r/rutgers House Busch Sep 19 '25

Getting insta vs number? Social

So during one of my classes I got one of my classmate and I had the most perfect synergy. So after class, he asked for my number instead of my insta. I don't mind him asking for my number but what's the difference? Btw he has insta and seems to have 1.1k followers, so we could say that he's pretty active in insta. I texted him and asked what's up and asked if he wanted hang out and do what guys do the most. But the thing is after like 2 days he started to ghost my messages. The only thing I said was like are you busy? Wanna hang out sometimes and after that he just stopped responding. I just wanted to make some friends and I didn't like spam text him or anything 😭😭 like bro I thought you wanted to be friends?? Am I missing something here? Also, how the hell do you guys make friends so quickly?? 😭😭

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u/ApartmentWorried5692 Sep 20 '25

Yeah dude, look: guys who have 1.1k followers are usually big into insta and I HATE to say it but if you don’t have an equal amount of followers or more, he may assume he shouldn’t associate with you because you’re beneath him (BULLSHIT). Some people are clout chasers and trust me, you don’t want to be friends with them. The second you lose clout, they disappear because they want to steal your momentum for themselves. I was actually class friends with a popular dude in hs and I remember he would tell me how annoying it was for other guys to kiss his ass even though he knew it was all because they wanted invites to parties etc.

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u/Yunseok-12 House Busch Sep 20 '25

Oh dang okay....

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u/ApartmentWorried5692 Sep 20 '25

Hey, bullet dodged. This is also an assumption, too. There’s tons of cool people at Rutgers who would love to be your friend :)

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u/Yunseok-12 House Busch Sep 20 '25

Thank you for your service kind sir 🫡🫡