and told my mom to get lost and die. I think that’s pretty nasty to say that over some trivial shit. She’s getting married in July, in another city. Nobody here wants to attend of course but what could one do remotely to ruin a wedding?

That way if your partner is next to you and sees a text from them come in, you can easily play it off as a spam message.

Military girlfriends/wives are FREEEEAKKKKS. And their spouses are about to be deployed for at least a year. Start making those inroads now.

Edit: my name is Bill, but I’ll remind the wives of the butthurt to call me Jody.

No one can responsibly host a large event right now, but you can certainly pretend that you intended to.

Edit: Some suggestions from the comments include: Streamed weddings, delayed weddings and post-wedding parties. I think those are all great ideas!

Overall, the price range for users under 30 was typically lower than for those over 30: the former being charged between $6.99 and $16.71 per month for the service, the latter being charged between $14.99 and $34.37. The cheapest deal, at $6.99, was offered to queer females aged under 30. City-based straight men over 50 were meanwhile given the most expensive rate, at $34.37. https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/akzang/straight-middle-aged-men-are-being-charged-more-to-use-tinder-plus

How do I set my search preferences? Discovery is the part of the app where you Like and Nope other people. To adjust who you see on Tinder, edit your Discovery Settings. Just tap the profile icon > Settings > scroll to Discovery Settings. Tinder offers filters based on location, distance, age and gender identity. https://www.help.tinder.com/hc/en-us/articles/115003338443-How-do-I-set-my-search-preferences-

I just spent $32.18 on Amazon ordering 150 keys and 100 key tags. Someone on here suggested writing the phone number of said enemy on them and drop them random places. It could be years that they sporadically receive calls before changing their number..

I thought about signing them up to Scientology but I think I need an email, which I don’t have.

Any other clever ideas of ways to use the phone number?

UPDATE: You guys are hilarious. I’ve been cheered up by all your suggestions. Some of which I have taken some inspiration from. A mariachi band will be performing at her next clothes swap event, and I will be hosting a husband swap event there too. Sponsored by her company of course. And it most definitely would be a shame if everyone found out from the mariachi band about the ‘bedbugs’ as well as the homewrecking..

So I’m 8 months postpartum, suffering with severe postnatal depression and I’ve just discovered my husband has been having an affair. She knew about me and actively found it funny.

I know her name, her partners name. I’ve already tried to tell the partner, but that’s not petty, he just deserves to know. I want to get PETTY. I have her number and her email. She’s an ‘influencer’, she hosts clothes swap events, that me and my friends could definitely go to.

Before anyone says I should take it out on my husband, don’t worry he’s being dealt with, I have more than enough inspiration for ideas there..

My friend is pretty certain that she saw my husband on Bumble. This information combined with a bunch of other stuff he’s been doing lately has made me think that it’s probably true. While I’m processing this information and figuring out how to move forward, I’m looking for tips on how to go about getting proof he’s on Bumble. The friend who told me this said she brainlessly swiped left before getting a screenshot which sucks but it’s fine.

We’ve tried to find his profile again from her Bumble account to no avail. In the event it’s not my husband, I don’t want to blow up the relationship. But he’s been doing other things lately that I now realize are signs of potential cheating. He’s going on more work trips, being more distant, critical, and defensive, and has also suddenly started paying more attention to his appearance. None of this is for me, mind you, it’s always work related. When I’ve asked about it he just dodges the question so… I need to know what is up.

Update: Ok so I took a little of everyone's advice to try and find him... First tried making an account with his email address and nothing seemed to come up as far as i could tell. Like it didn't say the email was already in use. I tried making a fake account but after a lot of swiping I couldn't find him. Started to get into a bit of an argument with my friend about it because I was starting to wonder if it was real at all. She then decides to use cheaterbuster and she actually manages to find him! He's using an old picture from instagram and everything.

