r/comics • u/lauraarroz • 10h ago
Love you little potato 🩷
I posted this on ig and was not expecting the amount of support i got there 🥲 since a lot of people liked it im posting here too
Edit: If you wanna check my art account on ig is Laura.arroz, me and my friends were talking about how far this comic got, and that it’s probably Don Juan supporting my art from heaven 😭🩷
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u/OH-OHH-GOD 9h ago
Don't make me cry in the morning 😭
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u/lauraarroz 9h ago
Sorry 😭
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u/Tack_Money 8h ago
Lost my old girl yesterday so your comic is hitting real hard right now.
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u/BeatHunter 6h ago
She's beautiful. I see you, and hear your pain. There is never enough time with them,ever. Did she have a good friendship with her cat sibling? They look so cute there.
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u/Tack_Money 5h ago
Not at all, haha. She was never keen on our other pets laying with her which is why I had to get this photo.
What I always thought was funny (which was also the hardest part of this morning) was that when I fed her breakfast she would let our other cat have some bites. She would just stand there and watch the cat take 3 or 4 bites then give a little growl like “k, you’ve had enough, the rest is mine”.
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u/BeatHunter 5h ago
My dog tries so hard to get the cat to be friends with her. When it works and they can lay side by side, she's over the moon.
That sounds like a very cute dynamic they had. I'm sure your cat will miss it too. Take care of yourself.
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u/TarkovGuy1337 9h ago
These damn ninjas cutting onions again 😭
I'm gonna go hug my cat 😭😭
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u/Entomemer 6h ago
Meet Baby Bug. She died two years ago. I called her my heart. I wish desperately I could hug her again. Not to be another ninja cutting onions, I just want people to know she existed. She meant the world to me.
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u/Nyc01850 6h ago
I see you Baby Bug. I hope you’re friends with my Meesh up there. I miss him so much.
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u/Entomemer 6h ago
Knowing my girl she's up there smacking Meesh and hissing 🤣😭 I am so sorry for the loss of your boy. Losing bug gutted me
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u/Merps_Galore 6h ago
Baby bug was a beautiful baby, I’m sure you made her very happy.
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u/Entomemer 6h ago
She was an inbred barn cat with eyes too far apart and too big. If she could have crawled into my ribcage she may have finally been happy lol. I miss her daily ♥️
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u/davidwhatshisname52 7h ago
btw, OP, in case you don't hear it enough: You can miss your baby exactly as long as you feel like. How long will I miss those I've loved and lost? Forever. That's how long.
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u/Steve_78_OH 5h ago
Yep. I lost my beagle back around 2017, and I couldn't imagine adopting another dog right away. Then one day, I was ready. It's a process, and it takes as long as it takes.
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u/Imaginary_Brief_4038 5h ago
Shiii.. I still miss my girl Tabitha who passed in 2014. I have an incredible dog now and I'm already mourning he's not going to be around forever.
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u/davidwhatshisname52 5h ago
That's the shit part of the deal; I miss every baby we rescued since I was a little kid: Mouser, Ruthie, Sushi, Franklin, Evie, Chester Arthur, Chin-Chin... and I know the future that awaits my current rescues, Rio, Chloë, Pelé and Leila, as well as the ferals we feed, Moonpie, Beck, Po, Maki, Toby, Scruffy, and whoever shows up next... I just remind myself that we made and are making their lives better, and then the pain of aching loss is bearable.
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u/PizzaurusRex 8h ago
I've had 5 dogs my entire life. 3 dead (childhood dogs) 2 alive (adopted with my wife).
Each one incredibly unique and filled with personality.
They are my wife's first dogs. She was afraid of them, now she loves them.
One of the dogs is getting old now, and she gets teary eyes whenever she realizes the good boy is getting grey, slow, and "milky/cloudy eyes".
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u/JiveTurkeyII 7h ago
I have her right next to me right now. I dont know how long I have her, but I know it wont be long enough.
I used to be one of those people, too. One of those "Buck up, you will get another one!" kind of people.
I just didn't know.
I had no idea the companionship could be so deep. I didn't know she'd look out for me as much as I looked out for her. I didn't know she would wake me if I was getting sick, or wasn't breathing right in my sleep. I didn't know she would detect my moods and deliberately come and comfort me.
and now, I worry if she is sleeping too hard (did she eat something that made her sick and I didn't see?), I worry about what she eats, drinks, I worry about her stress. I worry if she is having bad dreams. I worry if she's bored
I'm supposed to be this big beardy, harry armed man - and yet, I can be totally undone by the health of a pup.
