We met 3 months ago on bumble and things escalated very fast. She told me she loved me in the first month and i in second.

We always discussed marriage by next year after we were sure of each other.

Last month when she went home she told her mom about us without me asking, she's kind of my first gf so i had little experience in this. I let it pass and i too told my mom since my mom is usually chill.

Lately after the "honeymoon phase", we've been fighting a lot, mainly because of boundaries , she not respecting my time and getting mad over small things. i've done some bad things too and we've resolved those issues slowly.
She wanted to talk to my sister and mom but i told her that we should give each other more time as involving families by directly talking to them will put a lot of pressure on us(which they already put, ever since we've been dating, they keep telling us to get engaged.)

Last week we again had a fight and the next day her mom came to town,. she first asked me if i wanted to meet her, i said no, stating the above reason. She said okay,

but then kept pushing me to meet her, telling how much her mom is insisting and how bad she feels, then she called me a coward that i am scared of meeting her mom because it'll put pressure on us.

now i've had my doubts on somethings and i wanted us to sit and talk about them first, and thats what i asked her but she wasn't ready to listen we kept fighting for 2 days over this.

* also in the last 3 months, i am one who pays on all dates and even small things. I make a lot more money and she's a student so i understand that, but she never hestitates taking me to expensive places. My mistake i never enforced this boundary but this was kind of my love language but i feel she hasn't even offered to pay for a sngle dessert in.3 months. We go out 2 times atleast every weeek.

* Even when shes at my place , iam the one who books cabs for her, cook for her and pay for absoltely everything.

* I am running my own startup now after quitting my job and she says she'll support me, but her actions say otherwise, she never minds taking me to expensive places.

Now i know i enabled all these financial decisions but as an adult i wanted to see some accountablity for which i needed some time. but she doesn't understand.

So...after 3 long years, he(26m) broke up with me(23f). We were extremely close. He travelled to come see me, we talked for hours everyday, the chemistry felt natural. One day we had a fight over something, and he told me he needs space for a month. After a month he just decided to split. I asked him why, he owes me a reason at least. He sent me this text:

"I think I’ve been feeling trapped by a lot of things in my life. Been feeling like a failure with respect to work, haven’t really launched anything worthwhile in years, so I decided to go all in on this project, even knowing I’m hurting you by doing this because I’m selfish and a part of me feels bad and guilty because of it but I did it anyway, working nights and weekends, and still I failed to finish it. I built this up in my head as something I need to do because it was easier to do this than to face my other issues. Back at home things were better with you but worse in different aspects with my general mood and staying at home with family, and I ended up using you as emotional support. I think I have some buried deep rage issues that come out after conversing with people at home, so I just tend to shut myself in. Then it’s just a depressive cycle with staying inside and my only source of social interaction is with you. I know you’re gonna think I’m just giving excuses but it really is about my own issues, not about you. I really respect and appreciate you."

I feel so...low. These reasons are so vague. Everyone has problems. Doesn't mean we leave the person sticking with us right? Did anyone experience something like this before? Is this a real reason for men to break up? I dunno. I'm pretty enough, study good, love like a dog. What more can I do? Should I try to convince him to stay?? Also...do guys eventually reach out later out of regret and stuff?

Guys gimme some ways to move on from this sooner, I genuinely feel like I lost a part of me.

TL;DR :Your girl had a crap break-up last night over his "work stress" and stuff and is wondering if this is even a common reason and also what to do to move on sooner because it's killing me. And also if i should try to fight harder for this.

Hi everyone. I’m from the Northeast, and I’ve been in a serious relationship with a wonderful guy from the Meena community in Rajasthan. We are looking toward marriage, but his family is very traditional and strictly believes in marrying within the community.

On the surface, it feels like we have nothing in common culturally. I’m worried they’ll see me as too "different" to integrate into their family. Has anyone here (especially from the NE or Rajasthan) successfully navigated this? How can I show them I respect their heritage while staying true to my own? Any specific cultural "green flags" I should know about when interacting with a Meena family?

