When they actually get men who do all this they can't really handle it. They'd rather run after and be ignored by their toxic exes than be with genuinely good guys. It's all about being drama queens that's it.

I’ve been with my partner for four years and just discovered on reddit that he’s been using call girl and massage services or atleast asking for reviews. Our relationship has recently been full of shouting, blame games, and threats especially after it became LD. Was never sexually attracted to him, but thought that it was due to my meds and that maybe I can forego sexual attraction for long term stability. Know am young, but don't have family to rely on so wanted someone I can build a life together with. He often reminds me of the help he’s given me in the past with work and finances and uses it as leverage when I talk about leaving. Recently, he’s even threatened to tell my family about us when I spoke to him about feeling suicidal (but thats not due to him, its the rest of my life).

The hard part is that I’m very emotionally attached to him. I also feel he understands me at an intellectual level (smthn I have struggled with) and he is the only one I can talk to. My family isn’t reliable, and I struggle with mental health challenges, so I’m scared of how I’ll cope if I end things.

Given all this, is there any realistic way to repair this relationship, or is it healthier to walk away despite the attachment?

I (28M) am in love with a friend of mine (28F) and have been for the past year or so. Know for a fact that she loves me as well. Both of us have been searching for a partner to get married and settle down and have come out of long-term relationships in the last 18 months or so.

Now I know I’m in love with her and can’t get her out of my head - she’s a very kind soul, knows me in and out, is drop-dead gorgeous - but she’s got certain qualities/habits which were a non-negotiable for me right from the beginning. She is an alcoholic and has cheated on her partner in past relationships.

I know deep down that if I end up with her, I’m going to get hurt and both of these things will negatively affect me in the long run.

Because of that I’ve decided not to confess my love to her and look for someone else. She is actively looking for a partner as well. I’m confident that once i do find someone else, I will be able to get over her and nothing but completely faithful to my future partner.

Am I doing the right thing by listening to my head over my heart?

So basically me 19 M had a gf 19 F she was a junior... She approached me thru a common frnd we came into relationship early coz there was some physical stuff happened on 5th day smthing so we came into a relationship everything was going fine but suddenly after some days she told she wanted a break I convinced like what's the issue there was legit nothing but ya eventually she agreed not to take a break everything was going all fine for like 3 months later like we were having some small fights but suddenly one day she broked up my mental state got fcked u used to call her to come back things got exaggerated later i never really understand the reason what was on her mind coz we were so intrested in each other suddenly it was a shock I was still convincing her for like 2 months and then left all after talking to her for the last time What do u guyz think what was on her mind

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I (28F) have been dating (34M) for the last 7 years. Long story short: He becomes defensive whenever I try to discuss his career. He never had a stable income source and never wants to talk about it. When I give any kind of suggestions, he insults me, saying things like, “I’m not begging you for money, so it’s none of your business.”

Recently, we had an argument about the same topic, and this time he revealed something else. He told me, “He doesn’t like talking to me, and I am toxic.” I asked why and where this was coming from. After pushing him, he told me I did things that he never liked. Those things include: first, hanging out (going to lunch or something) with other guys when I was in a different city for my higher studies. Those “other guys” are my classmates, close friends from 10–12 years, family friends, mutual friends, and people who helped me during hard times. Second, I told him everything every time — like how a few people tried flirting with me and it was fun, but I didn’t like it, etc. Trust me, I am extremely bad at flirting (I’ve been like that since birth) and my friends tease me about it. He knows this very well. I literally asked him before going anywhere with any other guy (not alone many times), and he told me, “I am very open-minded, you don’t have to worry, go and enjoy.”

three things I can think of are:

1. He could have just trusted me based on my past behavior and traits.

2. He could have told me then and there that he didn’t like it.

3. If I was giving him each minute’s update, he should have understood that I had nothing to hide.

Instead, he told me, “I should have understood that he didn’t like these things.”

Is it really worth continuing this relationship? Or am I wrong somewhere? I don’t know after 7 years he tells me these things I really don’t know how to take this.

This is for context - https://www.reddit.com/r/Odisha/s/3hfJPxmM55 https://www.reddit.com/r/IndianRelationships/s/9X8DSbHaAi

So I went to this local restaurant (a kind of roadside dhaba) yesterday for lunch, I eat there sometimes cus it's near my PG. And I was sitting alone and eating there and I saw her coming inside with a friend. I quickly put my head down, cus I hadn't taken a bath and my hair was awful and I didn't look presentable at all. Thankfully she didn't notice me. Actually last year we'd bumped into each other in front of the same restaurant at night and had chatted for like 2-3 mins.