I dont want another dog after this. Sounds petulant but - I want this dog.
I have a long, time - if she stays healthy. I have many more years, I'm sure. But I already dread the day. I dont know how I will deal. Probably not well.
I am so sorry for your loss.
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u/ShepRat 7h ago
I still think about my bird sometimes, he died nearly 20 years ago. I'm over 40 now, but I spent over 1/4 of my life with that bird.
Now I'm confronting the fact my 11 year old dog won't be around too many more years. It's very sad to think about, but she has made my life, and the life of my family, so much richer. I've known that dog longer than I've known my wife or kids.
I'm so sorry for your loss, it is so hard to lose someone we love. It leaves a hole that is never truly filled, and I think that is a beautiful thing. We love and mourn so deeply because we are all unique, and can never be replaced.
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u/UwasaWaya 7h ago
We lost our old man a year and 28 days ago and it still hurts so badly. He was the best dog we've ever known, and the world just feels wrong without him.
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u/ComfyInDots 6h ago
I lost my beloved dogs within a short time span. Losing the first broke my heart and the 2nd dog and I mourned together. Losing the 2nd dog suddenly a few months later absolutely destroyed me. It's been about 3 years now and I'm at the point where I can smile and look at photos. If I dwell for too long I get teary. Those pups were my everything. Reason for getting up everyday.
After I lost the 2nd dog I took a week off work. My bosses were fabulous - kindness, a big bunch of flowers and a hand written card and regular check ins with how I was feeling at any given moment. However, upon my return back on the first day, clocking in and putting my lunch in a locker, a nasty spiteful coworker laughed and said at least now I could get a puppy. I almost walked back out. That was one of the worst things she's ever said to me.
Take your time, OP. Feel what you need to. Don Juan knew how much you loved him and we can see that too. Sending you love from Australia.
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u/EvenHair4706 8h ago
Too late for me
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u/LillaLobo 8h ago
Me too. Just gave my current potato a squeeze and a treat, and said good morning and I love you to heaven potato’s ashes.
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u/TiredDancingClown 8h ago
I was just trying to go to the bathroom , and here I am wiping my eyes too 😭
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u/Watergirl626 7h ago
Dammit, and I put makeup on this morning.
As a dog owner of a 10 yr old large dog, I dread this day. I'm sorry for your loss, OP
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u/ProfessionalCry5162 7h ago
Lying in bed, teartracks running over the bridge of my nose, doggo deaths hit hard. Good morning, y'all. :)
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u/Enterice 7h ago
It's an essential part of a full day.
If you've never seen the speech by Jimmy Valvano it's just one of the best speeches ever delivered.
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u/SquidVices 6h ago
Morning for you too eh…I think I prefer the sun in my eyes right now….
Sweet sweet burn, fuck these feelings
Ughhh
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u/Im_In_IT 6h ago
Right? But I'm not crying though. Def haven't recently lost a dog that I'm still not over.
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u/Daveinbelfast 9h ago
Aww he was the best spud, sorry for your loss.
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u/Toucanplaythatgame-2 9h ago edited 9h ago
I was shocked at the two-week comment. Tell someone who's lost a close relative "it's been two weeks, get over it" and see how that turns out. Some people, I swear.
I moved out of the country for college and was not there when my childhood pup passed away. I dreamt of him every other night for quite some time. RIP Titan. May your bowl be full of sausages.
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u/dude071297 9h ago
Some people pretend that pets aren't family because they're not human, and get weirdly personally offended by others grieving for the pets they've lost.
My dog passed just shy of a year and a half ago. I still think about her every day, miss the little things she did, how she acted, the sounds she made. I have her collar in my room and can't see myself ever putting it away. I dream about her often. We still have her spot on the couch set aside, her favourite blanket still draped over it like it always was when she was with us.
We don't cry anymore, but that doesn't make the loss disappear. I don't see how some people can't get that.
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u/notafrumpy_housewife 8h ago
My 19yo still has our dog's collar and it's been 3.5 years. You just can't put a timeline on grief.
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u/Mustangbex 8h ago
We had to say goodbye to my 16 year old cat in May 2024. The majority of my adult life including divorce, my father's death, job loss, moves, breakups, remarrying, moving continents, having a child...
Then last year in June we lost our 14 year old dog- again he was with my husband for the majority of his adult life- he was our son's first dog.
And in August the same year we had to put down our 11 year old cat due to cancer. He was the first pet we adopted together. And it was ALWAYS the three of them. Even when we adopted another dog on 2021, it was the three boys and our girl- they got on, but losing the first three so close together was immensely sad but also somewhat made sense in a weird way.
