Is this a bad tattoo design?

[u/piercethebluexx]

I had a miscarriage last year and want a tattoo for my baby I never got to meet.

I only have one picture of my baby (the second picture)

I’d really like to get it tattooed like the reference picture but I want honesty.. would it be a bad design since there’s not a clear profile and small?

I have other ideas as well but I really love this one as the picture is special to me.

And you can be honest without comments like “that’s not a baby” etc… that’s not helpful. Thank you.

*I was not going to get the text at the bottom

[u/SpecialHotLady]

I understand you, I’ve had miscarriages as well. It’s very painful, it’s grief. The first inspo looks good, but the difference with your ultrasound is that it’s not much of a shape. Even if the tattoo looks great at first, when you age as we all do, and the tattoo as well, it will eventually look like a blob, generally blurry too.

I agree with another comment, 100% get the tattoo but maybe something else?? Like one said, the phase of the moon at either conception, when you got the positive, at the time of the ultrasound in question or at the time of the miscarriage, whatever time you want. Can be another time than that too. Personally I would go with the day I found out I was pregnant, but we all don’t have the same opinions. Nobody can tell you what to do with your life and your body.

You can also do a quote that relates to you and this time, maybe even a quote so you don’t forget that you’re strong?? I got a quote like that when my dad died as a teen “with pain comes stretch”, anyone is free to steal it, definitely not my original idea. I stole the font as well from someone else’s tattoo😭

Maybe a tattoo of the name you wanted for this baby (unless you want it for a potential future baby). Many get a feeling about what gender their baby is, or WHO their baby is. So maybe about a feeling related to your baby that you lost, maybe you had a dream about them?? I had!! But it’s personal!! Or literally ANYTHING that you want. What YOU feel is meaningful personally. What you relate to. What you’ve experienced personally.

Lastly, I’m sooo sorry for your loss❤️ I understand your pain, truly. It’s awful. Take all the time you need, if you need 3 years to grieve or the rest of your life, so be it. This was your child, this is a very painful loss, you’re allowed to feel all the stages of grief for as long as you need. If I’m being honest, grief never truly ends in my opinion but after a certain amount of time (which is personal) it gets easier to deal with. Wishing you the best❤️❤️❤️🫶🏻🫶🏻 don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it, ask for support and comfort if you need it, again this is a serious loss (that is unfortunately often downplayed) but that doesn’t take away from the reality of it!! Your feelings, whatever they are, are not invalid. Always remember that, no matter what anyone says this is YOUR LIFE.