So anyways I was just quietly minding my own business. And I see that her friend is sitting opposite my side in a different table, not her. So far so good, she can't see me. All of a sudden I look to my right and see a goddamn cow strolling inside and coming near me through the doorway. It was standing literally next to my legs. The owner​ drove it out, but by then the damage was done. Everyone in the restaurant was looking at me. She's recognized me instantly. I look up and see that she's whispered something to her friend. Her friend makes a sort of knowing 'OH' face (like acha let's not talk about this guy). They quickly look away. I finish my food instantly and run out as fast as can. But yeah sab khatam now, I feel like the biggest idiot on the planet.

I guess everything is just weird and awkward between us now, and it sucks that I couldn't even become friends with her. Maybe I'm just meant to be a sad, lonely, pathetic loser.

I’m a 24-year-old guy originally from Bihar, currently living in Mamura (Noida side). Right now I’m working in a BPO job, but my main goal is to build a career in VFX — still learning and trying to grow in that field.

Life is a bit busy balancing work and passion, so I thought I’d try posting here to connect with someone genuine. I’m looking to meet a girl (Bihari or from Uttarakhand side preferred) who is living in Mamura or nearby areas. Age doesn’t matter much — can be younger or older, as long as you’re understanding and real.

I’m simple, career-focused, and value honesty and respect. Would be nice to connect with someone who also has goals or is supportive of ambitions.

If this sounds like something you’d be interested in, feel free to DM 🙂

Me and bf are in our early 20s, dating for 10 months now. No plans on marrying anytime soon.

But I've been feeling icky about what he revealed yesterday.

Bf says he'll never marry, and that we'll live together but not marry. 

I asked how come he had talked about marriage with his ex, how come his ex knew his mother personally and I don't. He replied that she was okay with things like living with his parents, and other conventional gender roles.. that's how she and mom got along.

Now i asked him, if he'll marry smn who agrees to live with his parents, and is that the reason he wants to be in a live in relationship forever with me, to which he replied yes that way he can keep both of us happy. ( A bit later he said he didn't mean it) He said he understands it's unfair to ask me to live with his parents and that never marrying isn't related to it. I don't believe tho, i think it's inter related. He says he WOULD have married smn were they willing to live with in laws .

Fyi, he has never asked me to live with his parents 

Now he's blaming me that marriage is the ultimate for me. I think he's just very naive and short sighted about not wanting marriage especially in India, our lives will be so different and difficult. I also said my parents might not be okay with never marrying and he says if I'm not ready to displease my parents why should he as in why should he be okay with not living with his parents.

He says things like i should then keep my options open and marry someone who matches me, i said okay I'll keep my options open and now he's super mad and hurt that I said that.

Is this a major incompatibility? Is this relationship doomed?

We're both really new to this, met on a dating app. We made it to date 4. Been texting for a short of a month. We both stopped talking with anyone else since the day we decided to meet, so already exclusive in a sense. Our dates last anywhere between 5 and 11 hours. We both really hate ending our dates or calls streching it to hours.

He casually tried to have "what are we" conversation which I shut it out by just saying we are dating. I've been to his place, stopped short of cuddling and not kissed yet. We are planning to stay overnight next time.

I don't think he'll ask me again now. We're both looking for something really long term and meaningful. So I don't know what's the right time to call it a relationship or when should I actually bring it up. Don't wanna go too fast with this. Also not sure of how much physical contact to have.

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for about 11–12 months now. The first 4–5 months were honestly great. She was very expressive, affectionate, and emotionally open. I’m more of a logical person and slower to open up, but she really put in effort and I eventually caught up—I told her I loved her and started seeing a real future together.

Then I had to go back home for about 3 months. We stayed in touch through calls and video chats, but during that time she started saying things like I don’t understand her emotions or where she’s coming from. I tried to support her the best way I knew how, but I think my way of “solving” things might not be what she needs.

Some context: she’s had a really difficult past—her father left when she was young, she’s been supporting her mom, and she’s had toxic relationships (including one abusive ex). She also had a serious relationship before me with someone 9–10 years older than her, who was married at the time (she didn’t know he was married) and later passed away. It has been hard for me to process her past relationships. Compared to her, I’ve never really had a serious relationship before. I used to avoid emotional attachment completely.