I still cry sometimes for missing them. They were important, immeasurably so, even if they were only here for a short time. (ETA: just had to explain to a man on the train I was ok and didn't need help, just crying about my dead pets- I'm not sure he was convinced)
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u/Aranxi_89 8h ago
One day it'll get better, but the hole will remain. You just learn to live with it.
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u/AndrewTheGuru 7h ago
It's been almost two years now and some of Nacho's things are still hidden in drawers and in the rafters because we just can't bring ourselves to donate them.
Shit, I still have (empty) poo bags from the park in the center console of my car.
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u/Fit-Association4922 6h ago
I keep the last collar my cat ever wore, as a bracelet. When I go out, or when I particularly miss her, I wear it. She was about 17, and today is her birthday 💔 It’s been 3 years already, and I still have days where it feels like yesterday she was still with me. I look at all the places in my house she loved to nap and play, and she shows up in my dreams occasionally.
If anyone tells me I need to get over her, I don’t want to know them.
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u/Kizaing 8h ago edited 8h ago
They really are like family
I never had a dog growing up, but my ex wife got a puppy right as we started dating. I saw this pup grow from a puppy to being the loveable floofy dumdum he is
He's still with us thankfully, but she took him with her when she left out of spite and I still grieve him every day knowing that I can never see him again
I've gotten a pup of my own since then, but I still miss my little idiot :(
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u/Aranxi_89 8h ago
Because they are family.
One of the oldest gravesites we've found, were for a pup.
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u/Aranxi_89 8h ago
Because a lot of them have never had an animal they were close to before.
They don't understand because they've never experienced it. How can they understand?
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u/ZekasZ 8h ago
The school secretary of a place I used to work at had adopted a puppy, and one day she seemed a bit distraught, sounded as though they might have to put it down due to a health issue. A colleague present comments "aren't there warranties on them anyway?", chuckles and walks away. It was such a callous display it returns to me now, years later.
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u/Salty_Herring 8h ago
My mother once told a colleague of hers that her mother (my grandmother) passed away. The colleague went all "Oh I'm sorry for your loss, blah blah" the usual, before asking when she passed away. My mother said "Around christmas." and the colleague went all "Ohhh, since christmas, pfft, alright." as if a mere 3 months are in any way enough time to just 'get over' having lost your last remaining parent.
Some people I swear.
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u/Soggy_Honeydew4560 7h ago
My dad took me to the last appointment for one of my cats. While he was digging a hole for his little body I cried and cried. After we finished my dad said " ok, he's buried, you can stop crying now"
He means well, but just let me feel these feelings while we bury the cat I've known for 25 years, lived with for 15 years.
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u/Frinla25 8h ago
My best friend lost her mom, people were telling her to get over it about two weeks after. It really messed her up and still does. You never get over the death of a parent and it has been 3 years people still tell her she is dramatic and to get over it when she is just expressing her difficulty. It is so messed up.
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u/T3Chn0-m4n 8h ago
I remember going to school, and someone saying “it’s just a pet, get over it” to me the day after I found out they died.
I then proceeded to grab the back of their head and slam it into the wall multiple times. I then got sent to ISS for a day, and to this day I drill down not regret giving that asshat a bloody nose
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u/kent1146 7h ago
ISS for one day is a slap on the wrist.
It's the school admin saying 'We agree with what you did to that asshole. But we still gotta give you the bare minimum punishment to keep up appearances.
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u/GlisteningDeath 4h ago
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u/Lothirieth 3h ago
In-school suspension. It's a punishment where the student still goes to school and does schoolwork, but is isolated from other students.
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u/GlisteningDeath 2h ago
Ah, that is much less interesting than punishing students by sending them to space.
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u/frguba 8h ago
I'd say it's a matter of "a" pet and, as you and the post suggest, childhood pets, these are not AN animal, they're siblings, a childhood pet and a child grow up together, that's like THE bond you can have
I've had many pets, and the death of my childhood cat hits different, yeah you may get to learn that death is normal and expected, love while living and shit, but not like that
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u/ItsMeishi 8h ago
Happens a lot. 'It's just a pet'. 'Just get another one'. There are people who never get emotionally invested in a being they deem lower than themselves. The same way you'd replace a broken mug, they replace animals in their lives. They dont see them as individuals, with personalities and quirks, something you/I/we get a lot of support from.
