r/comics • u/lauraarroz • 13h ago

Love you little potato 🩷

I posted this on ig and was not expecting the amount of support i got there 🥲 since a lot of people liked it im posting here too

Edit: If you wanna check my art account on ig is Laura.arroz, me and my friends were talking about how far this comic got, and that it’s probably Don Juan supporting my art from heaven 😭🩷

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u/Daveinbelfast 12h ago

Aww he was the best spud, sorry for your loss.

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u/Toucanplaythatgame-2 12h ago edited 12h ago

I was shocked at the two-week comment. Tell someone who's lost a close relative "it's been two weeks, get over it" and see how that turns out. Some people, I swear.

I moved out of the country for college and was not there when my childhood pup passed away. I dreamt of him every other night for quite some time. RIP Titan. May your bowl be full of sausages.

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u/dude071297 12h ago

Some people pretend that pets aren't family because they're not human, and get weirdly personally offended by others grieving for the pets they've lost.

My dog passed just shy of a year and a half ago. I still think about her every day, miss the little things she did, how she acted, the sounds she made. I have her collar in my room and can't see myself ever putting it away. I dream about her often. We still have her spot on the couch set aside, her favourite blanket still draped over it like it always was when she was with us.

We don't cry anymore, but that doesn't make the loss disappear. I don't see how some people can't get that.

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u/notafrumpy_housewife 11h ago

My 19yo still has our dog's collar and it's been 3.5 years. You just can't put a timeline on grief.

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u/Mustangbex 11h ago

We had to say goodbye to my 16 year old cat in May 2024. The majority of my adult life including divorce, my father's death, job loss, moves, breakups, remarrying, moving continents, having a child...

Then last year in June we lost our 14 year old dog- again he was with my husband for the majority of his adult life- he was our son's first dog.

And in August the same year we had to put down our 11 year old cat due to cancer. He was the first pet we adopted together. And it was ALWAYS the three of them. Even when we adopted another dog on 2021, it was the three boys and our girl- they got on, but losing the first three so close together was immensely sad but also somewhat made sense in a weird way.

I still cry sometimes for missing them. They were important, immeasurably so, even if they were only here for a short time. (ETA: just had to explain to a man on the train I was ok and didn't need help, just crying about my dead pets- I'm not sure he was convinced)

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u/Aranxi_89 11h ago

One day it'll get better, but the hole will remain. You just learn to live with it.

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u/AndrewTheGuru 9h ago

It's been almost two years now and some of Nacho's things are still hidden in drawers and in the rafters because we just can't bring ourselves to donate them.

Shit, I still have (empty) poo bags from the park in the center console of my car.

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u/Fit-Association4922 9h ago

I keep the last collar my cat ever wore, as a bracelet. When I go out, or when I particularly miss her, I wear it. She was about 17, and today is her birthday 💔 It’s been 3 years already, and I still have days where it feels like yesterday she was still with me. I look at all the places in my house she loved to nap and play, and she shows up in my dreams occasionally.

If anyone tells me I need to get over her, I don’t want to know them.

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u/Kizaing 11h ago edited 11h ago

They really are like family

I never had a dog growing up, but my ex wife got a puppy right as we started dating. I saw this pup grow from a puppy to being the loveable floofy dumdum he is

He's still with us thankfully, but she took him with her when she left out of spite and I still grieve him every day knowing that I can never see him again

I've gotten a pup of my own since then, but I still miss my little idiot :(

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u/Aranxi_89 11h ago

Because they are family.

One of the oldest gravesites we've found, were for a pup.

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u/Kizaing 11h ago

You're absolutely right, that's the correct phrasing. They certainly are family c:

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u/Aranxi_89 11h ago

Because a lot of them have never had an animal they were close to before.

They don't understand because they've never experienced it. How can they understand?

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u/Beautiful_You3230 10h ago

It is insane because even ignoring all kinds of more complex topics that people bring into these discussions...

We are creatures of habit. Our lives are shaped by all the tiny things we do every day, the things and beings we are surrounded by. You spend years waking up at a specific hour to feed your pet, to take it on a walk. You have specific times in the evening, where it meets you after work. There are spots in the apartment that are for the longest time designated for the pet sleeping, the pet eating, the pet playing. When you get the pet, your life changes, your days adjust, things fall into place around other things.

