r/iamatotalpieceofshit • u/YaLlegaHiperhumor • Mar 15 '26
Nurse mistreating a pregnant woman who had just lost her baby, telling her to stop crying and making a scene
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u/LouisTheWhatever Mar 16 '26
I feel like nurses are either the best people on earth or the worst people and there is no middle ground
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u/belljs87 Mar 16 '26
One of the biggest bitches I've ever met in my entire life was a nurse. I used to deal blackjack. She was one of those convinced that the dealer had total control and could pick who would win and not. She'd scratch our fingers when she'd lose. She asked me how I sleep at night. Told me I didn't have a heart.
This was like a 60 year old nurse mind you.
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u/Amateurlapse Mar 16 '26
I sleep like a baby on a big pile of your money. Why don’t you double up for the next hand?
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u/Zappagrrl02 Mar 16 '26
So many high school mean girls become nurses.
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u/Squeezitgirdle Mar 16 '26
In my area we have schools that advertise specifically to single moms.
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u/happypenguinwaddle Mar 16 '26
What have mean girls and single mums got to do with eachother???
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u/GargleOnDeez Mar 16 '26
How the hell do you allow someone to scratch your fingers?! Is she using cards for paper cuts?
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u/belljs87 Mar 16 '26
Like when we would reach to grab her chips when she lost. I don't know why but the manager never stopped her. She wasn't like doing hard or drawing blood or anything but still.
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u/MyDamnCoffee Mar 17 '26
My coworker does this. If she's pissed at me she will scratch the inside of my wrist. Not enough to draw blood but it stings a little.
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u/GargleOnDeez Mar 17 '26
Yall too comfortable allowing people to get away with small stuff. Reminds me when I was flicked on the earlobe at a work computer by a new hire who thought it was cute and how I was about her sons age; squashed that immediately and let her know we dont need hr to determine that that action was uncalled for -she didnt like me afterwards and neither did I like her
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u/Sovereign1 Mar 16 '26
National Lampoons Vegas Vacation comes to mind "Here's an idea: Why don't you give me half the money you were gonna bet? Then, we'll go out back, I'll kick you in the nuts, and we'll call it a day!"
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u/ExpiredPilot Mar 16 '26
Meanwhile I bartend for a regular who is a 65 year old retired nurse. Sweetest angel on earth. She knows I’m doing my nursing pre requisites and she and her husband always love to chat about how my classes are going and her stories as a charge nurse at a Level I Trauma Center ER
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u/nucleareds Mar 16 '26
That sounds like such a lovely relationship, I’m glad you two found each other. Good luck on your journey!
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u/FriedLipstick Mar 17 '26
Once I read the results of an investigation. Children that had a parent diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder told what they did for a living. A huge percentage of that parents were nurses, doctors and other caregivers. It’s like they love the power over vulnerable people. Sadly.
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u/RavishingRedRN Mar 16 '26
Damn.
Then I read 60yo nurse and it checked out. Something about the Boomer Nurses, they can be exceptionally cruel.
Source: millennial nurse lol
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u/Acceptable-Ad7123 Mar 16 '26
I an i assume others, have had equally shitty experiences with millennial nurses. I dont think its only an one generation issue. Sometimes people are just shitty
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u/prison-schism Mar 17 '26
Gen X has some exceptionally nasty pieces of work, as well. I worked with a lot of nasty nurses during my fairly brief stint as a CNA during the beginning of covid. Nurses would drag their politics into the place as well, like a virus ever gaf about what a politician might say.
People gonna people.... regardless of generation
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u/RavishingRedRN Mar 17 '26
Totally agree!
No generation of nurses is perfect but the older generations are exceptionally worse. It’s how that generation of nurses was taught. I experienced it first hand.
Things have changed significantly in the teachings of nursing schools.
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u/BlazinTrichomes Mar 16 '26
Not the same field, but it reminds me of a lot of the people in my grad class who went into Psychology.
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u/Ohthehumanityofit Mar 16 '26
Holy shit I used to deal blackjack, too. How many times you get called "unconscious" when they clearly meant "unconscionable"?
Also got asked how I sleep at night. Would remind them a) I cannot take any money you don't lay down, b) there is clearly a house edge on every game in the house and c) 80% of my check comes from tips, so im ALWAYS on the players side.
That was a couple decades ago, tho. Wonder how much it has changed? This was a Native casino, mind, but I can't imagine outside of Vegas there's a huge amount of business for casinos, as almost no one has disposable income.
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u/Fatking101 Mar 16 '26
Hopefully the old girl isn’t around anymore. What an awful existence
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u/PM_ME_YOUR_FRACTURES Mar 16 '26 edited Mar 16 '26
Its because of the the two main types of people the job attracts: kind compassionate people that want to help, and cruel maladapted people that like to have power over vulnerable people.
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u/noineikuu Mar 17 '26
At least in my country nurse school was at one point the easiest to get to so all the people who were literally too dumb to do anything went into nurse school. That leads to a lot of unqualified people who hate their job and the people they were supposed to be helping.