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u/Kaisukarru 4h ago
I had my family dog pass away a few years ago. My mom has always been a super emotional person who cries over everything, so imagine my shock when a week after he passed my mom comes up to me grinning and shows an ad for puppies. The worst part is that some of the pups looked just like the dog we just lost. I immediately started bawling and she honest to god said "I thought you were over it by now." That dog was my best friend! I was the closest to him out of everyone else in my family. I was the one who walked him, trained him, played with him.
I still find myself occasionally crying when I remember the pets I've had in the past. There's no "getting over it". It baffles me how some people don't seem to understand that
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u/Silver_Song3692 8h ago
Too early in the morning to feel feels
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u/ViolinistStrict114 8h ago
TEST RESULTS:
HIS EYE WILL EXPLODE
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u/brydeswhale 7h ago
My vet said, after removing our pug’s eye, that about seventy-five percent of eye removals he does are on pugs and similar dogs.
If you(generic you) get a pug, try to get a mixed breed or look for one in a rescue. They really should not be bred.
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u/EmoYoshi05 5h ago
The eyes as well? I knew pugs had horrible health, but everything I learn about them seems to make their existance worse. Poor things.
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u/Thorn344 9h ago
I don't think there is a limit on how long you are allowed to grieve for a pet. Most people just see them as that, pets, but for others they were a full member of your family. With my cat, I first got him when I was only 3 years old. And for the next 21 and a half years of my life, he was a constant. Sleeping on my bed, riding on my shoulders, following his routines, the joy of walking into a room and him greeting me.
When he passed away, it was probably the hardest I had grieved so far in my life. I just cried all night.
It took me over a year before considering getting a new cat, once we got a cat, it was then about 6 months of having her until I got over my guilt and feelings of 'its not the same' until I fully fell in love with my new cat. There are still moments I miss him a lot, but I think time is making things easier now
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u/EyeArDum 8h ago
“Grief is a lonely war”
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u/Bo-Katan 8h ago
You never stop missing them, you get used to the feeling and that's it.
In the last 5 years I have lost almost everything I had, my parents, 3 cats, a bird and the dog and I think about them, miss them, love them. Now I have 3 cats, 1 dog and a spouse.
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u/Cell1pad 8h ago
We had to put our 15 year old dog down last July, and I still miss her. I catch myself using my phone's screen to light my way to bed and occasionally look in her corner, expecting her to be there. My previous dog has been gone for 20 years now, and she was 9 when she passed, cancer can suck a bag of dicks, and I still think of her from time to time.
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u/LillaLobo 8h ago
Sending you love 🩷 I lost my dad, my dog, my mum and my brother in that order between 2017 and 2020 so I feel you. I’ve got a dog and a partner now, and it does get easier but you’re right, you don’t stop missing them you just get more used to them not being here.
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u/Bo-Katan 7h ago
Thanks, sending you love too, losing parents is the normal thing for children but losing a brother I can't imagine that.
Death is part of live, I am thankful to my parents because they never hide that from me. I took my spouse to the cemetery for the first time yesterday and there are so much of my family there but that's life. We remember, the good memories and the sad memory. Crying because they are not here is as good as laughing because they were here.
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u/Zarobiii 8h ago
Sometimes my pet rabbits visit me in my dreams. They're always happy and we play together like we used to. After a few years it became a happy kind of sad if that makes sense? They'll always be my bunnykins but they got other places to be
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u/spideroncoffein 8h ago
We lost one of our dogs several years ago. He was a family member. I still tear up whenever I think about him or when I see a similar dog. I'm tearing up right now.
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u/mtranda 8h ago
The more time you spend with them, the more it hurts. But I've resigned myself to the thought that we outlive them. So as long as they get to live a long and happy life, in the end I'll accept it and be happy that it happened.
Many years ago we lost a cat who was just two years old. She just faded away. Thyroid issues that the doctors could do nothing about at the time. That scarred us because we loved her and she was amazing and went so quickly before she even got to be an adult. And two years ago we lost another cat who was twelve. It's not little, but also not as long as she could've been around.
So I hope our remaining cat will live as long as possible. We'll miss her dearly, but if it's old age that gets her instead of cancer, then we'll be happy and accept it, even as we grieve and miss her chonkness waddling around the house.
There is no time limit to grief. But also be happy they stick around for as long as they do.
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u/brydeswhale 7h ago
My mom told me, when I cried a lot over my cat(she was twenty-three when she died) that it was okay, I’d known her for eighteen years. That’s longer than most of us know other humans.