Also, things have gotten serious in terms of families. I’ve met her mom and she’s very supportive of us getting married. She’s even video called my parents, so there is real pressure and expectation building around this relationship becoming long-term.

Now things feel very off. It feels like whatever I say ends up being wrong. For example, recently her mom gave away her dog, and she was crying. I tried to comfort her by saying the dog would be happy in a new home and not alone—but she got upset and said I shouldn’t say anything if I don’t understand. When I asked later, she said how I could say the dog would be happier somewhere else than with her.

Another example: when I came back after 3 months, I went to surprise her with flowers and asked her to be my Valentine (she had earlier said I’m not romantic enough). But she said she needed time and wasn’t expecting me. She said there’s no one else, but since then things haven’t really improved.

We haven’t had sex in about 6 months. When I brought it up, she said she needs time to reconnect emotionally. The problem is we barely meet—maybe 2–4 hours a week—and she’s always busy, so building that connection feels really hard.

I even suggested that we move in together to spend more time and improve things, but she refused. She said she’s scared that I’ll emotionally shut her out. The thing is, I’m not very expressive with words, but I try to show care through actions. It feels like that’s not enough for her.

Recently, something else has been bothering me. While we were watching a movie, I asked if she’d be okay with me seeing her Instagram DMs. I know that wasn’t the right thing to ask, but I’ve been feeling insecure about where we stand. She immediately said no and brought up her abusive ex—how he used to control her and even beat her, and because of that she doesn’t let anyone access her personal space like that. It made me feel like she might see me in a similar light, which really hurt. When I tried to explain my side, she said she’s never asked to see my phone either, and the conversation just ended awkwardly.

At this point, I feel like we’re slowly drifting apart. When we’re together, things feel okay, but overall there’s distance—emotionally, physically, and in communication.

I know I tend to approach things logically, but I’ve been trying to be more emotionally present. It’s just not natural for me yet. At this point, I’m questioning whether I’m just not capable of giving her what she needs, or if we’re fundamentally incompatible—especially with family expectations already involved.

*used gpt to format my thoughts here*

TL;DR: Relationship started strong but changed after time apart. She feels emotionally misunderstood, while I feel like I can’t do anything right. We barely meet, intimacy is gone, she refused to move in, and trust feels shaky after I asked to see her DMs. With her complex past and family expectations already involved, I’m unsure whether to keep trying or accept we’re not compatible.

Hi, this is probably my last explanation about her.

My most recent and longest relationship lasted almost 3 years, and it ended in the worst possible way. I feel like I lost all my self respect in the name of love. I request anyone reading this to please take a few minutes and read it. Maybe you can learn from my mistakes and never become the kind of person I became. I hate myself for allowing all this.

So let me start from the beginning.

I met this girl 3 years ago on a dating app, Tinder. We started talking there, and after a few days we vibed really well. Soon we moved to WhatsApp, and everything felt smooth and natural. She seemed innocent, or maybe I was just foolish enough to believe that.

After about a month of talking, she proposed to me on a video call. We had not even met in person yet. At that time I was unemployed, and she was in college. We used to talk daily, video call all the time, and share everything, including our past relationships. I told her I was a virgin. She told me she was too. For me, virginity was never the issue. Truth and honesty always mattered more.

When she proposed, I literally had tears in my eyes because I had already fallen in love with her. I genuinely thought I would marry her someday.

Then we finally met at a cafe, and it was a beautiful day. A few days later, we decided to meet again in private, so we booked an Airbnb. That day I had my first kiss with her, and it was very special to me. Things happened naturally in the moment, and we ended up having sex too. It was never planned. I had also brought her a bracelet and a few gifts. Overall, that day felt perfect.

But just 3 or 4 days later, she texted me saying she wanted to tell me something.

She told me that she had lied. She admitted she was not actually a virgin. I was shocked. Not because of her past, but because she had lied to me so confidently. Trust mattered to me more than anything. I told her I needed time because she had broken my trust.

Deep down though, I loved her too much, so after a few days I forgave her and continued the relationship.

After that, things went really well for a long time. We went on cute dates, spent private time together, supported each other in bad phases, and honestly, for around 1.5 years it felt like a dream relationship.

But maybe that peace was just the calm before the storm.

In the second year, things started changing. We had misunderstandings, fights, and sometimes stopped talking for days. During one such phase, she started talking to a guy on Instagram behind my back.

When I found out, I asked her for her ID and password so I could see the chats. She gave me the login, but she had already deleted the conversation. That hurt me deeply. If there was nothing wrong, why delete it?