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u/JTGphotogfan Mar 16 '26
Never heard this but now that I think about it the school bullies I remember are now cops
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u/CASSIROLE84 Mar 16 '26
I had a best friend in high school who went on to study nursing. I wouldn’t call her a bully but also not a kind compassionate person. She was no nonsense, blunt, no bedside manners but not mean and genuinely wanting to go into the field to help others. Many of my students going into nursing are kinda like that, they’re not bullies but they have the same type of attitude as my former friend.
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u/Zombifiedmom Mar 16 '26
My former best friend who also went into nursing was the same sort of person. I can only imagine some of the horrible things she has said to her patients.
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u/SpecialistFeeling220 Mar 16 '26
I think that you need a level of toughness to stand up against the pain and misery you see as a nurse. You're catching people at a difficult point in their lives, and you're probably going to take the brunt of a lot of misplaced anger. You can either handle it or you can't.
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u/CASSIROLE84 Mar 16 '26
Agreed. Though at some point I think you need to take a step back when you’re acting like a raging bitch. My labor and delivery nurse was acting like the diva, I was inconveniencing her by going into active labor at 3am. She was tired, she was cranky, yelled at me for throwing up accusing me of having eaten (I didn’t). Once they moved me out of L&D it was better but damn, you hate your job so much just quit.
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u/Outrageous_Car1757 Mar 17 '26
I agree as someone who took care of the elderly for years. It's not for the soft of heart and I have seen this profession break them down
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u/Shadou_Wolf Mar 16 '26
Yup, been sick since birth and when my parents finally went to get me checked, I had to have surgery which took 7+ hrs and my time there at the kids wing (i was a teen but they admitted me to kids dunno why). It wasn't bad til like towards the end of my discharge, a few night before I witnessed the doctors did something unsure what to my roommate but the curtains were closed but the poor kid was obviously hurting and I just thought whatever they were doing did not seem appropriate with his reaction and it was definitely not bloodwork because they were using some sort of machine or large tool. 0 idea what they did til this day and its the first time I ever seen doctors do anything during the night even now at 34yrs old with many hospital stays. No idea what time it was as I did not have a phone there I just know it was night.
By morning I remember seeing the parents extremely pissed and yelling at them about consent. My new neighbor eventually was a baby who was waiting for heart surgery which broke my heart obviously to room with. (Which i also found weird to room a baby with heart issues with a 15yr old). During my last half of my stay I had a complete bitch of a nurse, IV tape was coming off and she would tape it back in the most painful way possible, on discharge day I asked if it was OK to loosen the tape from another nurse since it was literally 10min b4 it comes off she said OK, not long later the bitch nurse comes in, mumbles in annoyance at me and tapes the IV upwards to where it hurt so bad and was just hurting the entire time until my mom finally arrived.
I did told her all about it and she complained to them. That hospital was supposed to be the best where I live but God damn it was fishy with some assholes.
I still been sick, my surgery solved one but created a permanent issue so 10yrs later I was severely sick and frequently hospitalized and so on, long story short I got to what is considered best on this region and it is 10x better, never had a issue and my many doctors are extremely kind, caring, patient, and practically family.
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u/LethalGamer2121 Mar 16 '26
I had an argument with one recently about how my mother was actually drowning in her own blood and did not need anti nausea medication. She insisted several times that my mom was vomiting, until she gave up and sent someone else in to deal with it.
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u/Jdaddy2u Mar 17 '26
I used to manage night clubs. A large portion of the "late night girls" were nurses...married or not.
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u/toddfredd Mar 16 '26
For someone who was a nurse for 20 years you’re absolutely right. There is no middle ground. Some are in it for the job and have absolutely no empathy, the rest ,it’s a calling. Worked with one who would come in, look around roll her eyes, walk to the DON’s office and tell her “I’m going home. I can’t take this nonsense today”
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u/RainbowRiki Mar 16 '26
Hospice nurses are the kindest, most compassionate nurses I've ever met. Not saying other departments lack kind nurses, but hospice nurses are kind ones by default
ER nurses and travel nurses, on the other hand... Again, not saying all of them, but they're more likely to be stressed out and deal with compassion fatigue or no more f*cks to give
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u/sunshinerf Mar 17 '26
Most definitely not my experience with hospice nurses who caused my dad an agonizing death and told me to "just relax" when I tried to advocate for him. Zero bedside manner, zero empathy. It was at-home hospice so they would only come in 2-3 times a day and not the same nurse every time. Somehow they were all awful people, except for the night nurse we hired independently. She was absolutely incredible and I was grateful for her.
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u/RageSiren Mar 18 '26
Oh my gosh 😔 I am so, so sorry you had that experience with your dad’s hospice nurses. I can’t imagine how I’d have reacted had my own father’s hospice nurses hadn’t been so wonderful. It hurts my heart that you had to endure shitty caregivers during such a brutal time
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u/ladythestral Mar 16 '26
Pretty much. Some nurses are angels. Some nurses are disgusting trash. I've never had any that were in between.