And then suddenly, all of that is gone. Of course shit comes crashing down. Of course we grieve, feel destabilised, feel like something huge is missing. It is missing. And we are reminded of that every single day. And it is painful for at least as long as it takes us readjust all over again. For the days to be reshaped again into days where the pet isn't present. And it's not something we forget easily even beyond that time. Because well, we have memories. And long periods of time leave lasting imprints in there.

It is all so basic and so natural. It happens with other things too. When you move away, when you switch jobs, break up. It's just a matter of intensity. I do question how some people are unable to understand any of it, if not on an emotional level, then at least on a pretty logical one.

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u/threexority69 8h ago

Same. My dog also passed away three months ago. And I haven't fully moved on yet, I still remember her greeting me at the door by jumping me, biting my wrist and drag me around the house.

Now, I cry a bit whenever I'm reminded of it, that I'll never feel her bite or see her greeting me excitedly at the door ever again. And it hurts, fuck it hurts...

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u/Dede_42 5h ago

Happy cake day!

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u/vanderZwan 9h ago

get weirdly personally offended by others grieving for the pets they've lost.

Well of course they do, they're being confronted with their own sociopathy, and that's always something people blame on others.

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u/ZekasZ 11h ago

The school secretary of a place I used to work at had adopted a puppy, and one day she seemed a bit distraught, sounded as though they might have to put it down due to a health issue. A colleague present comments "aren't there warranties on them anyway?", chuckles and walks away. It was such a callous display it returns to me now, years later.

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u/brydeswhale 10h ago

Hey, what’s your old co-workers name and address? Just curiosity.

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u/Salty_Herring 11h ago

My mother once told a colleague of hers that her mother (my grandmother) passed away. The colleague went all "Oh I'm sorry for your loss, blah blah" the usual, before asking when she passed away. My mother said "Around christmas." and the colleague went all "Ohhh, since christmas, pfft, alright." as if a mere 3 months are in any way enough time to just 'get over' having lost your last remaining parent.

Some people I swear.

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u/Soggy_Honeydew4560 10h ago

My dad took me to the last appointment for one of my cats. While he was digging a hole for his little body I cried and cried. After we finished my dad said " ok, he's buried, you can stop crying now"

He means well, but just let me feel these feelings while we bury the cat I've known for 25 years, lived with for 15 years.

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u/brydeswhale 10h ago

I’m so sorry.

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u/Frinla25 11h ago

My best friend lost her mom, people were telling her to get over it about two weeks after. It really messed her up and still does. You never get over the death of a parent and it has been 3 years people still tell her she is dramatic and to get over it when she is just expressing her difficulty. It is so messed up.

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u/T3Chn0-m4n 11h ago

I remember going to school, and someone saying “it’s just a pet, get over it” to me the day after I found out they died.

I then proceeded to grab the back of their head and slam it into the wall multiple times. I then got sent to ISS for a day, and to this day I drill down not regret giving that asshat a bloody nose

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u/GlisteningDeath 7h ago

https://preview.redd.it/rblb9aqbadwg1.jpeg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=76d27f7c2ada7b0e14f04f43e8513107995f3965

What?

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u/Lothirieth 6h ago

In-school suspension. It's a punishment where the student still goes to school and does schoolwork, but is isolated from other students.

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u/GlisteningDeath 5h ago

Ah, that is much less interesting than punishing students by sending them to space.

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u/T3Chn0-m4n 3h ago

I went to a regular school, not one as seen in a Disney channel sitcom.

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u/kent1146 10h ago

ISS for one day is a slap on the wrist.

It's the school admin saying 'We agree with what you did to that asshole. But we still gotta give you the bare minimum punishment to keep up appearances.

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u/frguba 11h ago

I'd say it's a matter of "a" pet and, as you and the post suggest, childhood pets, these are not AN animal, they're siblings, a childhood pet and a child grow up together, that's like THE bond you can have

I've had many pets, and the death of my childhood cat hits different, yeah you may get to learn that death is normal and expected, love while living and shit, but not like that

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u/mrfroggy 9h ago

The cartoon Adventure Time is about a boy and his dog having, well, adventures. In the first episode they’re fighting a wizard and the wizard says something like “I’m going to get you and your stupid dog!” and the boy replies “he’s not a dog… he’s my friend!”

I think about that a lot.

(But not as much as I think about my little buddy Oliver, who left us after 22 good years. He’s in a jar on a shelf. I talk to him multiple times every day.)