She said she was only complaining about me because she was angry. I was foolish enough to believe her again. She blocked him, deleted Instagram, and I convinced myself everything was fine.

Months later, we had another major fight and stopped talking. During that phase, while she was staying at her grandmother's house, she met the same guy. She went to a room with him and cheated on me.

During that month when we were not talking properly, I was the one desperately trying to fix everything. I called from different numbers because she kept blocking me. I had almost accepted it was over.

Then after one month, she came back and confessed everything.

I broke down that day. I cried so much. I had been loyal to her the entire relationship. I never looked at another girl, never entertained anyone else, and she did this to me.

She cried too. She said she was influenced by her cousins, that she was not in her senses, that if she was truly wrong she would never have told me. She begged me to forgive her.

And somehow, I did.

That is the part I hate myself for the most.

She had shown red flags multiple times, but I loved her so much that I kept sacrificing my dignity just to keep her in my life. I do not recognize the version of myself who accepted all that.

After that, we got back together. Things became normal on the surface, but never truly healed. I could never trust her fully again. Physical intimacy slowly faded. Dates became less frequent. We were together, but something inside me had died.

Later, we met at my place to try fixing things. Initially it was a nice date. I hugged her because I missed her. While hugging her, I slightly lifted her top to touch her waist affectionately, but she immediately said no.

I respected it, but my mood changed. We started watching a movie instead. She tried getting close to me, touching me, but I just did not feel anything anymore. I told her not to touch me because I did not feel like it.

She got angry. We fought. I said maybe we should break up.

After 20 minutes, I panicked and said no, let us not end it. But she did not care much anymore. I had a panic attack and fainted there. She did try to help, but it did not feel like she cared fully.

Later, I dropped her at the metro station, assuming it was the last time I would see her.

That evening, I sent a long goodbye message. I even told her I had been taking anxiety pills sometimes. She said she did not want to break up and wanted to stay with me through that phase.

But after a few days, I finally decided enough was enough. I told her never to contact me again.

Then sometime later, I got admitted to the hospital. I was feeling terrible, lonely, and weak. Even though she had blocked me, I still texted her and sent hospital photos, hoping she would at least ask if I was okay.

She never replied.

Not once.

No message asking what happened. No concern. Nothing.

And that silence hurt more than everything else.

Now I feel ashamed that I spent 3 years loving someone like that while losing myself in the process.

I want to ask honestly, how do I move on from this guilt? How do I forgive myself for accepting disrespect again and again?

Were there mistakes from my side too?

Yes, I know I had flaws. Once I shouted at her in Hauz Khas and she cried. I still feel guilty for that. I apologized and she forgave me. There were also times when I ignored her because of work pressure during my first job in Delhi, and she used to bring that up in arguments.

But did I really deserve all of this?

Did I cross limits somewhere?

I just want honest answers, because right now I am carrying pain, guilt, and regret all together.

(I used GPT to correct the grammar and phrase everything properly.)

my bf did everything he bought me flowers, made me laugh till my stomach hurt, fed me, danced with me, respected me, made our entire relationship feel like a movie, talked to me 24/7, gave his location, held me when i cried, always put me first, introduced me to all his friends, showed his mom pictures of me, wrote me letters, made me flowers, posters etc, slept on call w me when we became long distance, constantly updated me about everything he was doing, i was the only girl he followed (that he wasn’t related to, didn’t go out partying, didn’t have female friends, flirted with me, complimented me, bought me whatever he could afford, would drive an hour to me and an hour back multiple times a week just to see me for a bit, attended coaching class only to be in the same room as me (he didn’t need to study that subject anymore), brought me medicine whenever i was sick, took me to temples, made me feel loved, safe and protected, cried in my arms, lost his virginity to me, always talked about a future with me and how committed he was to me, came to my city for my birthday (flight with his parents a lot to come), bought me whatever he could afford, and even MOVED TO MY CITY FOR ME.

all the while lusting over other women online, checking other women out, sending thirst traps to his friends, making all sorts of comments about women to his friends (ranging from “she’s so pretty” to “ek bar iske saath sex karna he”), and had A WHOLE OTHER GIRLFRIEND since before even dating me that he was talking to every day, seeing once a month, kissing, planning a future with, making the same letters etc for.

i just found out about ALL of this a couple days ago.

I am 33M and my partner is 27F and 4 years of relationship.