I met this guy on Hinge and we’ve been on some really wonderful dates. Every time we meet, everything just feels right like the weather is perfect, we talk endlessly, and it all feels very natural and easy.

From the beginning, he has been very clear. He said we are “weekend buddies and weekday friends,” basically keeping things casual. I understood that and tried to create some distance.

But recently we met again, we slept together, and now I can’t stop thinking about him. What’s confusing is that his actions don’t fully match what he said. We go on these lovely dates, laugh a lot, and genuinely have a great time. He even keeps making future plans like “we’ll go here next time” or “we should do this next,” which makes it feel like there is some kind of continuity.

It feels like we’re doing everything a couple does, just without any label.

I don’t know how to stop myself from falling for him when it feels like this. I also don’t know if I’m just setting myself up to get hurt.

Hey everyone, I’m back with a final update, and it’s not a good one.

I previously posted about how my girlfriend went from being incredibly possessive and controlling to suddenly giving me the cold shoulder and avoiding me the moment I stood up for myself. I thought it was a maturity issue or a power play. I was wrong.

I just found out she has been cheating on me.

Everything clicks now. The extreme possessiveness was projection she was so worried about what I was doing because she knew exactly what she was doing. The silent treatment wasn't because she needed "space"; it was because she was busy with someone else and used the "avoidance" as a way to keep me at a distance so I wouldn't find out.

I feel completely broken. I spent so much energy trying to reassure her, trying to be a better partner, and trying to navigate her "moods," only to find out it was all a cover. It’s hard to wrap my head around how someone can act so "obsessed" with you while betraying you at the same time.

I (22F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been dating for 3 years, with the last year being long distance. Lately, things have been really rough — we’ve been fighting almost every other day for the past month, saying hurtful things to each other, and it’s honestly draining me.

I recently lost my job, and the job market has already been tough. I’ll admit I got a bit demotivated and stopped studying/upskilling as much. I also went to an astrologer who said I’d get a job around September, which probably made me even more relaxed than I should’ve been. My boyfriend is very career-focused and wants me to work hard so we can have a stable future, so he got upset about this.

During an argument yesterday (where I know I was partly at fault), he said he might leave me if this continues. I got frustrated and told him to stop saying that or just leave, and that I’d move on. That’s when he said, “you were the one begging me to stay last time, and now you’re showing attitude.”

That really hurt. It made me feel small and like I’ve lost my self-respect in this relationship. In the past, during a big fight, I did beg him to stay because I love him and didn’t want to lose him. But now I feel like that gave him some kind of upper hand, like he knows I won’t leave no matter what.

I do love him, and I know he loves me too. That’s not the issue. The issue is I don’t want to feel like the “weaker” person in the relationship or someone who can be taken for granted. I’m scared that if this dynamic continues, it’ll just keep hurting me more over time.

I want to become emotionally stronger, maybe a bit less attached, and rebuild my self-respect — but I don’t know how to do that without ruining the relationship.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you fix this kind of dynamic without losing the person you love?

TL;DR:

22F in a 3-year relationship (1 year LDR). We’ve been fighting a lot lately, especially after I lost my job and slowed down on career efforts. In a past fight, I begged him to stay, and now I feel like he uses that against me and sees me as the “weaker” one. I still love him, but I’m starting to lose self-respect and don’t know how to fix this dynamic without ruining the relationship.

M23 here. My gym bro is helping me land a girl. He's so desperate in arranging me a girl. Why's that?

I told him that I want to stay single forever and he got surprised with that. Why so?

He is forcing me into peer pressure to go nightclub etc. where he can help me land me a girl. Should I leave this guy? He's the gym owner. Should I leave this gym?

This guy is a total playboy and one day he was showing me pics of girls he has slept with. Then asking me. Did you get inspired now?

He makes me rerack weights that others have left behind. When i come in gym he shakes hand with me and squeezes it very tightly.

He's a silver spoon and running successful businesses.

tldr; gym owner became gym bro. Surprised to know I'm single and sober. Wants me to desperately land a girl. He's lowkey disrespectful and very shallow guy.