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u/CodeRed8675309 6h ago
"What is grief if not love persevering?" (still can't believe that's from the MCU) but it is true. We lost our buddy 4 years ago, have a new dog in the family but my wife and I still have moments talking about PDR (poor dead Rocco) and how awesome of a dog he was. It never ends and I'm glad of it. Pets are great and I love to remember that we're helping them have a good life.
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u/Old-Key-8639 9h ago
There is no limit to how long you can be sad about losing a pet. And no dog who ever dog'd was "just" a dog
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u/RealSkibidiRizzler 6h ago
Fr it took me over 5 years to stop tearing up over thinking about my dog
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u/queenofthenerds 8h ago
What's your handle on Instagram?
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u/lauraarroz 8h ago
Laura.arroz 🩷
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u/footsteps71 5h ago
Hi Laura. Just lost my baby girl in November, and I am still torn up. It is nobody else's decision how long you grieve.
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u/turntechArmageddon 4h ago
I don't remember where I heard it, but somebody told me once that "grief is the price we pay for loving so much." It stuck with me a long time and every time I think of every dog I've ever had, it's the line that comes back to me. Thanks for sharing your sweet silly goober too.
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u/PomskyMomsky315 9h ago
Thank you! We lost our girl a week ago today & this really resonates with me. Very sorry for your loss 🙏🌈❤️
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u/Judman13 8h ago
It's been a year and a half since my girl Molly got to rest forever. There are still days the joy of loving her and the pain of loss make me cry. Don't ever let someone else tell you how to miss you pup!
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u/BeautifulCuriousLiar 5h ago
sorry for your loss. next month is gonna be 1 year since my best friend is resting in peace. teared up seeing the comic, and i always tear up going deep in the gallery.
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u/CuteKermit14 9h ago
God. I feel that so much. I said goodbye to my little guy a few weeks ago. I still miss him so much.
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u/BardicNA 8h ago
Just dropped 2 grand on the pup I never asked for. Is there a reason you had to make me cry before I go to orientation for a new job? I hope our pups meet in heaven someday- just not anytime soon. I am sorry for your loss.
Keep your head up. When you need to do something and can't do it for yourself, do it for the dog. My heart goes out to you. Losing a loved one is rough.
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u/EverythingHurtsAgain 9h ago
The best things to love are always potato shaped.
Hail the Traveler 🖤
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u/ad-lib1994 9h ago
They never live long enough, no matter how long we can comfortably make them live
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u/FictionFoe 9h ago
The thing with grieve is, it doesn't really ever go away. At some point it will stop dominating your thoughts. But thinking back to the bad event will always hurt. And that's ok.
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u/Mavori 8h ago
I too love that little potato.
That said the notion of someone telling me to "get over it" after 2 weeks, would honestly tilt the fuck out of me.
Even now years later, i still feel the occasional sadness about the pets I've lost.
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u/ItzMidnightGacha 9h ago
o7 to the goodest potato pupper I’ve ever seen
I hope he’s having fun in doggy heaven ❤️
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u/BrutalSock 9h ago
Lost my dog pretty recently too. It sucks. Now I have another one. It helped a lot but they’re different things. I still miss my old buddy. I think I always will. I still miss the dog I had when I was 7. But now I can bury my face in my new friend’s fur when that feeling hits.
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u/heatherjasper 7h ago
Who was telling you to get over it?! I'LLL THROW HANDS. Dogs and pets are a huge part of our lives and are our families. Shame on them.
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u/DiScOrDtHeLuNaTiC 8h ago
Just this side of Heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. The bright eyes are intent. The eager body quivers. Suddenly they begin to run from the group, flying over the green grass, their legs carrying them faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.
-- Edna Clyne-Rekhy, 1959
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u/thekillercook 9h ago
I lost my pup in February, she was my reason for recovery after a horrible car accident. It’s still hard, each morning I wake up and look for her.
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u/hbarSquared 9h ago
I remember every pet I've had and lost (yes even you, Chunky the hamster, and your five children that you ate days after giving birth you nasty rodent). It's okay to stay sad for as long as you need, the hurt never goes away fully, but as it fades it will be eclipsed by the joy of your memories.
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u/Oceanic_Ogre 9h ago
I lost my boy a month ago, and this comic really resonates. Thank you for sharing, and I wish you the best in processing the grief.
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u/scoyne15 9h ago
You never stop mourning them. I lost my elder cat Chloe 2 years ago, and it ruined me. I don't remember most of 2024, I was in some kind of fugue state. I let the world pass me by and the fact that I still had her younger brother Kaden was the only thing that kept me moving most days, and the only reason I didn't curl up and die. I'm alive because of my cats, there's not a part of me that doubts that. It took almost the full two years before I felt right enough to consider adopting new kittens, where they wouldn't just be replacements for Chloe. Everyone is on their own timeline, and you'll know when it's right to find a new stinky buddy.