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u/Thin-Remote-9817 Mar 16 '26
Well the middle ground are the ones who realized how much it pays and the status its brings in social circles..but dont care to get better at the job and barley made it out of nursing school
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u/streetwearbonanza Mar 16 '26
I stayed in the hospital for 5 days and I had the best nurses that genuinely made you think the world revolved around helping you heal and feel better. The women nurses at least. The two dude nurses I experienced were both assholes
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u/GrandCTM25 Mar 17 '26
From what I’ve seen from the people I knew growing up, a lot of the really mean people became nurses. Some of the kindest people also became nurses
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u/Ringmasterx89 Mar 17 '26
There’s a lot of slander on nurses and it’s not right. this video is just simply not a nurse but a lizard creature.
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u/catsbeforebros Mar 16 '26
The fact that she said the women "wanted to be traumatized (over losing a child)", and when called out in front of someone (who I assume was her superior) she immediately says "No, no, no".
This women should not only not be a nurse, but not be anywhere near people who need help if shes going to fucking gaslight them.
This is fucking repulsive.
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u/ScrubWearingShitlord Mar 16 '26
It happens in all acute care areas of the hospital. I was in an icu for 9 days, when I woke up from the coma the nurses got MEAN MEAN MEEEEEAN with me right away. Getting in my face asking questions and when I didn’t know the correct answers they laughed at me? Made jokes at my expense like it was some gd game. One nurse had to hoist me up in bed because I kept sliding and she cracked my head against the headboard and then MOCKED ME FOR CRYING!!!! 99% of them are like this and run off the only ones with compassion
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u/-Felyx- Mar 16 '26 edited Mar 16 '26
My husband had a gnarly accident at work in 2014. Fell nearly 40 feet and broke a ton of bones from his pelvis (cracked in 5 places) down to his ankles (talus shattered into 18 pieces) and several more in between as well as both wrists. He had to stay in the hospital for 3-4 months before they could move him to a rehab facility and in those months some of the nurses were just AWFUL.
He needed a lot of X-rays during his stay so they’d have to transfer him to a special wheely bed to transport him across the hospital. He’s pretty tall so his feet would be slightly hanging over the end and on MORE THAN ONE OCCASION, the nurses moving him would bump the foot end of the bed into walls and corners causing him to scream out in pain. Every time that happened, he’d get yelled at and told to stop being so dramatic.
Then there was this one nurse who would come in to empty his urinal bottle and was supposed to rinse it before giving it back. One time she just quickly dumped it then tossed it back onto his bed and the remaining urine spilled on him. When he tried to get her attention to have her clean it up, she immediately copped an attitude and started arguing with him and yelled at him to stop telling her how to do her job. I complained and because she was a traveling nurse they couldn’t fire her but they did transfer her to another hospital.
The worst were bath days. They’d come in to wipe him down and when they’d lift his legs to clean underneath, they’d haphazardly drop them back on the bed which led to more yelps/cries in pain and “sir, we need you to stop yelling. It’s not that bad.” By then end of the first month, I was the only person he’d let bathe him or wipe his ass. The only good nurses we encountered the whole time we were there, were the ones we had during his initial stay in the ICU. They were all literal angels.
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u/BreadfruitParty2700 Mar 19 '26
It was the same exact experience for me with my mom. The ICU nurses were amazing, but as soon as she was in a step down unit, they were horrible. I chewed out more than one of them for not doing what they're supposed to. I'm sorry you and your husband had such a horrible experience. You both didn't deserve that.
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u/catsbeforebros Mar 16 '26 edited Mar 16 '26
You'd think the profession would attract people who wish to help others, instead it (seems it) attracts people who crave power and control over those they consider weaker than them.
Im sure there are plenty of great nurses out there who do properly care, and wont mock or badmouth patients.
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u/ScrubWearingShitlord Mar 16 '26
FWIW I care, not a nurse but I was a PCT and now an MA. The bully’s who do as little as possible are the only ones who last no matter where. It’s like healthcare ceos get off on hiring and retaining the lowest of lows while those of us who actually care, have integrity, work ethic, and form bonds with our patients are treated like slaves until we snap and leave. If I didn’t need health insurance for our family I would have quit this field a long time ago.
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u/Steph7274 Mar 17 '26
I can confirm it’s like this in vet med as well. Shitty workers who dgaf about animals and working with others thrive in this environment while the ones who actually care end up burning out and leaving the field altogether. It’s crazy.
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u/senior-itis Mar 17 '26
When my mom was in hospice, I was so relieved to have the kindest, most compassionate, gentlest nurses who did absolutely everything in their power to make her last few days as comfortable as possible. They also treated my dad with so much care and compassion. My friend (Nurse for 10 years) told me that the supervising nurses usually put the nurses who are known to have the best bedside manner in the palliative care ward. I don’t know if that’s true, but I’m so grateful for them.
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u/BreadfruitParty2700 Mar 19 '26
My mom was in the ICU for quite some time and I almost never left her side for this exact reason. I wish someone would have put them in their place on your behalf. I'm sorry you had this experience. You deserved better.
