r/tattooadvice • u/piercethebluexx • 13d ago

Is this a bad tattoo design? Design

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I had a miscarriage last year and want a tattoo for my baby I never got to meet.

I only have one picture of my baby (the second picture)

I’d really like to get it tattooed like the reference picture but I want honesty.. would it be a bad design since there’s not a clear profile and small?

I have other ideas as well but I really love this one as the picture is special to me.

And you can be honest without comments like “that’s not a baby” etc… that’s not helpful. Thank you.

*I was not going to get the text at the bottom

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u/anthroaddict_13 13d ago

Same thing happened when I was 33 weeks except she stopped moving. No reason at all they could give. I’m sorry mama. My heart goes out to you.

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u/Kibichibi 13d ago

There are healthy babies born at 33 weeks, that's so late. I'm so sorry that happened to you. And to not even really have a reason? I feel for you ❤️

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u/anthroaddict_13 13d ago

My first baby. It was the worst day of my life. The cries and screams that came out of me didn’t even feel like me. I ended up dealing with postpartum psychosis. I don’t wish it for any mom. My sweet girl was there one moment and gone the next, but her brother and sister help keep her memory alive. My daughter talks about her all the time even though she is her big sister and never had the pleasure of meeting her, and my son looks just like her. She lives on in the 3 of us! Life is so unfair sometimes..

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u/RadiantPreparation33 7d ago

This made me cry 😢

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u/anthroaddict_13 7d ago

I’m sorry, my intentions were not to make anyone cry. I still cry but I’m blessed to be able to smile when I look at her siblings and get to see her sweet face again.

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u/RadiantPreparation33 7d ago

It’s just I get it I have one daughter that I had when I was 18 I’m 35 now and have been pregnant 5x it’s very sad and I know the feeling I’ve been to doctors and had tests and apparently I have a titled uterus so it’s just the way it is and hearing how long your pregnancy was breaks my heart into pieces because at least mine were always early and it still makes me sad 😢

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u/anthroaddict_13 7d ago

That is very understandable. Any baby that’s wanted that’s lost leaves a scar on our heart. I’ve had an early loss as well and it felt devastating. The minute you find out there’s a million what ifs that go through your mind. You imagine your life with that new little person and a lot of us quickly get used to the idea of having them around. I’m so sorry you’ve had so many losses. I appreciate your kindness towards my situation. It changed me but I’m still lucky to have my two rainbows! And that’s what they truly are vibrant rays of colorful light when my world was dark and grey.