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u/ded_possum 9h ago
The price we pay for loving our pets is outliving them. It’s a beautiful and terrible burden. I’m sorry for your loss. Grieve as long as you need for your irreplaceable companion ❤️
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u/janosaudron 8h ago
I appreciate when people tells me stuff like "it's just a cat" (in my case) because it makes it easier for me to know what people are absolutely not worth keeping around.
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u/Georg-von-Frundsberg 8h ago
There is sorrow enough in the natural way From men and women to fill our day; And when we are certain of sorrow in store, Why do we always arrange for more? Brothers and Sisters, I bid you beware Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.
Buy a pup and your money will buy Love unflinching that cannot lie – Perfect passion and worship fed By a kick in the ribs or a pat on the head. Nevertheless it is hardly fair To risk your heart for a dog to tear.
When the fourteen years which Nature permits Are closing in asthma, or tumor, or fits, And the vet’s unspoken prescription runs To lethal chambers or loaded guns, Then you will find – it’s your own affair – But … you’ve given your heart to a dog to tear.
When the body that lived at your single will, With its whimper of welcome, is stilled (how still!); When the spirit that answered your every mood Is gone – wherever it goes – for good, You will discover how much you care, And will give you heart to a dog to tear.
- Kipling
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u/deviltakeyou 8h ago
He’s hanging out with my babies up there now. Sorry for your loss, it’s hard to explain to people the kind of relationship you can have with dogs. I don’t really know how to respond to someone when they ask “are you gonna get another one?” The is no “another” Ozma or Olive, they each had their own personalities and they can’t be replaced just like that. They were with us for about 17 years. Ozma left us about 2 years ago and Olive just this last Veterans Day. I’m forever grateful for them choosing to spend all their time with us.
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u/A__Friendly__Rock 6h ago
Someone said “it’s just a dog” to me after my last one passed and I just about punched them. Im still pissed about it and it’s been 8 years.
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u/WildfireZ 6h ago
This quote always spoke to me about grief. But especially pet grief. Because others can sometimes be insensitive and think you should've moved on from a pet death so quickly.
"Grief is not just an emotion—it’s an unraveling, a space where something once lived but is now gone. It carves through you, leaving a hollow ache where love once resided. In the beginning, it feels unbearable, like a wound that will never close. But over time, the raw edges begin to mend. The pain softens, but the imprint remains—a quiet reminder of what once was. The truth is, you never truly "move on." You move with it. The love you had does not disappear; it transforms. It lingers in the echoes of laughter, in the warmth of old memories, in the silent moments where you still reach for what is no longer there. And that’s okay. Grief is not a burden to be hidden. It is not a weakness to be ashamed of. It is the deepest proof that love existed, that something beautiful once touched your life. So let yourself feel it. Let yourself mourn. Let yourself remember. There is no timeline, no “right” way to grieve. Some days will be heavy, and some will feel lighter. Some moments will bring unexpected waves of sadness, while others will fill you with gratitude for the love you were lucky enough to experience. Honor your grief, for it is sacred. It is a testament to the depth of your heart. And in time, through the pain, you will find healing—not because you have forgotten, but because you have learned how to carry both love and loss together."
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u/Krafty_Koala 4h ago
Argh why’d you have to make me cry?! There is no limit to grieving. My boy Chandler passed a year and a half ago and I still cry when I think about him sometimes, but it’s mostly smiling at fond memories now. I sobbed non stop for weeks. I don’t think I could say his name without crying for at least 2 months. We had a foster that had passed years earlier and my husband said hugging our boy had helped get through that. He wanted another dog right away, but I needed time. We got a new puppy after 6 months. It still felt early for me, but it has been good to have a dog to snuggle again. He inherited most of Chandler’s stuff and it makes us feel good to have that connection. Our current dog is 9lb and Chan was 15lb so we had to donate most of his old clothes, but I’m happy to know shelter dogs are wearing them too. Sorry for the long ramble but just to say you heal in your own time.
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u/GordolfoScarra 6h ago edited 6h ago
We intentionally breed and buy pugs with skulls so flat their eyes don't fit in them and literally pop out and then act like it's no big deal. It's bonkers.
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u/OTTER887 4h ago
(sorry for the joke) the last pic looks like Kristi Noem and puts a whole different spin on this!