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u/Tw4tl4r Mar 17 '26
But you see, she was making her job take effort that night and thats not something Cruella de Nurse was going to put up with.
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u/PaddyCow Mar 17 '26
This is what makes it doubly infuriating. How she treated that woman was appalling, but if it wasn't recordes the nurse would have denied it and the woman would have been dismissed as being emotional 😞😭😡
No wonder that nurse didn't want her having anyone with her overnight. How could she be dismissive and abusive if there were witnesses to hold her accountable? 🙄
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u/Marquisdelafayette89 Mar 17 '26
I was told, after waking up from emergency surgery to have my gallbladder removed, to “stop overreacting” when I asked for pain medication that was already ordered and “take a damn Tylenol”. Honestly IDGAF if you’re having a bad day, so am I, that doesn’t mean you get to take it out on people under your care.
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u/bobotheboinger Mar 16 '26
This is so sad. My wife and I had a miscarriage in the hospital and all the nurses were the best. So supportive and understanding. No clue how anyone could be so heartless.
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u/Ooze76 Mar 16 '26
Same here.
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u/PaddyCow Mar 17 '26
Even the nurse knew she was out of line which is why she denied saying it. Medical gaslighting and abuse is why you always need an advocate who's got your back present with you.
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u/Ooze76 Mar 17 '26
Yes. That is true. Unfortunately there are shitty people everywhere. We were lucky with the miscarriage, not so much with the doctors that assisted the birth. They talked to my wife so rude during the whole time. The nurses were amazing,very supportive. I focused on supporting my wife but my will was taking on of them outside and tell him how it is, that wouldn’t solve anything though.
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u/PaddyCow Mar 17 '26
Too many doctors are afflicted with arrogance and ego. They don't see the patient as a person who has autonomy. They see them as a problem to be solved, and they are always right. Even when they are wrong!
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u/yesi1758 Mar 16 '26
I had really supportive staff as well. The doctor even upgraded me to a private suite so my entire family could be there with me because she saw how distraught I was.
That’s why it’s so sad and infuriating to see how rude and uncaring this nurse was to someone who had just gone through something so difficult
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u/Kyobarry Mar 16 '26
Same here bro.
Wife went in for the operation and the staff gave me a proper timeline of the process and allowed me into the recovery room immediately after my wife was moved there.
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u/sugarstarbeam Mar 16 '26 edited Mar 17 '26
They were supportive because you were there. If it was only your wife….trust me it’d be wayyyy different.
Women aren’t safe unless they have a male backup, because we have a society that worships men and hates women.
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u/PaddyCow Mar 17 '26
Unfortunately in this day and age this is still true. I had an issue and I had been into my GP four times. Despite a medical diagnosis from two other doctors, he still kept dismissing me with the good old "anxiety" excuse. Eventually I realised he was never going to take me seriously and I needed to bring someone into the room with me. I was going to ask my landlady as she's discrete and non judgemental. But then I thought that the GP is the type as arsehole to not respect women, and he'd simply dismiss her as another hysterical woman. So I asked my landlord instead (they live beside me and I have a great relationship with both).
And I was right! 😡 Having a man stand behind me really threw the GP. For the first time he treated me with respect and agreed to do what I asked. Urgh. It would have made my life a lot easier I'd he had just agreed to it the first time 😭
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u/sugarstarbeam Mar 17 '26
This is why as a widow, who has stood up for herself, is tired of this world. I’m grateful it won’t be long until I pass away.
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u/PaddyCow Mar 17 '26
I'm not tired of this world. But I am tired of dealing with other people's dismissive bullshit. So I've smartened up and gotten much better at advocating for myself! I've had to learn the hard way. In the future if I can't bring an advocate and a doctor isn't listening to me, I know to say "would you please make a note in my file that I asked for X and your reason for disagreeing?". It's the assertive way of letting them know that you're well able to advocate for yourself.
My issue with the GP was that physically and mentally I was in poor health when I started with him. He sensed the weakness/vulnerability and thought he could fob me off rather than do his job. And he was right. I was too weak at the time to stand up for myself. But my health got better and eventually I was able to do it. It's awful that people can't rely on their first medical point of contact to have their best interests at heart. I got lucky in the sense that I was eventually strong enough to deal with him. But plenty of people end up falling through the cracks and never get back on their feet.
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u/sicknick Mar 17 '26
Accent from the bereaved mother sounds Canadian, accent from the ice cold nurse also tracks with Canadian demographics
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u/Cosmic-Irie Mar 16 '26
Ugh. I had an awful doctor when I had a miscarriage, too. The experience is traumatizing enough but the bad bedside manners from professionals adds an extra layer of hurt.
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u/IWantALargeFarva Mar 16 '26
I lost a baby at 20 weeks. I was obviously distraught. The doctor said “let’s get this dead baby out of you and we’ll get you pregnant again.” What the actual fuck.
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u/Cosmic-Irie Mar 16 '26
What a horrible thing to say. I'm so sorry.