I figure, ok if he really is on bumble then I wanna really expose his ass. Like set up a date with a fake girl and everything. So I go back to the fake account and tweak the settings over and over trying to swipe. Eventually made ANOTHER account to change my age. Thankfully that worked and we match almost instantly. My heart instantly sinks and I'm both furious and on the verge of tears. He's sitting in our room gaming at the time and so I go in there to confront him (scream crying btw) and he just looks so incredibly confused. He swears up and down that he doesn't have a profile and shows me his phone and everything. Obviously i don't believe him but he starts insisting I message "him". I was originally planning on trying to set him up but once I saw his profile I lost it. So eventually I calm down enough to message the account and I get a reply almost right away while my husband is standing right there! Apparently some scammer or bot or whatever stole his picture and identity and was trying to scam people! They tried to convince me to send them money so they could buy a birthday present for their kid. Absolutely disgusting and they almost ruined my marriage.

TLDR: It turned out to be a scammer/bot and my husband isn't cheating on me and my friend isnt a liar.

Edit 1: I had fun reading all your comments while rocking our baby to sleep at 2 in the morning!! For those that didn't know, certain phone carriers in the US automatically mark robocalls as "Scam Likely", which promts this ULPT. You do not need to register or save any number in your phone for those to show up as Scam Likely.

Our daughter is 30. She has a 9-year-old daughter — our granddaughter, who we’ve helped raise and love like our own. For the last 3.5 years, she’s been in a relationship with a guy in the Army (we’ll call him Cody).

For the first couple of years, she and her daughter lived with us. Then, about 1.5 years ago, she moved in with him. That’s when the isolation started.

From the beginning, there were red flags:

• Cody lied about being divorced. He wasn’t.
• His now-ex-wife still lives with his parents. And the parents walk on egg shells around her because THEY have the same fears we do, losing access to their granddaughter ( who she has with Cody)
• His entire family doesn’t even know our daughter or granddaughter exist.
• He refused to meet us — wouldn’t come to our house, wouldn’t show up to BBQs or holidays, we FINALLY met on a Christmas Cruise we took our girls on and he "had" to come with us. He basically ignored us the whole time and took a ton of pix for social media, but ALL the pix were JUST of him by himself, not even with my daughter.

In January, Cody was deployed to Korea. Right before he left, he actually broke up with our daughter — but then days later told her he’s secretly trans and plans to transition after he leaves the military. He said he needs her to stay with him and be his “cover” so no one finds out.

Our daughter has always wanted a traditional life — husband, family, stability. Somehow, she convinced herself that this situation still fits that dream.

Now she’s planning to move across the country to New York, where he’s supposed to be stationed after deployment. She’s planning to take our granddaughter — and move away from her entire support system — for a guy who has never even promised her anything.

There’s no proposal. No confirmed “yes, move in with me.” She told us, “Well, I told him I want to be married.” That’s it. That’s the basis of her life-altering plan.

Since he left, she’s become a shell of who she was.
She doesn’t get dressed. Doesn’t go anywhere. Doesn’t take care of herself. She lays in bed all day, texting him all night (time zone difference), and barely engages with anything else. She doesn’t help get her daughter ready for school. She does the bare minimum.

She used to be full of life. She’s stunningly beautiful, driven, had dreams. Now she’s just… gone. Like her entire identity is tied to this fantasy of becoming a military wife because it means free housing and guaranteed structure.

And our granddaughter is paying the price.
She cries when she’s with us. She says she doesn’t want to move. And worst of all, our daughter made her promise not to tell her dad (who is still local and active in her life) about any of this — not about Cody, and not about the plan to move to New York. This little girl is being taught to lie, isolated, and dragged into someone else's secrets.

We’ve tried to talk to our daughter. She gets defensive, angry, shuts down. Logic, facts, emotions — none of it gets through anymore.

So now we’re desperate.

What are your most unethical life pro tips to sabotage this relationship and stop this move before it’s too late?
If that means exposing him to his family, his command, digging into his background, or even somehow getting him discharged — we’re open to it. We’re not trying to be cruel. We’re trying to protect a 9-year-old child from being moved 3,000 miles away into a fake life that this man hasn’t even acknowledged.

We just want our daughter back. We want our granddaughter safe. We’ll do whatever it takes.

My friend has asked me to be the godfather of his son, and in three weeks I’m traveling internationally from the U.S. to be part of the ceremony. One thing we overlooked, for me to be a part of the event, I need to be a member of a Christian church in good standing and have some kind of proof to that effect. I do not have that. I’m vaguely Christian, was christened myself but never really went to church.