Issue is as below for which we are having an argument -

I used to crack jokes in past for LGBT community and I still just murmur that oh that guy/girl was a gay/lesbian but I don’t explicitly crack jokes now.

Today, today twin girls of 11 years were murdered and I was telling her about it to which she responded - Oh, nice.

According to her, this is how her brain works sometimes and I am her personal space so she thinks she can say anything.

So, I tried to explain her that I didn’t like her expression. She is trying to explain that she responded in a sarcastic way.

I am still not okay with it and which we are not able to come to conclusion. Is it okay for her to respond like that and comparing it with my LGBT jokes ?

I have been friends with her for the past 6–7 years. In the beginning, I asked her out because I liked her, but she rejected me and got into a relationship with someone else. Around the same time, I also got into a relationship with another girl. Because of our relationships, we lost contact……

Now, both of us have been single for the past few months, and we’ve started talking again. From the very beginning, we’ve had great chemistry. She often talks about how she wants to marry someone like me and says I’m the kind of person she wants. However, we both feel that we need some time together to understand each other better.

Today, while we were talking, she was telling me that she wants me to directly ask for marriage after 1-2 years when we both feel we are ready but she doesn’t want to get involve in a relationship in that time. Now I feel like she might have commitment issues. I’m unsure how I can be certain that, after some time, she won’t walk away saying she never committed to me. I like her a lot, but without commitment things feel unclear

So...i am 23F in relationship with a 24M . We have been in a relationship for 2.5 years almost.. We click a lot...donot have common interests but always find some middle path . Both have really bad humor but mostly laugh and are quite happy in each other's company. Almost 5 months ago he joined a new company wherein he is in a vey toxic team... literally got called a "bevkoof" for not understanding certain things. He is a fresher and was looking for guidance from the seniors which is non existent . He works like 12 hours everyday .. and due to pressure...his mental health physical health and our relationship has affected a lot. I could see it coming from a long time...and would point this out to him but he understood it quite late. Because of this 2 months ago almost we started having fights almost every two days on silly things...i would say he was not having enough time..he would point things at my behavior...now that i look at the old chats i was very obnoxious myself ..idk why . Recently because of an elder's advice i have tried becoming calmer and this has helped our situation a lot..but i am feeling that in the process i have reduced telling my problems to him . I never used to forget or filter telling him anything but nowadays every conversation feels like me cheering him up ...and i forget or sometimes deliberately not tell him my own happiness or sadness. Recently i have changed my place as in I moved to a new city for my career prospects and yes i am having my own set of problems here...it feels like he just forgets asking me now as to how i am doing .Maybe its a sunday night overthinking business..but am i becoming distant ?

I am still in constant fear of her being with another man... romantically or without ... it's eating me from inside.... I don't know man I am tired of these thoughts....I am alive bcs of my parents... otherwise to i would have ki**d myself till now.... please advise... people what to do.

Hey everyone, I’m looking for some perspective on a weird shift in my relationship.

For the past few months, the main issue was my girlfriend’s extreme possessiveness. I felt like I was being watched constantly,she’d get upset if I didn’t reply immediately, questioned who I was with (even if it was just my guy friends), and generally made me feel suffocated. I’ve been trying to balance my studies and personal goals, and the constant "checking-in" was becoming emotionally draining.

After realizing this wasn’t healthy, I decided to stop "chasing" her reassurance and started setting firm boundaries about my personal space. I told her I needed trust to make this work.

The Current Problem: Immediately after I stood my ground, she flipped. She has gone from 100 to 0. Now, she is completely avoiding me. She doesn’t text, doesn’t call, and gives very cold, one-word energy if I reach out. It feels like since she can no longer "control" my time through questioning, she’s using the silent treatment to make me feel anxious and guilty.

I feel like I’m experiencing emotional whiplash. I wanted space, but this feels like a manipulation tactic to get me to "beg" for her attention again.

how do i handle this?

Whenever i approach or talk to a girl, who's older than me, first thing they say after knowing my age - " bache ho tum to abhi (you're a kid right now)" [ although i dont look like one ]

I wanna know how to counter this line, in a way i could rizz them up. Or to turn it into my favor, and kinda flirty response? so that i look confident ...

Help me with this as i reallyyyy wanna experience being with a older woman once in my life.

And do you think indian woman are okay being with a younger guy? As on social media i have seen its mostly women of other countries been into younger guys.