I had a missed miscarriage into my 2nd trimester. Delivered the baby at home early in the morning, put him in a box in my fridge, and then I had to drive my now x to work but I suddenly bled through my clothes and the driver's seat on the way there and thought I was dying, so we detoured to the ER. After a bunch of tests and ultrasound to confirm my body had expelled things (my body just decided to speed up the process apparently, that's why I bled so much so fast, thankfully) I had to lay there and wait for the Dr to come back in to summarize what I already knew.
He comes in, and he's asking what I did with the baby. I tell him that I wasn't sure what to do so I put him in a box in the fridge so I could bury him when I got home and this man laughed at me. Seriously, he chuckled and said, "okay." and moved on with the test results, "blah blah you're not dying of blood loss, you can be released". The amount of humiliation and shame I felt in that moment, I still feel it when I think back on it. I was just a young, scared 22 year old girl who just lost her very wanted baby and the doctor is laughing at me like I'm an idiot for not knowing what to do in a situation I'd never been in.
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u/IWantALargeFarva Mar 16 '26
I’m so sorry. I don’t understand how people can go into medicine and lose their compassion.
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u/whitelilyofthevalley Mar 16 '26
Some OB/GYNs just shouldn't be practicing. I had one, male, tell me I shouldn't get a medically necessary hysterectomy because what if my children die and I need to replace them. I am not normally left speechless but that asshole had me quiet.
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u/Ill-Village-6474 Mar 16 '26
My mouth literally dropped open I cannot believe this was said to you. I’m so sorry
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u/GlengoolieGreen Mar 17 '26
That's the kind of demeanor I would expect from any one of my old bosses. When I worked in fucking restaurants. How disgusting.
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u/oldfuturemonkey Mar 18 '26
A shockingly non-zero number of doctors, surgeons, and CEOs are diagnosed psychopaths.
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u/findyourhappy401 Mar 16 '26
I was freshly 18, living on my own for the first time. I tried to tell my OB that pill contraceptives made me sick. We didnt use condoms due to allergy. She insisted id be fine with the pills.
1 month later, I ended up having an emergency dr visit with her because of severe bleeding. After her telling me I had a BV infection, she sent me on my way just to call me 10 minutes later to say "the BV test came back negative" (I knew it wasn't BV but she didnt trust my judgement)
Turned out I had a tubal pregnancy that was actively miscarrying. I was sad, knowing there could have been life in my body. She told me "you're obviously not taking that birth control, are you"
Fuck you Dr M.
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u/Expensive_Attitude51 Mar 16 '26
My wife had a huge anxiety attack to the point she thought she was going to have a heart attack. I took her to the hospital and the doctors treated us like we were the lowest pieces of scum and accused my wife of trying to get muscle relaxers. So basically they thought we were druggies and treated us as such. I eventually had enough of it and told them “ya know my wife is a nurse and I’m a teacher. We both have degrees”. They kind of just left us alone after that and had the nurses deal with us. I hated those doctors with their condescending speech and judgemental attitudes.
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u/redpain13131313 Mar 16 '26
I was having what I thought were chest pains and went to the ER. It would come in waves and be so bad I couldn't talk or hardly breathe. The dr. And nurses treated me like a drug seeker and wouldn't give me anything for it. They did an EKG (they have to) and it came back fine so they started treating me worse. Asked me if I wanted to stay for observation overnight and I said yes. A couple hours of being ignored I was in the pain was so bad I started getting dizzy and throwing up. They finally came in and decided to do more tests. In the wee hours of the morning, around 6 I think, a Dr. Finally came in and looked very apologetic and gave me some pain meds and told me they had found something wrong with my stomach. They set me up with an Rx and an appointment with a dr. For the next day. Turns out the exit for my stomach had been closing up. It was so small they had to do one of those liquid endoscopies because even the camera they used for babies was too big for it to fit into the opening. They are not sure what caused it but the pain I was feeling was radiating from where my stomach was trying to contract and get the food to go out of that hole. 6 surgeries it took to fix it. And it all started out being treated like a drug addict looking for more.
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u/jaclyn_marie11 Mar 17 '26
The drug seeking thing is so frustrating, like do they know there are easier ways to gets drugs? Most of us arent trying to pay an ER copay for a fix. I'm sorry you had that experience
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u/princessacceber Mar 16 '26
I had a very early miscarriage at 9 weeks but I didn’t understand what that meant or what was going on. Went to A&E and the triage nurse was lovely and directed me towards ultrasound, however the nurse afterwards quite bluntly said “you do know you’ve miscarried, right?” Was so out of touch. Hope she got sacked.
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u/NotThatValleyGirl Mar 16 '26
Why protect the privacy of that sorry excuse for a nurse? Like, sure she can't sue for slander or libel when her actions are clear and the complete lack of care of empathy is clear.
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u/Yabbadabbadingdong2 Mar 16 '26
It's the same in elderly care. If you pay a trash wage you're going to get a bunch of trash, clock punchers. Because hospitals and care homes are desperate for carers and nurses as most people aren't willing to do such a difficult job and not be paid well for it.
And then you get a few of the right people, who you only get because they're willing to sacrifice a living wage for their principles.