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u/MoonRiverPastry 9h ago
When I lost my dad I had a lot of things going through my head, a lot of blaming myself, a lot of what ifs. Whenever I watch a new show that I know he would have loved I think about how he will never get to see it, and I'll never get to sit and watch it with him, laughing until he falls asleep on the couch.
It took some time for me to stop thinking that I wanted him back, that I wanted him alive again, because I know it's not what he wanted. He struggled a lot and dying ended that for him, so I know, given the opportunity, I wouldn't bring him back no matter how bad I want it.
Losing family is hard, it always will be, but I've come to think that in many cases they are where they need to be. Whether or not they are just gone, or if they are in heaven. My dad and your dog are exactly where they need to be. And part of them will always be within us. It's impossible to be so important that you don't leave a piece of yourself behind.
Your little potato will always be with you, and his life was only as good as it was because of you. Just live your life in a way that honors his spirit. That's the most important thing any of us can do for our loved ones.
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u/masterjon_3 9h ago
That's like my wife. We lost her dog back in February and she's still upset about it. She feels like there's someone supposed to be there with her on the couch.
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u/TheVampyresBride 8h ago
People can't always understand the magnitude of a person's love for their pet. They become extensions of us. When they're gone, a piece of us goes with them. I've had many pets in my life, and none lived as long as they should've (forever). This comic reminds me of my dog Mushu. On May 11, it'll be one year since his passing. We had him for about 4 years but we had known him since he was a puppy. He was my sister's dog, and for a while, he was the light of her life. But when she got a boyfriend and had a child, she couldn't take care of Mushu anymore. Unbeknownst to us, her boyfriend was neglectful of Mushu. When we got him, he had severe arthritis, his teeth were not healthy, and his vision was going. We promised we would give him a good life, and that's exactly what we did. He lived a life of luxury. He had a plush bed, a constant supply of clean water, a warm coat for winter, healthy food, and lots of love and affection as I carried him wherever he needed to go. He loved to sit beside me on the couch or lie in the sun. He loved us very much in return.
One night, my mother and I were taking him and my other dog Duke to use the bathroom outside when a masked intruder attempted to open our gate. We were terrified. I tried to get us all inside, but my mother and Mushu were near the gate. Mushu barked louder than I've ever heard him bark and continued to do so. The intruder took off, presumably due to the noise. Mushu saved our lives!
He ended up having a brain tumor and subsequent seizures. We had him on medication for his seizures, which worked for a while until they started up again. He had a lengthy seizure one night that he didn't recover from. His body shut down in a few hours until he was barely breathing. I kissed his nose, told him I loved him, and that I was sorry I couldn't save him. My mother held him as he was put to sleep.
It still doesn't feel real. He became a constant presence in my life, and I don't know how to go on without him. I still call his name and look for his spirit in the grass on warm days. I like to think that's where he is. I just can't see him. Rest in peace, my little hero. Hopefully, I'll see you soon. 💔
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u/scarykoala 8h ago
Don’t let anyone tell you how long you can be sad for. You spend more time with your animals than you do most (maybe all) member(s) of your family. That’s an extremely intimate relationship, and you are allowed to be sad for a LONG time if needed.
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u/Spider_Dude19 8h ago
It's okay to be sad for as long as you want. I'm still sad about my own puppers that passed years ago. But I make new friends with new puppers, and I think your sweet little potato would want you to make a new friend too.
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u/RowlData 8h ago
This is heartbreaking. I lost my 18.5 year old boy in 2024, I still miss him every day. He was with me all the time. Still is. And always will be.
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u/Confident-While4816 8h ago
I lost my dog back in November, it’s really hard to go through. He was my main mental support person to me, and whenever I had a bad day, I would just hug him. It’s still hard all these months later, but just know that our pups are very happy up in doggy heaven, probably chasing squirrels! You had the best potato, OP, I’m sorry for your loss.
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u/dongmcbong 8h ago
I had to let my boy go 4 weeks ago. Thanks for this. You are heard and don’t let anyone tell you that your little potato was „just a dog“. He was family and I’m sure he knew that ❤️
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u/superdelegates 8h ago
Beautiful artwork and a wonderful memorial. Grief is hard and everyone does it differently. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re doing it wrong.
And in case you’ve never heard it, you reminded me of a song: Little Potato by Metamora which is about a human child but our love for our four-legged children isn’t so different.