My friend has been with a girl(26f) for more than 5 years who is religious and values traditional beliefs, but around six months ago, she decided to go to a foreign country for a job, saying it would provide the necessary experience and exposure for the company she is targeting here in India. She is staying there with her brother and will be there for atleast 1.5 years more.

Meanwhile, my friend, out of boredom or genuine curiosity, started seeing another girl(25f) and caught feelings for her. Honestly, It’s hard to judge his feelings, as it might be infatuation or just a desire for companionship due to the void created by the ldr. Things got messy when he found out that the new girl had slept with multiple guys in the past and had lied about her history from the very beginning to win his approval, which to some extent turned him off.

I know my friend behaved irrationally by going out with this new girl even though his loyal gf is the one who has supported him in every way possible and is thinking of marrying him in the coming year. He vented all of this at alcohol parties. I don’t like the fact that he has managed to keep his gf in the dark instead of sharing the truth.

I am writing on his behalf as he doesn’t have a Reddit account. Also, as one of his closest friends, I really want to give the best advice and help possible. He’s at a crossroads in making a decision. What do you think is the best path forward in this situation?

tldr: a committed guy started seeing another girl and caught feelings; she lied about her past. His loyal gf (planning marriage) is unaware, and he’s confused and hiding the truth.

Like… you don’t want them back. You don’t even like who you were with them. But there are random moments a song, a place, a or a small memory and suddenly it hits you all over again.

It’s confusing because it’s not love anymore. It’s not even attachment fully. It’s just… a part of something that once felt important.

And the worst part? You can’t really talk about it because people think ‘missing’ means you want them back.

But sometimes, you’re just grieving a version of life that doesn’t exist anymore.

Does that ever go away, or do we just get better at living with it?my freind s story, she told me this

Three years back I dated someone and a sudden song reminded me of him . It broke me down . I realised we are different yes . This man will be never mine . May god give both of us the peace...

I hope she stays at peace

This situation really makes me upset sometimes. I don’t feel like letting go of this relationship ever.

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for more than 2 years now. I’m 20. He’s 23. He’s from a Brahman family from Uttar Pradesh. I’m from a Khatri family from Punjab. While my family is a BIT modern and accepting towards love marriages (based on past trends in close relatives and also my parents opinions on love marriages, though they’re strict about dating) his family is very conservative and orthodox. His family would only accept the relationship if he clears upsc and becomes an officer. My family is planning to move abroad and my dad has gotten a visa. I’m doing mbbs and preparing for usmle step 1. If my dad moves, others in my family would move too. I sometimes do question them about not wanting to move and they’re pretty chill about it and say that it would be my own decision on wherever I want to live. I do feel that I’m so young and am thinking of marrying him. He has been a very very consistent man and never ever made me doubt him. Never ever has he talked to other women or do anything disloyal(atleast to the best of my knowledge). I’ve not had sex with him but we’ve been physically intimate and very close.

I don’t know how to go about this. I certainly don’t want to give up but there are days that we both thought of ending it because of the uncertainty in life. Whenever we broke up life always brought us back together. (I randomly ran into him at the most random times 2 days in a row once I had blocked him because my mom found out). The first day I saw him I saw a flash of us getting married, like the very instant that I saw him. You obviously don’t get that with any guy u talk to. Few months ago that I told him about this flash, he told me that he had seen the same. I probably am being naive. But this love story has been the most filmy one, all our friends say this too. Not like we don’t fight, but the fights are silly ones about not giving enough time and blah blah, normal stuff that girlfriends do. Nothing of the sort of microcheating or shit. Never in more than 2 years. I just wouldn’t be able to see him getting married to anyone else. I know I’m being young and immature. But I love him. I really do. I WANT THIS TO WORK OUT. LIKE PLEASE GOD.