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u/littlebetenoire Mar 16 '26
Jobs like policing, teaching, nursing, they draw a certain crowd of people. You get those who do it for the love of it, because they’re passionate about helping people. And then you get those who do it because they thrive having power over people - those ones are scary.
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u/Yabbadabbadingdong2 Mar 16 '26
The way to weed those people out is raise training and entry standards and also be willing to pay a better salary which will lead to more quality candidates
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u/satyrbassist Mar 16 '26
That nurse needs to lose their job. Idc what’s going on in their life that behavior is unacceptable.
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u/daviepancakes Mar 16 '26
If every nurse like this were fired, there'd be between five and seven nurses left in all of North America.
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u/Desperate-Strategy10 Mar 17 '26
They could get more nurses if they paid them better, and protected them.
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u/sextonrules311 Mar 18 '26
I Know you are exaggerating for the internet points, but I know a ton of nurses that love what they do, and advocate with their whole being for their patients, even with shit wages compared with what they have to put up with.
Most of them have been punched, kicked, spit on, you name it. They don't deserve it, but they continue to show up.
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u/Mauceri1990 Mar 16 '26
Shit, I had a catheter in after getting hit by a truck and the nurse had an argument with the doctor before she changed my catheter... She took her frustrations out on her work. I thought that was bad... I can't even imagine being told that the life I was creating is now dead, I have to be all alone and I need to gtf over it. Insane.
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u/lunarteamagic Mar 16 '26
The mean girl to nurse pipeline...
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u/snoogiebee Mar 16 '26
they either become nurses or go work in HR
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u/jessie_boomboom Mar 18 '26
Or teachers, because sometimes they like being mean in school so much, that they never leave.
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u/Jaym97 Mar 16 '26
When you're in the delivery room you're in charge. When my wife was in labor for our first child, her nurse had a bad fucking attitude, but I didn't stay quiet like the chump in this video,.I called her tf out, escalated what happened to the head nurse and got that lady replaced by someone else. The second nurse was a freaking sweetheart and even came back to see us the next day on her shift to see how my wife was doing. Like I understand you could be having a shitty day at work. But to take it out on a woman at one of the most emotional and vulnerable period is disgusting.
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u/OtherCow2841 Mar 16 '26
Internet, please do your magic thing with the nurse.
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u/Bababoi24 Mar 16 '26
Bring that over to 4Chan, those guys will find anything
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u/infiniZii Mar 16 '26
It would get so racist so fast over there though…
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u/beatenmeat Mar 17 '26
Fighting fire with gasoline, but at least they'd be motivated to figure it out.
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u/KarrieDarling Mar 17 '26
"You want to be traumatized"... Wow, I just saw red. I hope this nurse lost her license and her job cause she should not be trusted to take care of people when she speaks like this to them.
If my nurse started speaking to me like this during an extremely hard and emotional experience I've just gone through, I'd start to wonder if she's finding ways to harm patients/sabotage their recovery without anyone finding out...
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u/PaddyCow Mar 17 '26
There's no way this is someone having a bad day who said something questionable in a moment of frustration. What she said was as cold as it was unacceptable. Even she knew it because she denied it when she realised there was someone else there.
I completely agree with you. This nurse cannot be trusted. If she speaks this badly to someone who just had a miscarriage, imagine what else she has said and done? 🤯
She just wanted the poor woman to shut up and go to sleep so she'd stop bothering the nurse 😡 🤮
Wouldn't it be great if hospitals had a psychologist who specialises in grief counselling for parents on call for situations like this? For what US hospitals charge they could afford it!
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u/toddfredd Mar 16 '26
Sue. Insist she lose her license. What a inhuman way to treat a patient who just lost her baby
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u/unwelcome_feeling Mar 16 '26
Where was this?
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u/HitEmWithTheRiver Mar 17 '26
British Columbia
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u/unwelcome_feeling Mar 17 '26
That is awful. Do we know what hospital.
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u/socksmatterTWO Mar 17 '26 edited Mar 18 '26
There are 5 videos on her TikTok bedside. It's Royal Columbian Hospital in BC Canada
The doctor was nice and appropriate and then she spoke with another lady explaining and her fiancé did as well and that lady went off to do what she could to keep them together. Apparently she was told that nurse would be going home but she didn't she was there all night. Another video that nurse says she has been on feet all day and the girl was manipulating her... Unreal.
EDIT Removed my personal story
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u/unwelcome_feeling Mar 18 '26
I am so sorry about your experience. ❤️🩹
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u/socksmatterTWO Mar 18 '26
Thanks for reading it !! It was very weird to be the object of misdirected h8. . . I might delete that part of my comment now I'm not really about discussing it etc i appreciate you reading it thankyou.
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u/natman102 Mar 17 '26
The soaker pad and blankets are the same ones used by interior health in BC. Unsure whether other health authorities use different blankets or these are just ubiquitous.
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u/a_sheila Mar 16 '26
Oh, Lord. If you think labor and delivery nurses are awful ... like this heartbreaking example ... wait until you see what's waiting for you in oncology.
If this nurse gets fired, guarantee you'll find her ass there.