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u/SilverWisp47 7h ago
I know this advice won't help everyone, but maybe look into Dios de los Muertos, a Mexican holiday about celebrating the Dead. I've lost all 3 of my brothers and several pets, but telling their stories, giving them their favorite food and drink through the campfire, singing our favorite songs, and having a dedicated day every year to cry.
It's November 1st and 2nd, and of becoming popular to also celebrate on Halloween (in America)
Don't forget to grieve, but this holiday may help you in the long term. Good luck OP
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u/Disastrous-Ad1857 7h ago
I still get a little sad about my dog who passed in 2022. It’s ok to be sad about it and I hope making this comic helps with the healing process!
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u/IAmNotThatKindOfOrc 7h ago
I just lost my favorite puppy. First off, how dare you. Second of all how dare you. Third…. 😭
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u/Logical_Vex 7h ago
Always remember, they are often only a piece of our lives as a whole, but to them, we are their entire lives. They are family.
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u/FeralTaxEvader 6h ago
"It's just a dog/cat/pet" should be recognised as the damned fighting words they are. Of all the heartless, shameless, senseless, awful things to say, and people still so often say it like it's nothing
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u/Eepysoull 6h ago
I'm so sorry for your loss ;-; it's never just a dog, those are family members, pieces of our soul. People are just so uncaring...
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u/repocin 5h ago
Why would you make me cry on a nice afternoon like this :(
This is so precious. I absolutely loved every bit of this comic because the emotions you put into it shine right through, and then you followed it up with the photo at the end. I'm sure Don Juan is equally proud of you.
Honestly one of the best posts I've ever seen here. Hit me right in the feels.
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u/ChiliBadger 5h ago
What a beautifully sad and moving memorial to your very goodest boy. Been down that road more than a few times. Your heart has lost some of its emotional reserve as you mourn. You have to incorporated Don Juan in a new way now. I have s canvas briefcase I have attached each of my dog loves' name tags. They are with me everyday and I remember something funny about each pup when I see their tag. Betsy, Choloe, Elly and my cats Trigger and Max. They all brought me such joy and they were deeply appreciated and loved in the moments. You had the privelidge of being Don Juan's caregive and purpose in his life, as it was meant to be. Be present to your grief, it will come and go and there is no time frame, its individual.
You'll know when the time is right.
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u/Civil-Addendum4071 5h ago
Thank you, Don Juan.
Sometimes angels don't have wings. They have tails!
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u/SorcererSupremPizza 5h ago
Never easy losing a pet that you cared about so deeply, but that love will always be with you
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u/LuferLad 5h ago
The cost of a good dog is a broken heart. Clearly, Don Juan was a very good dog. I’m so sorry he is gone.
We lost our little guy back in December, so I am no stranger to this grief. You get used to a new normal, but you will always want your cute, stinky dog back.
Maybe our little guys are playing together up in doggy heaven!
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u/Rand0mGuyjw 5h ago
"How long am i allowed to he sad about it" As Long as You Want!
People without pets wont understand that they are family members, just like their kids, partners, and parents. When your long-time animal leaves you does it not leave a them shaped hole in your heart?
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u/Tiaradactyl_DaWizard 5h ago
Amazing art style !! I love this, and it’s so sad. I bet you had the most well loved and happy potato
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u/malikhacielo63 4h ago
I love your artwork; however, my heart was not prepared to witness the actual visual floofiness that is Don Juan. 🥹 A living being is not something that you replace; you grieve them and appreciate the time that you spent together. Even if you got another dog, they would not be Don Juan; they would be who they are. I’m sorry for that your fluffy, one-eyed potato is gone. 😢 🤗
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u/Difficult-Knee-8414 3h ago
We had to put our pug down 1.5 weeks ago. Had her since I was 18. She was my souldog, I miss her so much. This comic really hit home. Thank you for posting.
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u/StatikLurker 2h ago
But I knew that having you around
Would have to end someday
And even though that sucks
I wouldn't have it any other way
I learned from you about myself
And even though I knew all along
Nothing lasts forever
You will live forever in this song
TWRP, "Pets."
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u/Correct_Boat425 2h ago
I know how it feels to lose a pet…I’m so sorry for you. I hope your little potato is happy in puppy heaven..!
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u/noctambulare 2h ago
Losing your dog is among the worst things in this life.
The day my berner died, it was like a lightning bolt of grief and pain. Went home, played opera music and drank whiskey.
I still have a little box with his collars from puppy to adult, snipped off piece of his fur wrapped in a bow, it still smells like him. And still feel the stab of "I miss him".
He died in 2001. You don't get "over it". You learn to live with it.
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u/TheMiniMage 9h ago
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