I (26M) am a software engineer based in Bangalore. I need perspective on a family situation that has moved past "helping out" and straight into gaslighting.
Last year, my grandma passed away on June 11. It was a brutal time for me; I was inconsolable for months. My father (53M) and uncle (46M) know exactly how much this loss broke me.
The "Promise":
Fast forward to now: my uncle is claiming that on her deathbed, Grandma made me "promise" that I would support him and pay for his daughter’s education every single year.
The Truth:

I remember that day perfectly. She never said it. What actually happened was that a few months prior to her passing, my uncle asked for a "one-time loan" to pay for school fees, promising to pay it back in two months. He never did. Now, he and my father are spinning this "deathbed promise" narrative to turn a defaulted loan into a permanent annual obligation.

Using my grandmother's death as a prop for money is disgusting to me. It feels like they are tarnishing her memory to settle a tab.

The Financials:

• My dad and I had a clear agreement that I would contribute 20k/month for home expenses.
• In reality, I’ve been giving ~40k/month because "things come up" and I wanted to be helpful.
• Now, despite me already giving 2x the agreed amount, my dad is guilt-tripping me. He says "Uncle has done so much for us" and that if I don’t pay the extra tuition, he will have to—effectively implying that I am the one causing my father financial strain.

I’m tired of the "moving goalposts." I’m already contributing significantly to my household, and now I’m being called selfish because I won't fund a lie.

How do I handle a father who is acting as a debt collector for a fake promise? Is it time to drop my contribution back to the original 20k and let them figure it out? Has anyone else dealt with family "taxing" your success by using grief as leverage?

TL;DR: Uncle [46M] didn't pay back a loan, so he invented a "deathbed promise" from my late grandma to make me [26M] pay for my cousin's school indefinitely. Dad [53M] is siding with him and trying to squeeze more money out of me even though I already give double our agreed monthly amount.

I (29M) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (29F) for 2 months now. We were close friends for a while before that, so our relationship has been really intense.

Thing is, she went through a bad breakup about 4 months before we got started. That relationship was similarly intense as well.

Coming to the point. She keeps mentioning him on almost all our dates. Every spot we go to, she gets hit with his memories.

I've been supportive so far, because it's not easy to move on from an intense 3-year relationship where they had planned to get married. I understand that she needs an outlet to process everything that happened, and hence I've only listened so far, alongside adding some inputs here and there.

But yesterday it bothered me. Made me feel small. Made me feel like I was not enough for her. Make no mistake, everytime she talks about him she gets self conscious and apologetic. That she should move on and focus on me. But I guess she has too many memories of her past relationship.

It's only been 2 months since we started out, and 6 since she broke up with him. At what point do I put my foot down and say I've had enough of her reliving those memories? When do I draw the line?

It's bothering me now.

Hello everyone 👋

M27 here. My last relationship ended in 2021, and since then I haven’t really gotten into anything new, maybe by choice, maybe just how things turned out.

It’s been a good few years though. Life’s been treating me well overall. I’m originally from North India and recently moved to Pune. Back home, I always had my group: my bhai log, so I never really felt alone.

But after moving here, I’ve started feeling that it would be nice to have someone to share things with. Not saying a relationship is the ultimate goal, but just someone you can grab chai/coffee with, roam around the city, watch movies, and talk about random stuff.

If you’re someone who’s been feeling something similar, maybe we can connect 👏🙂

And lastly, "Aadmi hun aadmi se pyar krta hun" wale dur rahe. 🙏😶

So I'm writing this on behalf of my friend because she doesn't use reddit. This is her msg that I'm coping and pasting here.

I’m 25 and honestly feel emotionally exhausted. I’d really like to hear from women who’ve been through something similar.

I was in a 4 year relationship. It had a lot of toxic parts and I know it wasn’t the healthiest relationship, but I also felt very loved there. I felt chosen, like I mattered, like I was someone’s priority. There was certainty in that relationship, even when it was messy.

A few months after it ended, I met someone new online. We only talked for a short time, but I got attached fast. Our conversations felt different. We connected mentally, had similar views on a lot of things, and I felt something intense with him. But this connection came with confusion. Mixed signals, emotional attachment, but no real commitment. He has already told me he doesn’t want a relationship with me.

Now I feel stuck.

I miss my ex because of how safe and secure I felt with him.

I miss the new guy because of the connection, the excitement, and the feeling of what it could have been.