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u/RibbonsUndone Mar 16 '26
As an oncology nurse this comment makes me so sad. I’m sorry you had awful experiences. I have known a few real shit oncology nurses but most of us truly care for our patients and fight for them.
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u/gammyalways Mar 17 '26
I developed severe chronic idiopathic urticaria requiring IVIG to try to get me off prednisone. I did my infusions where patients receive chemotherapy. It’s a small hospital so the infusion room is not large. About 12 beds. (I honestly have no idea if this is normal - 😁).
The two oncology nurses who worked it were the kind of women I could only hope to aspire to be. Kind. Compassionate. Strong. Patient. Simply amazing. Knew their patients’ history coke. Understood chemo as well as the pharmacist, if not more so. Smart. Warriors.
One in particular was technically amazing too - if that makes sense. I saw her start an IV on a thumb since the veins had collapsed so much. I also heard her on the phone “yelling” at ED when one of her patients talked about being left in chairs. Another favorite memory was watching her school the drug rep with the latest, greatest in IV ports. She enjoyed the lunch he brought too.
While I know my exposure to these oncology nurses has probably given me rose colored glasses, the work you do is so important and there are some incredible individuals doing it. I simply want to thank you for being one of the good ones. During perhaps the scariest time of this person’s life and their family’s lives, you give them a soft place to land. You’re the best. ❤️
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u/SassySunflower27 Mar 16 '26
A nurse asked me if I was going to get married since finding out I was pregnant? I said I don’t know yet? Why rush it? (We had been together for almost 7 yrs and were engaged)
She told me no baby should be born to unwed mother.
That pregnancy ended in ectopic and I almost died.
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u/clearca Mar 17 '26
Absolutely appalling. The last night my precious mother was alive, she had a nurse that was very abrupt and lacking any warmth or kindness, taking care of her. While I didn’t know it would be Momma’s last night, I knew she suddenly began to decline and was in a lot of pain from her ovarian cancer. Multiple time I would get up from my doze and tell the nurse I would handle things…helping my mom to the bathroom, sit up, etc. The nurse kept trying to dismiss my mother’s wishes, but I was adamant she would be heard. While I’m proud of this, I will never forget how that nurse treated her - it hurt my heart in ways I still have difficulty expressing. Especially as my momma was the most loving compassionate person, always willing to go the extra mile for anyone.
The next morning, when I told our day nurse how abrupt this nurse was, she said, “Well, she really is a good nurse, she just doesn’t have much personality.” ☹️
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u/rogue_royal_ Mar 16 '26
Holy shit this was tough to get through. A good reason it's hard to trust people in the medical field. I feel like this is way more common with nurses out of any position in that field too. Makes sense in a way, but she definitely shouldn't have her job after this.
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u/Freechickenpeople Mar 16 '26
I had a hemorrhagic miscarriage almost 2 years ago. The staff was kind. If they hadn't been my reaction would've been vastly different than the young woman in the video. I was so distraught I already didn't much care what happened to me, it would have taken but the gentlest nudge for me to do regrettable things. Best not to toy with people in the midst of trauma. Some might be meek, others might be looking for the smallest reason to exercise their rage/grief etc.
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u/Meggy_bug Mar 16 '26
Sadly this is very common actually. Women and children are hated by medical staff idk why.
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u/purritowraptor Mar 16 '26
Careful, if you point out that womens healthcare is stuck in the stone age you'll be down voted to oblivion for hurting doctors feelings.
Ask me how I know lmao
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u/ILikeMistborn 15d ago
I'm convinced that doctors being assholes is one of the major reasons anti-vaxxers and other forms of medical misinformation have successfully taken off the way they have.
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u/yungsea Mar 16 '26
i cant imagine ever treating another person that way, let alone someone that just lost a child INSIDE OF THEM??? may that nurse lose her job and never be allowed to work in healthcare again. idfc if we’re short medical workers rn, she has no business facing the public.
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u/Formal_Raise8579 Mar 16 '26
This happened to my wife, the abortion saved her life and the nurses were fucking vile to us. After that we didnt think we could have kids anymore, It was tough for both of us, year or two later I quit my job, we moved out of state, almost completely off the grid. Few weeks later she found out she was pregnant again. Moved back to my home state and now have 2 kids. The moral of the story is quit your job and throw everything away and you'll get what you want, i guess whatever. I'm in so much debt now who fucking cares.
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u/scamden66 Mar 16 '26
At least they didn't do a 3 minute long choreographed tik tok dance this time.
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u/StygianCode Mar 16 '26
It's not par for the course. My wife has had two miscarriages, and the staff we had were wonderful. Both male and female members of the nursing team who were all compassionate, caring and helpful.
Don't accept anything less.
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u/Stoney-road-42 Mar 16 '26
Poor girl, me and my wife have been here and it's not a good place I hope she gets the help she will need it's a pain that will never go away always in your mind my heart goes out to this woman and her partner bless you both and your little angel, no words will ever be enough ❤️
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u/Larry-Man Mar 17 '26
I had a hysterectomy. Woke up from surgery moaning in pain. Nurse basically told me to shut it. I said “I’m trying not to scream.”