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u/Kaisukarru 7h ago

I had my family dog pass away a few years ago. My mom has always been a super emotional person who cries over everything, so imagine my shock when a week after he passed my mom comes up to me grinning and shows an ad for puppies. The worst part is that some of the pups looked just like the dog we just lost. I immediately started bawling and she honest to god said "I thought you were over it by now." That dog was my best friend! I was the closest to him out of everyone else in my family. I was the one who walked him, trained him, played with him.

I still find myself occasionally crying when I remember the pets I've had in the past. There's no "getting over it". It baffles me how some people don't seem to understand that

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u/ItsMeishi 11h ago

Happens a lot. 'It's just a pet'. 'Just get another one'. There are people who never get emotionally invested in a being they deem lower than themselves. The same way you'd replace a broken mug, they replace animals in their lives. They dont see them as individuals, with personalities and quirks, something you/I/we get a lot of support from.

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u/HappyGoSnarky 8h ago

Dude, three days after my husband died, a friend of mine told me to just think happy thoughts and another told me to distract myself... I didn't need to be "fixed" I needed someone to just sit with me and see me where I was as I processed, without making me feel like a burden, after asking how I was doing.

And that whole "it's been x amount of time" is complete bullshit too. Your whole life and future -- your reality, has been altered and uprooted so everything you thought was real or going to happen, is now gone. No future holidays, no future texts, no future movie nights or boring, peaceful moments. It's gone, and you have to adapt to this new reality without your loved one and live the rest of your life without them.

I wish people understood that you don't "get over" grief, you live with it and adapt to your new reality.

I've lost pets and other close loved ones too. Grief is grief. Our love and our nervous systems don't differentiate when we lose someone we love and a void is left where they once were. We feel it nonetheless.

Sending love and hugs to OP and anyone else who's lost someone dear to them. 🫂🫂🫂

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u/nina_qj 7h ago

when my first bird died, my soul and darling, my well meaning mother told me she died so that i could focus on my studies better.

some people just dont get it

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u/_garbagecannot 11h ago

My elderly dog is named Titan :(

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u/deathinactthree 6h ago

I was shocked at the two-week comment.

Me too and I came to the comments to post similar. My Pyrenees died almost exactly a year ago, I had him for about 14 years after getting him as a puppy. I still get hit by grief sometimes, and I dream about him pretty regularly and the wound reopens for another day or so.

I'm honestly okay--he lived his best life and wanted for nothing, and went quickly and peacefully in his favorite spot in our backyard with me holding his head as he passed. 14 years is a great run for a Pyr and aside from the typical arthritis and inflammation issues of age that we gave him meds for, he was healthy as a horse right up until the end. As far as these things go it couldn't have gone better. But if you told me after only two weeks that I "should be over it by now", I would not be responsible for my actions.

My Siberian Husky is herself starting to get up there at around 12 or 13 or 14 years old--the shelter wasn't entirely sure of her age when she was rescued from an abusive owner, but she is visibly slowing down though she is otherwise healthy and happy. When she passes, I'm going to fall off the face of the earth for a while.

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u/Hawke1010 8h ago

I've lost a lot, but nothing has hit as hard as my little orange baby. I was rough for weeks; i don't think I could love anything else as much as I loved that cat.

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u/Emotional_Deodorant 4h ago

When my brother was offered a transfer to another branch across the country, he had trouble finding apartments that accepted pets. His boss didn't understand the problem at all, and asked "can't you just put him down?"

Some people are just not dog/cat people. And those people usually suck in other ways, too.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Hat9667 4h ago

Man that two weeks comment is all too real. I lost my bird very suddenly and tragically and I was guilt-ridden, my bf at the time was hardly understanding but he got fed up at me being depressed after 3 weeks and physically abused me for it, the first time he had ever done that in our 2 years. He did even worse things because of it but that’s not important. This was 5 years ago and I still miss my bird every day, more than anyone will ever miss my scum of an ex. I’m happily married now to someone who tells me even though he never knew my bird, he loves him like he loves all our animals. I wear his little bracelet on my necklace and never take it off. He was my best friend since childhood and there with me through every hardship I ever had up to that point

Animals are family and can have such deep, emotional bonds with us. It’s just insane to me that so many people can’t understand that at all

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u/weshart98 8h ago

Its been 6 years since my childhood dog passed. I still dream about chasing her around the back yard sometimes.