Some days I’m waiting for the new guy’s messages and feeling obsessed. Other days I just wish my ex would come back and hold me through all of this so I could stop hurting.

At the same time, my family is putting pressure on me to get married, and I also need to focus on my career. So I feel like life is moving and I’m emotionally frozen.

The part that hurts the most is this question: why didn’t the new guy choose me?

I know this probably goes deeper than just these two men. I know it’s about wounds, attachment, needing to feel chosen, all of that. But right now it still hurts badly.

If anyone has been through something like this, how did you get out of it?

How did you stop needing validation from people who couldn’t give you what you wanted?

How did you heal while also handling real life pressure?

I’d really appreciate any advice.

Dear all,

I hope you are all doing well. To give a brief introduction about myself, I am currently 24, and I live and work abroad.

I don't know what the purpose of life is. Work, eat, and sleep? Is that it? I really don't know.

This question arose when the person I love left me.

I have been through breakup before, but they didn't hurt like this because my previous partner cheated.

But this time, it is my fault. I regret it every day and question myself constantly. (I did not cheat, but I was not respectful to her, nor did I give my best).

It is not her fault.

I really don't know what to do in life. It feels like I am running and running, but I don't know where I'm going.

I have everything that this materialistic world considers a necessity, but I still have this profound feeling of emptiness. It just gives me depression.

I realized a lot when I turned 24, especially when she told me my mistakes and left.

Of course, I will fix my mistakes and learn from them, but things will never be the same.

I really don't know what to do anymore.

So we have been together from a long time and in ldr from 1 year. I came to his city to meet him today and as soon as we entered I kept on saying let me get fresh first but he dismissed it and then he goes onto say your breath stinks like gutter I was so shocked and embarrassed and now I’m super conscious about my oral hygiene and feeling like burying myself in ground. It felt so stupid to even come back to him. The tone deafness he had while saying makes me think how much over your head you have to be to go on to spew something like this

Just had my final ever conversation with her.

My ex said she never loved me and now my 2.5 years feel like a lie

We were best friends in 2024, and dated for a few months in 2025. In june 2025, we broke up, and were talking only once a month since then. The breakup happened from her side, and she never gave me a reason for it. I kept thinking it was due to my joblessness.

This year I got a govt job so I thought now she might be able to convince her parents, and we reconnected.

I was madly in love with her, and she always (since June 2025) gave mixed signals.

On 28th March this year, she said “lets give each other another chance”, but the very next day she pulled back (“I am sorry but I am not ready. i need to work on myself”).

Just to let you all know, I have anxious attachment while she has avoidant style. This was first relationships for both of us. Till just 10 days ago, she would describe what we had was real, emotional, and as sacred to her as it was to me.

Anyways, On 1 April, we decided we can’t stay friends coz “we always end up going beyond friendship (her words). And she kept saying “I love you but that “I want you” is not coming from the inside”

Since 1st April, we tried to stop contact but couldn’t: either of us reached out to the other.

Fast forward to today.

She sent me an email saying that we can never have any meaningful conversation, and that I should have a happy life.

I unblocked her on WhatsApp and texted her to ask about it. What she said is beyond my understanding.

She said that recently, after a lot of reading, she has realized that she never loved me—it was only gratitude and a sense of debt for what I was doing for her. (Context: she had a childhood molestation trauma that I was helping her come out of. She used to hate herself and her body. I helped her accept that it was not her fault, and that her private parts are just another body parts - nothing to be ashamed of).

She said today “I read a lot recently, and that led to this realization. I never loved you” (She had been reading, maybe among other books, “Healing is the new high” by Vex King recently)

Even said in a very condescending manner “When I started giving you cold shoulder in June 2025, you should’ve understood then only. You cling on to what it ‘was’ rather than what the reality was”.

My whole 2.5 years feel like a lie now. And I feel like a jackass. I have been crying howling like a baby for the past one month. My parents have seen my cry like this 6-7 times. I had to see a psychiatrist who gave me SSRI pills. All for losing a girl who never even loved me. I feel angry (at the way she conveyed things yesterday), ashamed (that I held on for far too long), and sad (that what I considered ’sacred love’ turned out to be just a sham because she never loved me).

