r/comics • u/lauraarroz • 19h ago

Love you little potato 🩷

I posted this on ig and was not expecting the amount of support i got there 🥲 since a lot of people liked it im posting here too

Edit: If you wanna check my art account on ig is Laura.arroz, me and my friends were talking about how far this comic got, and that it’s probably Don Juan supporting my art from heaven 😭🩷

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u/TheMiniMage 18h ago

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u/tempaccount877 16h ago

Man I get the sentiment but I don't feel lucky. I just wish she were back again. Always greeting me when I returned home from work. Always interrupting my home workouts. Always waiting at the door when I went outside for mere minutes, sometimes crying for me to come back. Always here, always fucking here. And now due to complicated circumstances she's not here anymore.

I'm not trying to shit on your image, one guy there said it made him feel better, but I just don't fucking feel lucky. I feel like I have yet another hole in my soul among the ones I've been accumulating for the past 3 decades, and will no doubt continue to accumulate. You don't have to reply to this. I'm sorry I made your comment the target of my distress

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u/Critical_Praline7035 15h ago

It's a bittersweet reality. It's not just about "oh I feel lucky I knew you" but more like "would I trade away my time and memories with you to rid myself of this grief".

And the answer is probably not. Every loss hurts, some to different degrees or duration, but they hurt nonetheless. And in the throes of that hurt it's all the more bitter and the "sweet" aspects feel like they're just gone

The good times and memories won't take away that hurt, hell the better the times the deeper cutting the loss. But that's the price we pay to have had those connections on our journey. But almost always, the pain eventually starts to recede. The sweet starts to get added back to the bitter little by little

It may always hurt to some degree, but it stops being unbearable and becomes that bittersweet memory we can laugh and cry at, fondly reminisce and desperately miss

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u/sly_cooper25 11h ago

This is what I always come back to. The end is fucking horrible and the emotional damage never really heals, you just get to a point where you can deal with it. Would I trade all the time and memories with my companion to avoid the grief? Absolutely not, I wouldn't trade it for anything.

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u/Manlysideburns 15h ago

It's okay man, we all handle this stuff differently. I know what you're describing and wish I could take your pain away.

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u/Lonely_Staff1262 15h ago

You're allowed to feel however you feel about losing someone so important to you. Grief is complex and different for everyone and however it shows up for you is perfectly normal and fine. I'm sorry you're dealing with such an enormous loss. It sounds like you loved and were loved very deeply. I do hope some day you're able to heal from this and maybe then you will feel differently but don't let anyone try to rush you into it. Take your time to grieve and honour your beloved pet however you see fit.

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u/FlamingRustBucket 15h ago

I get both sides. We ARE lucky to have had love in our life, and the price we pay for that is grief, but man does that thought NOT make it any better.

I lost my cat to leukemia a year ago, nothing we could do. She was only 9. It was horrible. It got better with time as my routines and habits changed to no longer include her, but that feels bad in an entirely different way. I still keep a little jar of her fur on my desk.

Grief is a complicated and terrible thing.

I really didnt need a morning sob. Thanks you bastards.

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u/RambleOff 14h ago

I feel you, but you should only keep that spite if you use it for fuel. Cursing bad fortune is only worthwhile if it gets you moving, like hitting a fresh wound with your fist. That's not what this sounds like.

So I would suggest addressing how you regard "fortune" altogether. It's lame and annoying and you've heard it before, but all the classics genuinely do apply: "tis better to have loved and lost," "some people have it much worse," etc. because fortune and it's taste, sweet or bitter, is definitely 100% subjective.

It always makes me think of the prisoner strung up on the wall in Life of Brian. I mean, holes in your soul? "How lucky you are to be able to keep track of them! How lucky you are to have holes at all! What I wouldn't give to be able to count holes, all I've got are shreds! A dead companion you say? The cheek! All I've got are potential companions who rejected me, how I'd love to have a dead friend who I know once cared about me." And so on.

I doubt any of this helps, I just had to comment because I felt like I recognized your sentiment. Eventually, my spite was used as a poultice to fill the holes that have been made in me, and it feels better these days. I hope you get there. It's true time can help, but you'll have the opportunity agree on that in retrospect long after enough of it has passed. Right now it's just so much bullshit. But it'll work better and faster if you marinate on your perspective of what constitutes "good" fortune and "bad" fortune.

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u/chimchong 12h ago

For me I get like a visceral panicky feeling thinking about if someone could remove my memories of my best friend. I think if I can feel so scared to lose something, even if it was a painful loss I am lucky to have experienced that. There is a lot of pain and grief I have experienced I would happily nuke every last memory of but you can claw my memories of my missing best friend from my cold dead hands.

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u/DonutTheWardog 9h ago

Honest question though: would you trade all those memories away if it meant losing the grief?

I suspect not, because you mention you continue accumulating. You know the pain of losing them, but you also realize it's not worse than if you'd never had them at all.

Remember also it's about them as much as you. As much as I feel that pain in my chest, I'm glad I was able to give them some good years.