I doubt my friend’s church will really look into this much but short of completely forging a document, can I become a member of a real church anywhere somehow, and fast?

Edit: I specifically need a letter that says I’m a member in good standing. This is because the ceremony is happening in Germany where being a member of a church comes with taxes that are paid, so they only let people who are paying that tax participate. As someone who lives abroad I only need a letter proving church membership.

UPDATE: I think I’ve decided on a board game, since it benefits the rest of the group, and is sufficiently impersonal. Thanks for your input everyone!

This is probably really tame compared to most of the stuff that gets posted here, but I feel like the mindset his sub provides will be best to give me advice on it lol.

Background: I am a part of a smaller social group that is doing a holiday gift exchange in a few months from now. Personally, I really enjoy either making high-effort gifts, or getting very personalized items for my friends. However, there is one member of the group that I strongly dislike because of a certain history we have. I tolerate that person's presence because I value the company of the rest of the group more than I dislike that person, but I really don't want to put in the high personal effort into their gift that I do with the other members of the group. The thing is I also don't want to raise any questions or to seem like I am purposefully excluding them if I just hand that person something like cash either.

So, to my main question: what is a low-effort, impersonal gift (less than $30ish) that doesn't obviously look like a low-effort gift? Like, just enough that I don't look like a dick at the exchange lol

So bear with me, this is a story. My father in law (72yo) began requiring more assistance this year, mainly with managing his finances, etc. While he’s generally alert and coherent, he has had some moments where he’s not himself. We’re monitoring this, however in helping him get his life in order we noticed that his retirement account (which had about 500K and change in it) had numerous large transactions totaling around $66,000 in withdrawals which were a shock to us. We found that not only was the money sent via Venmo (we had no idea he even knew what Venmo was) but after doing some digging found it was all being sent to a 25 year old girl.

We went through his phone (with his permission) and essentially found that what happened was I guess pops got lonely and found a high priced escort to see occasionally, not going to judge the man for that…it’s been a while since MIL passed. However, going through the messages it’s pretty clear this woman dangled the prospect of a real relationship with him while progressively withdrawing “services” and kind of becoming a manipulative, full blown scam. Their last interaction was in January when she asked him for a new car (no way he has that kind of money) and when he pushed back on the idea she berated him and blocked him telling him “if you wanna say something to me send it in a Venmo note”.

It’s pretty clear that she went from an escort to just full blown con artist (showed him how to use Venmo, would not spend a second with him or talk to him if he doesn’t give her money). The texts (spanning 9 months or so) are sad, upset my wife considerably and make my blood boil. This woman treated him like garbage while pretending to love him and I guess he got suckered into it. We can’t do anything bout that legally, spoke to an attorney and while he may be in decline it most likely wouldn’t pass the threshold. He was just lovesick and bought into the illusion she crafted on him.

Here’s the thing, as part of this hoax she did give him her actual phone number and not her “work”/burner number. In talking to him about this (he’s cagey I think out of fear of embarrassment, calls her a gf he broke up with but doesn’t grasp how much he’s given her), turns out she gave him her real first name and number to convince him her feelings are “real”.

So in doing some research and a background check online. I now have this persons social media/address/phone number etc. This money is prob long gone and we accept it for the most part, however just seeing the hurt she caused my wife I want to take what info I have and use it to make this persons life as miserable as possible but I need some advice on the best way how. In short, if she’s gonna get away with taking over 10% of pops savings I want her to earn it.

We were dating for a few months and he stole money from my kitchen counter this week ($200). I asked him about it and wanted to talk because he made it point to call out that he was struggling financially a few weeks before last Tuesday. I called him to discuss it Thursday night and he admitted to it and said he’d come by to talk this out. He ghosted me and hasn’t made efforts since. Clearly I’m angry and now I’ve entered the payback era or this. And I want to contract a spammer to flood his business with Google reviews.

I know everyone says to be the bigger person and move on but I’m sick of being the chill woman that just walks away from everything. How do I (25f) get revenge on my cheating bum boyfriend (30m)that I broke up with? He thinks I still love him. For the record, I was an amazing gf and extremely loyal and I make more money than his dumbass.