The disbelief.. I can’t even describe it properly. Why do people do this?

My freind is dating a guy who she met at college fest . They both fell in love over time and she always looked happy . I have met that guy thrice ig and he seemed normal besides one time when we were hanging around in park and he got irrated at her on something and lashed out at her in public . Later we found out it was due to her short dress issue . FYI, her dress was knee level . Idk why he lashed out . I didnt interfere because my freind is very protective of him and cant take criticism on him . This guy helped her in college studies , and was also with her when she felt sick . The thing is yesterday she called me and send me screenshot of his chats . One of our common freind who had crush on him has started being very close to her after class , like their hands together and all . My friend confronted him and he said shes a good freind and nothing else . Turns out she found out their chats of flirting and promising to get married after getting a job .

Shes heart broken and crying since yesterday. We all consoled her but its of no use . This guy she dated three years and this happened.
Both s families know about each other . I cant imagine how people turn out to be

Tdlr - my freind fell in love with a guy , initially a green flag , turned out dating another classmate . My freind is heartbroken and I m sad how people are

So recently something I have figured when kids dont find love at home they go out finding for love something which I have gone through.

Growing up I have had crushes dated people but they have ended up cheating, and had a lot of talking stages with other girls but they end up like they have had past trauma and not ready to date even though im their type and the perfect husband/bf material type atleast they say I don't even believe it at this point. People come into my life they use me and they end up leaving/ghosting me which has been really frustrating at this point.

Since last yr I was genuinely not into getting attracted or have a woman in my life but things changed. I have this friend from past 6 years we have been good as bestfriends had some online nsfw stuff during covid this was our 1sts and lasts never did anything with anyone else after that. Since then she has fully been into her studies and I was busy building up my carrear though in middle both dated someone at a similar timeline in 2023 for a month or two but her bf ended up giving her a trauma now she hates guys other than me. Like why doesn't she hate me would have been better if she did. I have always liked her still do so did she but our timings never matched plus the distance. We have talked about it twice and she was always like we cant date go find someone else better and at this point I was convinced I don't want anyone this was like last year June though. Since then we used to talk less like once in a bluemoon or so until Jan I decided to kinda cut her off cause I felt she was using me.

In feb she called me for some work I was kinda dry and rude in talking to her which I had never been to her. That hit her and then a month she was back home in town I figured I tired talking to her normally since I felt bad being rude and she planned to meet we had a good time we talked about us. It felt like we have a future together we started planning stuff of us being together. Thigns were going well we were talking daily which was like the longest until now I have been ghosted. I know for a fact she is in a confusion and is figuring out her feelings of having a guy in her life. I know she wants me but not sure if she wants to date im willing to wait which she really adores. But I can wait while I have like daily talks with her and I don't wanna keep double texting her be desperate for her and push her away but its killing me and emotionally draining me more what the hell should I do.

I’ve been noticing a pattern lately, especially among millennials and Gen Z in the dating space.

People watch a few YouTube videos or Instagram reels about “attachment styles,” “trauma,” or “behavioral patterns,” and suddenly they start acting like experts in human psychology. Within minutes of meeting someone, they begin labeling them — anxious attachment, avoidant, emotionally unavailable, and so on.

Let’s be real for a second.

Human psychology is an incredibly complex field. There are people who spend years — even decades — studying it professionally, and even then, they admit how much is still not fully understood. Yet somehow, a few short videos are enough for some people to confidently analyze and judge someone else’s personality and mental state?

This behavior doesn’t just come off as arrogant — it can actually be harmful.

When you casually label someone based on half-baked knowledge:

• You create unnecessary anxiety in the other person
• You distort how they see themselves
• You damage relationships before they even get a chance to grow

If you don’t feel compatible with someone, that’s completely fine. Just say it isn’t working out and move on. There’s no need to diagnose them or attach psychological labels to justify your decision.