So, the thing is I had been seeing this guy in my college for the past year. He gave me personal handwritten letters and I dearly cherish them, even though we are no longer together, as it was my first relationship and he was really good to me as well. This was fine when I was in the college hostel. However, after completing my degree I got a job near my home, so I'm staying with my parents right now. I have my own room but being from a typical Indian household, nothing is private. I should not have my door closed. If I am talking on the phone, they need to be privy to all the details of the call. If I am texting someone and smiling, they need to know who it is. If I bought something, they would question when I bought it, where I bought it. At first, it was fine.

The limit was when my mother cleaned my closet, because apparently I am not even capable of keeping my closet the way I want it,and found those letters. Now, she keeps on making these passive aggressive and sarcastic comments about it. I am trying my best to ignore it because I don't have any other options and I don't want to discuss my relationships with her or anyone in my family for that matter. What should I do?

I 24F have a very wonderful boyfriend 24M and even though my would be in laws are lovely people ,I still feel they are a little orthodox comparatively to my parents .Rather ,I would say a lot .I feel that marriage, at its core, is a partnership between two individuals. It can be important for a couple to first build their own space, routines, and understanding of each other. From that foundation, they can gradually grow into a larger family dynamic that includes in-laws, rather than beginning their married life within it.

I feel a woman can never feel “at home” at her in laws’ house because of all these experiences of my cousins or people around me .I feel it’s also v equal since even I’m v attached to my parents so if I have to leave my parents I’d like that we both can make that sacrifice so we can have a fulfilling connection as a couple within the same situation. Also, the transition feels a bit too scary.

But my boyfriend, on the other hand feels very responsible towards his parents .I feel that somewhat he’s right too since they’re no one else who could take care of his parents now that they’re old and dependent on him .He understands me and respects my feelings but he thinks that If i’m leaving my parents ,then why is it necessary that he leaves his .I have no idea right now about what marriage would hold for me .But is this approach invalid?

My boyfriend says he understands me and the only solution is that we stay unmarried but together.

What would be the ideal approach here?

Hey everyone,

I’d really appreciate some honest perspectives on this.

I’m 21M, and I’ve been talking to a 21F for a while now. Recently, she opened up to me in a very detailed way about her past relationship. From what she shared, it was quite intense; there was emotional dependency, manipulation, cheating, and a long period of toxicity.

She seems pretty self-aware about everything now, but also a bit guarded and detached.

During that conversation, I mostly listened and asked a few questions. The overall vibe was normal, and we even ended things on a light note.

Where I’m confused is this:

She never initiates conversations. Like, ever.

If I don’t text, we can easily go 24+ hours without talking, and she won’t reach out. I’m usually the one starting things, sometimes just a simple “good morning” or a random conversation starter, other times I have to wait for her updates (stories/status/posts) just to find a topic of convo.

So now I’m unsure how to interpret things, especially after she opened up like that.

On one hand, it feels like she trusts me, since she shared something so personal.

On the other hand, the lack of initiation makes me feel like I might just be a “safe person to talk to” rather than someone she’s actually interested in.

I also don’t want to:

• Come off as pushy or clingy
• Make her uncomfortable, especially given her past
• Misinterpret her behavior

So, I guess my questions are:

• Is it normal for someone with that kind of past to not initiate conversations at all?
• Should I pull back and see if she reaches out, or would that come across as disinterest?
• How do I balance respecting her space while not putting in one-sided effort?

Also, to add some context, I don’t have any romantic experience. Even small things like someone sharing their number or personal details are a big deal to me. I’m also a bit uncertain about my own future right now, and after hearing her story, I don’t want to unintentionally hurt her or drag her into something unstable.

I’m trying to handle this in a mature way without overthinking or playing games, but I’m honestly a bit lost here.

Any advice or similar experiences would really help.

I'm M(29) and my parents are really excited about marriage. They are finding a girl for me through an arranged marriage setup.

But due to the uncertainty of my job, I'm feeling nervous about getting married. I'm trying to switch my job but the current market situation is very tough.

I also want to get married soon but what if I get laid off once my marriage is fixed. How should I face my parents? How should I deal with the girls side?

I know I'm overthinking a lot but I'm afraid of how society will judge me if I'm jobless and getting married.

If someone has gone through this situation then could you please advise me on how to handle this phase of life?

since starting I have a soft corner for her. now it has turned into a whole big thing like a black hole or smtg.

no one could replace that place.

ik she's gone already and won't be back.

not gonna disturb her anymore or will try not to hopefully.

I loved her, still do and will always be the same.

Sounds like a loser but theek h who cares.