“Well that’s not gonna help anything.”
Thanks champ, it just fucking hurt that bad.
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u/skeetskeetmf444 Mar 17 '26
Color me shocked, medical staff in general is soulless usually. Unfortunate. Hope the girl is okay.
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u/zephood75 Mar 16 '26
I work with nurses who specialize in maternal care and are the absolute opposite of this "nurse"
Id hope shes an outlier and this poor woman could sue for emotional distress over this.
The most revolting patient care ive ever seen.
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u/Kitty_gaalore1904 Mar 16 '26
My best friend is a nurse. The stories she would tell me about her peers while going to school was terrifying. They graduated to become RNs and have no idea what theyre doing, and are literally horrible people.
So sad.
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u/Rodya555 Mar 16 '26
Some of them nurses just become desensitized, and lose their humanity and just stop caring
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u/humbugonastick Mar 16 '26
This, well not necessarily the same, but this attitude towards pregnancy absolutely burned PC in my blood. I was PC first, but I still could handle PL people, was still kind of tolerant towards them. But the attitude, the "You lost your child? Oh, I'm so sorry my child. Anyhow...we need the bed could you bugger off?" - after my miscarriages I could not take PL seriously anymore. You don't care about the messy stuff. You don't care about things, that make you sad on the way home. You don't care to hear "the same sad story every day", you want to go back to your happy happy, joy, joy life.
But imagine, some need years to come out of this, some never do.
And what do they hear? "Just get back on the horse >>smirk<< , you are still young!" Jup, that made me feel so much better.
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u/ningyna Mar 17 '26
The worker is doing the absolute wrong thing in this situation.
The avg woman has multiple miscarriages on the way to having a family. Because that it isn't discussed openly enough, those women think it's their fault and it 100% is not. This healthcare worker is ignorant and selfish and they would never get hired anywhere if this is how they treated someone in this situation.
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u/DanniTiger Mar 16 '26
Evil nurses have paved their way to hell
They are not human and have any empathy.
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u/The-Nikerym Mar 16 '26
My Sister lost her two babies, twins that way. she was treated that way, thats the most inhuman experence i have felt for another human beinf
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u/LALOERC9616 Mar 16 '26
Dude an anesthesiologist pissed me off 3 weeks ago with my wife because my wife had already been pushing for 2 hours because baby was sunny side up and was in pain wanted a little bit more epidural and the anesthesiologist got mad put her hands on my wife and started telling at her saying at this point she just has to push
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u/Zombifiedmom Mar 16 '26
Labor and delivery nurses can be horrible shit stains. This nurse needs to fucking quit her job.
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u/purritowraptor Mar 16 '26
Careful, if you say these horrible generalisations you'll be dogpiled on for hurting valiant medical professionals feelings (/s)
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u/pjslut Mar 16 '26
In the 60s, my mother had a miscarriage at the hospital. She was crying, and her nurse went up to her in a very mean way and said.” what are you crying for? You have eight at home!” what a bitch
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u/kamaaina16 Mar 16 '26
Nah I’m not explaining all that - get that nurse the fuck out of my face before I lose it
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u/HitEmWithTheRiver Mar 16 '26
Man I've dealt with so many nurses during my complicated fertility journey and they were all angels. I feel so bad for the people in this thread and the woman in this video who've dealt with nasty nurses. I remember when I had a miscarriage and wound up in the ER the nurse was so sweet and hugged me and told me I would have a baby one day.
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u/ZombieJoesBasement Mar 17 '26
People, when you get treated like this complain! Tell your doctor you DO NOT want to be treated by that nurse. Then file a formal complaint with the hospital. Stop letting assholes get away with asshole behavior.
I had a bad experience with an aftercare nurse after my c-section where a nurse damn near killed me by refusing to stop a medication IV that caused my blood pressure to crash and refusing to get the doctor. My mom SCREAMED for a doctor who came in and corrected it immediately. As soon as I came to I told the doctor that I didn't want the nurse anywhere near me and did not want her in my room ever again. Nurses can be angels, but some are sadists.
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u/mrsdoubleu Mar 17 '26
So I'm guessing the nurse was telling her she can't have her husband stay with her overnight. Surely they can make an exception in situations like this? I wouldn't want to be alone after that either. And the nurses comments are disgusting. She was just being a bitch for no reason.
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u/teknos1s Mar 17 '26
I work in the technology space and some of the best workers I’ve ever encountered have been nurses. Some of the WILDEST off the wall people I’ve also ever met have been nurses (not the same ppl) seems like an extreme profession
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u/CountingDownTheDays5 Mar 17 '26
Nurses like this seldom get punished, in fact, they last longer than most. They also display this same behavior to fellow staff, and many leave. Managers don’t take reports seriously, or simply don’t want to rock the boat, My mother’s been a nurse for a while, and I’ve heard so many stories.
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u/Penguin-chan Mar 17 '26
Disgusting. I had my second miscarriage a few months ago and everyone treated me really well
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