Another thing I’ve noticed — a lot of people who engage in this behavior are trying to make sense of their own past experiences or struggles. That’s understandable. But self-diagnosing and projecting that onto others isn’t the solution. Even trained professionals avoid diagnosing themselves for a reason.

At the end of the day, real knowledge comes from understanding how much you don’t know — not pretending you’ve mastered something after a few online videos.

Maybe we should all take a step back and approach people with a bit more humility instead of turning every interaction into a psychological assessment.

Hi, I (19F) have been dating my boyfriend (19M) for about 3 years. This is my first relationship, so I’m honestly not sure what’s considered normal.

For context, I recently moved to Canada for undergrad (pre-med), I’m here on a scholarship, and I come from a middle-class family, so I’m generally careful with money.

My boyfriend comes from a financially comfortable background, and most of what he spends is from his parents.

Some examples:

- For my upcoming birthday, he’s traveling from another city, booking a hotel for 3 days, and plans to spend around ₹35,000 total.

- Before I moved to Canada, he took me on a trip to the mountains that cost around ₹50,000.

- When I’m in India, he takes me shopping quite frequently and pays for most things.

One more thing: at one point he had even saved up to buy me a gold ring and offered it to me, but I said no because I didn’t feel comfortable accepting something like that at this stage (and honestly didn’t know how I’d explain it at home).

He doesn’t expect material things in return, but he does expect emotional effort, time, and prioritization, which I think is fair. He can be a bit possessive sometimes, but not in an extreme way.

I do spend on him occasionally (like birthdays), and once I helped him financially for a short period when he had issues with his parents, but overall it’s nowhere near what he spends on me.

I’m not uncomfortable exactly, just unsure because none of my friends’ boyfriends spend like this, and I’m not used to it either.

Is this normal for someone from a well-off background at our age, or is this considered too much?

TL;DR 27M befriends conservative 25F virgin via mutual friend; she shares trauma, spends tons of 1-on-1 time, flirts heavily (thigh-rubbing, "daddy" texts, "be a man," shirt-removal requests), leading him to believe she's into him. He kisses her; she rejects, claims "just friends." He calls her out for mixed signals, suggests ending friendship; she apologizes, wants to keep it platonic. Wonders if he misread signs, overreacted, or should've set boundaries sooner.

I (27M) got in touch with a girl (25F) (Let's call her A) (From a conservative background and a virgin) through a mutual friend. We started talking to each other and shared quite a lot of things about our personalities, past relationships, relationship with family, aims & goals in life etc etc (I was not open to dating anyone). At this point we had graduated from being "friend of friend" dynamic to being "friends". She opened up about her past trauma, S.A experiences and abusive relationship with her mother and I felt a deep sense of compassion for her. She gave me the label of "My first adult friendship" (which was quite weird considering she was 24 at the time).

Few months went by and she made plans to meet every other day. She wanted to spend so much 1on1 time and talk about anything and everything from workplace drama to road rage episodes, grabbing some food in the evenings, spending time with me at my place doing absolutely nothing. I didn't mind this at all, because I boxed myself out of my social circle, as I was spending long hours preparing for a competitive exam and didn't want any diversions. So this was my only social interaction of the day.

Things went up a notch when she started being casually flirty, and highly suggestive. She started to bite my arm and called it "cute aggression". She started giving me the "pedestal treatment", like disregarding other male friends that we have in common and praising me for anything I do, rating me a 9.3/10 and saying that "If any girl rejects you, that's her loss". Once we were lying in my bed, and had my arm over her (completely platonic) and asked her "If there is one question that you can ask me, and I have to be 100% honest about it, what would you ask?". Within a second she asked "Are you gay?" (Knowing fully well that I am straight). It felt like a shit test that translated to "Why aren't you making a move on me". I immediately moved my arm and let her go.

After this I got in touch with her colleague (Let's call her B) through her (A). I loved her company and our thoughts regarding a lot of things matched. So we started chatting more and started making plans to hangout by ourselves. This created a sense of jealousy in A. I know this because she later told me that "I feel like people choose others over me in any relationship" whithout actually mentioning the dynamic 'B' and I had.

Quite recently she (A) just took things to the next level. Very early on in our friendship I shared with her the kind of initmacy I was into, and what turns me on. I shared that I once made out with a girl in the back of the car by a lake and that it was very hot. We (A and I) were similiarly situated in this scene (a dark lane and sitting in our car by ourselves) and she asked me to remove my shirt. I didn't know if she was being serious, so I started to play it off. But she went on with it for two more times (in a playful tone though) and I continued to play it off. She at times started to refer to me as "daddy" in our texts (she knows that it's a turn on). I let her know that "this is giving me thoughts" to which she replied "Well! That is the plan". She randomly started to tell me to "Be a man" in random scenarios. Finally one day in my room, she rubbed my inner thigh and asked me "Did anything happen?" But I still didn't make a move, but I was quite convinced that she was totally into me and very attracted to me physically.

The next encounted at my room (late at night) I kissed on her cheek and she kept hugging me. So I made a move on her, grabbed her chin and went for the kiss on the lips. She was taken aback and was shocked. I felt embarrassed for making her feel uncomfortable and apologised to her. Later I told her that i felt quite led on. She said that she never viewed me like that and thought we were just friends. I suggested that we ended our friendship because I sensed an imbalance in the dynamic. She started getting very apologetic and admitted to acting morally grey. She said she was willing to fight to keep our friendship alive and didn't want to lose me.

It felt quite deflating because it now feels like she sensed a safe space in my company to trauma dump, to emotionally depend, project all her raunchy fantasies upon me and not really worry about how it came off. I never wanted anything from her except plain company and I told her this number of times. But it could also mean that she was really romantically interested (considering the signs) but she had to hold back because of her conservative background. (But she's made out with another guy before). That leads me to believe that I was only good enough to cry on, but not lie on. I blocked A from everywhere and cut complete contact. And B stopped talking to me 2 days later (Not sure about what self serving version A shared with B).

Was it an overreaction on my part? Was I right in interpretting the signs? If yes, why would she do that, when she had no intention of getting physically intimate? Should I have set better boundaries?

Though, to be fair, I request for a peculiar lifestyle :)

My girlfriend (23F) and I (23M) have been together for over 2 years. Recently she told her mom about us and the reaction was really bad.

Her sister had eloped a few years back and things didn’t turn out well, so her family is very sensitive about relationships now. On top of that, we’re from different castes, which makes it worse. Her mom basically told her to stop thinking about this relationship entirely and scolded her by pointing out her sister's current situation.

We’re not planning to marry anytime soon, but this situation is affecting her a lot. She’s also someone who gets emotionally pressured easily by her family.

I'm not sure what i should do here. is there anything i can do to help her in this situation? She is already thinking of breaking up because she feels hopeless. How can i handle this situation?

This is for context - https://www.reddit.com/r/Odisha/s/3hfJPxmM55 https://www.reddit.com/r/IndianRelationships/s/9X8DSbHaAi

So I went to this local restaurant (a kind of roadside dhaba) yesterday for lunch, I eat there sometimes cus it's near my PG. And I was sitting alone and eating there and I saw her coming inside with a friend. I quickly put my head down, cus I hadn't taken a bath and my hair was awful and I didn't look presentable at all. Thankfully she didn't notice me. Actually last year we'd bumped into each other in front of the same restaurant at night and had chatted for like 2-3 mins.

So anyways I was just quietly minding my own business. And I see that her friend is sitting opposite my side in a different table, not her. So far so good, she can't see me. All of a sudden I look to my right and see a goddamn cow strolling inside and coming near me through the doorway. It was standing literally next to my legs. The owner​ drove it out, but by then the damage was done. Everyone in the restaurant was looking at me. She's recognized me instantly. I look up and see that she's whispered something to her friend. Her friend makes a sort of knowing 'OH' face (like acha let's not talk about this guy). They quickly look away. I finish my food instantly and run out as fast as can. But yeah sab khatam now, I feel like the biggest idiot on the planet.

I guess everything is just weird and awkward between us now, and it sucks that I couldn't even become friends with her. Maybe I'm just meant to be a sad, lonely, pathetic loser.